CautiouslyOptimistic Posted January 8, 2018 Share Posted January 8, 2018 Ok, BAD IDEA. Forget this. I can admit I am wrong about this. Back to the drawing board. Ha! How about a heavy metal concert? In another thread that happened this weekend, someone casually mentioned that heavy metal concerts are 90% men! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 8, 2018 Share Posted January 8, 2018 Find something you enjoy doing and go with that. You are bound to find some men there. Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted January 8, 2018 Share Posted January 8, 2018 Ok, BAD IDEA. Forget this. I can admit I am wrong about this. Back to the drawing board. For what it's worth, I think it's a cute idea. I would just go about it a different way. Link to post Share on other sites
aussietigerwolf Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 I've met a guy through a game but it was just chance that he joined my horde guild. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author mortensorchid Posted January 11, 2018 Author Share Posted January 11, 2018 I used to go see rock bands all the time in my twenties and thirties. I can tell you that you will NOT meet a good person at these events. You may meet friends, that's fine, but not someone you want to have a relationship with. They are on the edge of the world, are not happy with themselves, and will not treat you right as a woman. Let alone guys who are in bands - they are egotistical, have women all over them, know it, and know they can attract one just as easily as they can drop one. They grow up eventually (or I hope they do), and realize this is not how you can live. At least, I hope they do. But this is not where you want to meet someone to have a romantic relationship with. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 I've met a guy through a game but it was just chance that he joined my horde guild. A friend of mine actually met her husband via a WoW dungeon, lol! This was back in the old BC days where dungeons were hard, you had to find your own group, and then usually communicate via a voice program like Ventrilo if you wanted a decent chance of success. So he heard her on voice... and the rest, as they say, is history. I didn't meet the SO through WoW, but through a LAN game that a lot of people in my college played together IRL after class. Playing WoW together did help us through the subsequent 2 years of long distance after he had to leave, though. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CptInsano Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 I didn't meet the SO through WoW, but through a LAN game that a lot of people in my college played together IRL after class. Playing WoW together did help us through the subsequent 2 years of long distance after he had to leave, though. I used to know a retiree who played a lot of WoW. She said that young men were hitting on her quite often. ("No dear, that's sixTY not sixTEEN.") 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 I used to know a retiree who played a lot of WoW. She said that young men were hitting on her quite often. ("No dear, that's sixTY not sixTEEN.") I'm not old enough to have that "problem", but I once found out that a fellow gamer who was a minor and who was 10 years younger than me was sneaking on the internet to talk to me at times when he wasn't supposed to be doing that. And yes, they knew my age (AND my relationship status)! I got really creeped out and cut down on conversation with him a whole lot after that. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 I used to go see rock bands all the time in my twenties and thirties. I can tell you that you will NOT meet a good person at these events. You may meet friends, that's fine, but not someone you want to have a relationship with. They are on the edge of the world, are not happy with themselves, and will not treat you right as a woman. Let alone guys who are in bands - they are egotistical, have women all over them, know it, and know they can attract one just as easily as they can drop one. They grow up eventually (or I hope they do), and realize this is not how you can live. At least, I hope they do. But this is not where you want to meet someone to have a romantic relationship with. That's literally where I met everybody I still care about today. I guess it only works if you're one of them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 I guess it only works if you're one of them. This pretty much applies to every hobby/passion/community in the world. That's why it's so pointless to "suggest hobbies to meet a partner with". Because it depends so much on the individual. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 She can try it out. If she doesn't like it, no big deal. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 And I can tell you that I have been to many rock concerts and my GF says I treat her like a princess. One of my best, in fact, my very oldest friend used to hit the concerts with me all the time back in the day, and he is the absolute nicest guy I know. Plenty of good people can be found just about everywhere. I think your problem in dating, something that becomes more and more apparent with each consecutive post, is your bitterness and negativity. Men, they only want to date trashy idiots. Gamers, they're all a bunch of socially inept people. Guys that go to rock concerts, horrible boyfriends. That is the theme that keeps popping up in your threads. Your disdain for huge swaths of people. People will sense that and just keep their distance from you. Maybe you have it in you to be a great partner, but no one will stick around to find out once that negativity shows up. Exactly. Nothing turns a men off more than bitterness because we know that eventually it will get turned on us. Women who have a hateful attitude towards men never just make most men want to run except for masochists. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BarbedFenceRider Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 I am just going to mention that there are gaming "groupies" if you will. You don't want to be one of those types....Ex pornstars, video girls, and other narcissistic types usually troll guys in games. Very gross. Blech! Link to post Share on other sites
