igotoverit Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 That's what I am doing nowadays focusing on myself and on my career. But you didn't get my question sir. Why after break up he is telling me anything . We have broken up before 3 months. Why does he even care? haha, I am not a sir. I am a 35 year old female and I could never answer that. I don't know his side of the story and I would have to find out from him as to why he is doing this. Why the former did it to me, I don't know either and no one else can know. I have asked him and he didn't give me answer so I have to walk away unknowing. You could ask him and be honest about how you feel. You can also tell him that you need the time to move on and he is giving you mixed signals. I can't tell you what he's doing because I don't know. I can just tell you that some of the things we do to torture ourself over others is brutally painful. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Beachead Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 (edited) Here I am again needs some insight why is he doing like that. Is is telling truth or using trick to check my mental status. He's continuously liking my tweets and today he asked my friend to convey his message to me that he is going to be deployed in dangerous area and it is not sure that he'll come alive or not (P.s: He's an army personal). He is sorry what has happened and I am an amazing woman, he respects me etc etc. Why did he tell all this to my friend or it's nothing, i am just overthinking? @beachead He ended it and now that time is passing by and you two haven't been speaking, he's starting to feel the reality of breaking up. So most likely, he momentarily had weak thoughts and needed to soothe his conscious/guilt/doubt. If not that, then like you said, it was to assess your mental state and maybe some kind of subconscious/conscious attempt to get you fixated on him knowing that your vulnerable right now. Perhaps a bit of everything. Whatever the reason is, it's self-serving and doesn't have your best interests at heart. A genuine act of care would be to follow through with his reasons for breaking up and leave you be to grieve an heal or to come straight to you and tell you that he made a mistake and wishes to be with you. Keep your eye on the one fact that you know for sure which is he ended it with you. That's all you need to know. If he wanted to be with you, he'd be with you. He wouldn't be passing messages to your friend. You wouldn't be on Loveshack confused, pulling hair out, trying to figure him out because he would not leave doubt in your mind about how he feels. He would not have broken up with you. None of this would have happened. Don't allow yourself to get baited. Edited January 11, 2018 by Beachead 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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