Boring Marriage

[Happy Lemming]

If a partner said "You're not allowed to do this thing you like for thirty days!" for no reason, I'd be irritated regardless of any 'addiction'. It's rude and treating a partner like a naughty child. Even a child would generally need to have disobeyed before you grounded them like that.

 

I mean, it's one thing to ask a partner to stop playing games for a while and do something with you instead, but to just randomly tell them "You're not allowed to do anything you like!" is mean.

 

Adults make sacrifices for the good of their family. This gentleman is a husband and a father. His wife states the time he devotes to video games is a problem for her. That's a pretty good reason for a 30 day hiatus.

 

My suggestion would merely confirm if these video games are a true addiction or a hobby that consumes a little too much time.

 

I would offer the same recommendation if the wife stated he drank a 12 pack of beer every night.

 

My suggestion was merely a gauge to determine if a true addiction existed or not and if he could actually stop playing the games.

 

Maybe with some research they could find a hobby/activity they both enjoy and can do together for 30 days.

 

I really don't think it will be detrimental to the husband's well being to put down his wittle ray gun and stop shooting space aliens and zombies for 30 days & pay attention to his wife.

 

And as I stated in my earlier post, just my two cents.

[Els]

Here is an idea... Challenge your husband to go 30 days without playing video games. Based on the results, you should have a pretty good idea if he is addicted and how bad the addiction is.

 

In addition to other suggestions previously posted, my girlfriend and I trade books back and forth and have our own little book club.

 

We also play "Scrabble", although we bend the rules a little bit, trade letters, help each other out, etc. We don't care who wins or loses, we just try to use all of the letters. My girlfriend used to be an English teacher, so I feel my vocabulary expands each time we play.

 

Just my two cents... best of luck!

 

Come on, we already know how this will go. Dude can't even put them down for a weekend, much less 30 days.

 

The issue with addictions is that the addict themselves must genuinely have the motivation to change (preferably with the help of a professional). A partner putting down "rules" like that isn't going to help and will only breed conflict and resentment in their relationship.