Cookiesandough Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 (edited) I think with the way I gamed back when I played MMORPGS...I was not friendly. If you're a female or even a female toon guys will be super friendly/flirtly and they will give you a bunch of gear. But I just took the gear and said thanks xD I am very competitive when gaming and except for my guildies and occasional grouping, I mostly duo'ed with my friend and or I farmed money by powerleveling people. The rest of the time I kept to myself. I wasn't really even much into my guild, I only went to raids and rolled for stuff. As for meeting guys at shows, I think that's not a bad idea. Shows are kind of social thing with people right there with you and you have common taste in music. Edited January 12, 2018 by Cookiesandough 1 Link to post Share on other sites
bluefeather Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 I used to go see rock bands all the time in my twenties and thirties. I can tell you that you will NOT meet a good person at these events. You may meet friends, that's fine, but not someone you want to have a relationship with. They are on the edge of the world, are not happy with themselves, and will not treat you right as a woman. Let alone guys who are in bands - they are egotistical, have women all over them, know it, and know they can attract one just as easily as they can drop one. They grow up eventually (or I hope they do), and realize this is not how you can live. At least, I hope they do. But this is not where you want to meet someone to have a romantic relationship with. You just dropped 2 more stereotypes - one of people who attend concerts, and one of people in bands. How do you expect to find anyone, being so judgemental? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 This pretty much applies to every hobby/passion/community in the world. That's why it's so pointless to "suggest hobbies to meet a partner with". Because it depends so much on the individual. Right, but if they tried a hobby, they might end up loving it and being a regular part of it with repeated contact with other enthusiasts, and that's the point. There really is no answer for those people who have no interests that don't involve staying at home. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 Exactly. Nothing turns a men off more than bitterness because we know that eventually it will get turned on us. Women who have a hateful attitude towards men never just make most men want to run except for masochists. It's no coincidence that most women start off not bitter, then date men, then get bitter. Just sayin'. Same can be said for a lot of men, but I truly believe women overall try harder not to hurt people. There's just nothing they can do about the ones that want her but she doesn't want back, and that seems to be the biggest pool of bitter men. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 12, 2018 Share Posted January 12, 2018 It's no coincidence that most women start off not bitter, then date men, then get bitter. Just sayin'. Same can be said for a lot of men, but I truly believe women overall try harder not to hurt people. There's just nothing they can do about the ones that want her but she doesn't want back, and that seems to be the biggest pool of bitter men. Plenty people are bitter because of their experiences but nobody is under any obligation to absorb that bitterness when they did nothing to cause it. It goes both ways. No woman is obligated to walk on eggshells around a man just because his ex did him wrong the same way no man should walk on them. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 13, 2018 Share Posted January 13, 2018 You know, coincidentally, just a couple of hours ago I saw a tweeted article from Psychology Today saying that getting your heartbroken actually has a physical effect on your brain, in the same areas that are activated when an addict is trying to get off addictive drugs. So real changes happen to your brain with heartbreak. You can't really expect people to just get over it, because really, most people are simply not the same after the first time their heart is broken. For most people, this is a landmark in their lives. The best that can come out of it is learning something so you can avoid a certain type in the future, but the damage is done. The trust is gone, the faith is gone. After that, it has to be earned. After that people don't automatically get the benefit of the doubt because what happens if it's a really big hurt or betrayal is not even so much that you can't trust someone else not to do it again, but more impactful is that you realize you can't trust yourself to see it coming, can't trust yourself to pick a person who won't hurt you. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted January 13, 2018 Share Posted January 13, 2018 It's all in good fun, as long as no one takes it too seriously. Just came across this in an article I'll post elsewhere, but it's interesting. Also from Psychology Today, but completely paraphrased: A study found that females playing (mostly male) video games were more likely to be harassed by males who weren't doing well in the game, which they say suggests insecurity caused the abuse. Of course, we used to just call that "sore loser," right? Link to post Share on other sites
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