Lobouspo Posted December 28, 2017 Share Posted December 28, 2017 So yesterday I get off work and I call my GF at about 5:20. She picks up and says she can't talk because she's getting a new phone. She ends up by calling me at 6:45 says she's at home talks about new phone etc. Now where I live, this time of year the sun sets about 5:05-5:10. Later that night she posts a pic of herself on WhatsApp at Verizon buying her new phone. In the background it is very sunny, luminating throughout the store. Makes me wonder if she was really buying a phone at the time I called when I got off work. How do you think I should deal with this? Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett.O'hara Posted December 28, 2017 Share Posted December 28, 2017 I don't see why you are questioning the time and the position of the sun in a photo. That strikes me as being completely paranoid. Why should it matter? Even if it was just an excuse to get you off the phone while she out shopping, what is the big deal? Is there some other reason you have trust issues in your relationship that make you feel insecure? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett.O'hara Posted December 28, 2017 Share Posted December 28, 2017 I just looked back on your previous post. Now I get it. It doesn't really change how I would approach it though. All you will do by bringing it up is make her defensive and angry at you. If you don't trust her anymore or feel secure in your relationship, why stay with her? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lobouspo Posted December 28, 2017 Author Share Posted December 28, 2017 I appreciate your blunt honesty SO. I really do, but is honesty too much to ask for in a relationship? I sure hope you're right. As I posted this I just got text from her saying how much she loved me. I hope it's not a guilt text...lol Link to post Share on other sites
LilySun Posted December 28, 2017 Share Posted December 28, 2017 You might be reading into this a bit much. Is there a history of any other odd behavior? Reasons you don't trust her? I am usually at phone store a good couple hours when buying a new phone. Maybe it was light out when she got there and the sunset before she left. Maybe after the phone she ran another errand before getting home to call you. Ask her if you want but she might feel like you are micro-managing her if you do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Scarlett.O'hara Posted December 28, 2017 Share Posted December 28, 2017 I appreciate your blunt honesty SO. I really do, but is honesty too much to ask for in a relationship? I sure hope you're right. As I posted this I just got text from her saying how much she loved me. I hope it's not a guilt text...lol Of course not it isn't too much to ask! However, in a healthy relationship these sorts of things should not be a big issue. You wouldn't be looking for a problem to begin with because you would feel secure. Right now you are looking for it. Even in your last line you are questioning her motives for sending an "I love you" text. It's so sad that you feel this way because a good relationship shouldn't make you feel this way. I'm not sure if her behavior is cause of your insecurity, or whether your insecurity is causing her behavior. Although I do suspect that your instincts might be screaming at you for a reason, I can't be sure. Obviously you care about her a lot, but if you find this relationship is bringing you down to much, then you might have to consider walking away for your own sanity. Link to post Share on other sites
Begoz Posted December 28, 2017 Share Posted December 28, 2017 I don't think there is enough reason to distrust what she said. She could have been purchasing tge phone way before 5:00 but was still at the place 5:20, depending on how she was being serviced. Maybe she was looking at what she wanted. I don't think she was lying. It takes women longer to shop. Can you answer mine? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/647142-weird-love-triangle Link to post Share on other sites
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