what do you do when you realize you'll be single forever??

[ZA Dater]

Check out Holly Butcher on Facebook (or Google). Young lady (age 27) who recently lost her battle to cancer. She wrote a poignant letter on Facebook, and in it she mentions of growing old and wanting a family.

 

So yeah, some of us are growing older and single and time is passing, but make the most of it you can, your life is your own story to tell.

 

 

 

That letter is a fantastic piece of writing and should be read by every person able to read.

 

 

I think you need to steer towards things from which you derive happiness, wallowing in pity doesn't really serve much purpose, nor does dating people who don't excite you.

[todreaminblue]

what makes it ok to be single....is when i first introduce myself to someone new i dont ever feel i have to say .....hi my name is deb and im single.....its not an infirmity to be single...its not contagious......nor is it the sum of who i am...if anyone asks are you married or single ...

 

 

ill answer im single...ill go to single events..if they have really good music or uplifting ideals...i go to church single activities soemtimes....i liek th epeeps that go...... but why im really ok with it...is because i can trust god ...if the guy is out there for me to be with...he will trip over me eventually..or ill stumble into him.....im a bit accident prone...theres a match for me somewhere on this glorious green earth..more than one actually......until then...im ok.....and so is being single.with accident pronitus.......deb

[Mysterio]

I have no problem going out single. I go to lots of places by myself and I don't feel strange about it.

 

Being single to me is about ultimate freedom and you don't have to compromise anything.

 

I have lots of family/friends that I can do things with as well. The only thing I don't like about being single is a lack of physical affection.

[Cookiesandough]

Begin your cat collection. Personally, I like to begin with something like an American Shorthair and then work my way up to something like a Maine Coon because it can be a little hard getting all the knots out their fur.

[amaysngrace]

As soon as you are okay being alone they'll come sniffing around to mess that all up

[Mysterio]

What I don't get about our love lives is the bleekness of it. Its like no matter what. Life sort of does not want us to control our love lives. We keep hearing people say it will happen when it does. We go about our lives and we feel like we are still waiting on it.

 

Then we have others saying we have to seize the day mentality and make it happen.

 

For me. I am not a playboy. I really don't want to go out with lots of women. I just don't find it that interesting to me, unless there is sort of some romantic vibe between us. I have women friends to do things with, so its not like I need more women friends.

 

My parents met in summer of 1968 and married in Winter of 1969. I can't imagine meeting a woman and within a yr marrying her and then kids in yr 2 and 5 of being together.

 

Perhaps we are living in different times. I don't think I will be single forever. Its just that for some reason. Why a lot of us find it hard to connect is puzzling. Should it really be that hard. I could see when your younger, but when you get into your late 30's +. I think it should be easy.

[Popsicle]

Dedicate yourself to animals.

 

I watch a lot of "Hope for paws" videos and might volunteer to work for them.

 

Oh, and enjoy it when you have big crushes....

[Mysterio]

I don't think I have a problem being single. Its the dating part and asking out and trying to figure out how we connect, that is baffling to me.

 

One thing I am noticing about life when it comes to romance. Its like making an effort in this area of our lives, is not working for a lot of us.

 

I just started Intermitten Fasting and I am actually seeing results. When it comes to our love lives. I think letting go is the answer. I had a reading over the net a couple of months ago and the psychic, was dead on about what I wanted. They basically said that I should throw a way a timeline for dating and it will come in its own time. Not I have to go out there and make it happen.

 

Also, when I think of all my ex's. A romantic spark never happened with strangers. Always a woman that I was aquinted with for a while. So for me that going to come from Work at the Hospital, The YMCA. When ever it happens.

[tasev1]

I've been going through the same thing recently. Despite all the education and skills I have learned these past few years, it has all culminated to a high level of depression for me. As such, I have retreated back to virtually my old self - just keeping myself busy, mind off women, enjoying my hobbies, and accepting I'll never find someone.

 

This happiness is the easy way, but not very healthy. I'll never get anywhere in life, and unless I go out, I'll never meet anyone either. I've gone from amazing in social situations right back to my old shy introverted ways. No matter how much you think you've changed, you really are the same person you always have been - and you're really putting on a face. I seem to have trouble with emotional connections - this is evidenced by how i feel about my friends, or how I feel in the year since I lost my mom. Any deep emotion I have ever felt has been self-centered.

 

"doing things for you" is great....but doesn't help if it doesn't put you in others' presence.

[Mysterio]

Tasey. Sorry for the loss of your Mom. RIP. Mama Tasey.