Want another chance with the ex.

[Mr.P]

Well me and my gf have been apart for 5 weeks, she split up with me and 6 days later she got with someone else which tore me apart. I couldn't help but blame myself for it though, we had only just got back together after a previous break up, the reasons for which I'm still not aware of.

 

Anyway, I was playing the whole NC thing but once a week or once a fortnight she would txt me late at night apologising for the whole thing. She has told me she can't see it working with her new bf, but she is going to try and make it work, and that the break up was not my fault.

 

I reluctantly agreed to go for lunch with her on Thursday (she really wants to be friends but I refused whilst she has new bf, he is a t***). I was surprised at how close she was and we spent a few hours together. She thanked me by txt that night, she needed a shoulder.

 

I sent her a txt today asking if she still loved me as everything she did suggested that she did, she has replied with "I dunno, I've been thinking about it too, but I'm not sure of the answer, do you?".

 

Now I know I've probably shot myself in the foot here by basically saying Yes cos her reply was that I can do the sweetest things when I'm not dating someone. And that I should tell the next girl I fall for how I feel.

 

She's suggested I go find someone else before and we got back together, so in the back of my mind I'm seeing this as a good sign lol. It was suggested on here somewhere that girls often say that when they're being pursued by their ex, just to see how interested they really are. But it could all be the exact opposite (probably).

 

Anyhoo, anyone have advice on how to take this further ?? She has given signs and basically told me she still loves me, but she has a bf. Where do I go from here ??

 

TIA

[J dub]

Originally posted by Mr.P

her reply was that I can do the sweetest things when I'm not dating someone. And that I should tell the next girl I fall for how I feel.

 

You werent giving her what she needed while you dated, and she sought it out elsewhere (hence her hookin up with someone 6 days later). This comment she made simply means she thinks you should do this for someone because it was the mistake you made with her (not telling her how you felt).

 

She is with someone else now, you need to move on. Unless she is single and asking for you to come back, you need to enforce NC or this is going to be a long-winded, agonizing fall.