viatori patuit Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 I have been thinking a fair bit about deal breakers. It got me to thinking, I wonder what others see as a deal breaker. Particularly the more rare deal breakers. Personally mine are pretty boring. I have one that might be uniquish. I don’t date people who maintain contact with ex flings/boyfriends/romantic interests. Ex husbands are ok if it is just about kids. So, any other interesting deal breakers out there? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SevenCity Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 Nose rings. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Highndry Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 Cheating, lying, child and animal abuse, drug use and abuse, smoking for starters... 4 Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 Talks to ex's has orbiters. gets drunk a lot. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lamartine Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 Unkind Controlling Narcissistic Refuses to make any effort to make me happy despite my efforts to make him happy Inability to compromise Liar Unable to take responsibility for his own mistakes and learn from them 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Interstellar Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 Smokes. Having those exes in the background, just hovering around her social media, texts, etc...and canceling dates. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lamartine Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 I also agree with the people who find lingering exes to be a deal breaker. I completely agree. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JimmyNYC Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 My dealbreakers: No kids No pets (I'm allergic). Got to have a decent job. no gold diggers no high maintenance women. no women who are not over an ex no women who expect the guy to pay every time no women looking for "travel partners" Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 No cheaters No manhaters or misandrists They have to have a sense of accountability and personal responsibility 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lamartine Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 I'm transitioning careers and going back to graduate school in the fall. I live very comfortably on investment income. I look forward to beginning my new career. Would those of you who mentioned jobs find my situation a deal breaker? I have a plan and am independently wealthy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Interstellar Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 (edited) I'm transitioning careers and going back to graduate school in the fall. I live very comfortably on investment income. I look forward to beginning my new career. Would those of you who mentioned jobs find my situation a deal breaker? I have a plan and am independently wealthy. Guys don’t care about your financial statement only if you’re good looking and dress well. Tight jeans and pumps that’s what gets us. Edited January 16, 2018 by Interstellar 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lamartine Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 Guys don’t care about your financial statement only if you’re good looking and dress well. Tight jeans and pumps that’s what get us. Well, I can certainly deliver tight jeans and pumps. So, basically, if a woman is hot, her financial situation doesn't matter, but if she is plain, she better bring in some serious income? I'm not judging. I'm jut curious and interested. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
divegrl Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 Avoidant personality 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Interstellar Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 Well, I can certainly deliver tight jeans and pumps. So, basically, if a woman is hot, her financial situation doesn't matter, but if she is plain, she better bring in some serious income? I'm not judging. I'm jut curious and interested. Sounds great Okay, if she’s hot she has to have some type of job or income or can support herself one way or another but it would be maybe third or fourth on the list. It’s not a priority. Basically as long as she doesn’t just sit around all day. If she’s plain it’s still the same thing. It’s still third or fourth on the list. No, It doesn’t have to be serious income. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 a girl who doesn't wear heels or has bad feet/legs Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 (edited) cross dressing, drug use drinker prefer non smoker .....so i dont get tempted to take it up because i am quitting tomorrow ...i really am my mum gave up today and i promised her if sh did would too abuse of any type towards anything or anybody even inanimate objects like walls for instance.....cannot abuse walls or throw toilets around.... prefer a guy who wont talk to walls instead of me.....so able to communicate must be willing to love my animals past and present and future must be willing to love my kids as much as the animals.... mean to wait staff and checkout chicks or guys...... mean to family members mine and or his mean to me deceitful in any aspect picks his nose and eats it.....would not kiss him ever.... pushing me under the blanket and farting.......well might not be a deal breaker...but i would break something of his like his legs..... effeminate...im the female... cannot not believe in god or allow me to be me...and follow my heart in regards to my faith any sort of degrading my church ....is out....non negotiable.....respect not shown then its a deal breaker......deb Edited January 16, 2018 by todreaminblue Link to post Share on other sites
hippychick3 Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 Dealbreakers: History of cheating Lack of punctuality Habitual smoker or drug user Poor treatment of waitstaff/servers Lack of integrity No relationship with family Controlling behavior Poor hygiene Wandering eyes 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SpinScratch Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 Kids Bitchy Smokes Drinks regularly Not financially independent Defensive about personal questions Talks to exes No hobbies or passions Wont tolerate psychedelic usage Link to post Share on other sites
Interstellar Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 cross dressing, picks his nose and eats it.....would not kiss him ever.... pushing me under the blanket and farting.......well might not be a deal breaker. Really? Some guys do this? Smh. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
lovephule Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 Cosplay, for sure. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
hercules22 Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 (edited) dealbreakers for me would be - girls not over their ex - girls who multiple date but end up picking some other guy then down the road try to reconcile with u cause it didn't work out for them picking the other dude hate feeling like 2nd best - girls with kids i dont want to be someone stepfather or be involved with her ex partner in some way - cheaters - distance would be another one i wouldn't want to date someone who lives over 1 hour away Edited January 16, 2018 by hercules22 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 (edited) Really? Some guys do this? Smh. yes they do ........i have in the past had to say goodbye to guys for the reasons i stated ...i just couldnt go ahead with dating them..... i don't see how they are hard to imagine.....i guess im lucky i found out early.....there's a name for passing wind under the blanket and then smothering a person in fart by holding the blanket over their head.........ahhh now i remember...dutch oven.......i wonder why they say dutch...are dutch gassy......i didnt break his legs wanted too...its disgusting........it did however make me appreciate the smell of clean air....... and as far as picking noses and eating it a lot of people do it...i just cant stomach it.....i once was told about a boy who would wind spiderwebs around his finger so it made a spiderweb donut..... and then he would eat it, another boy(these guys were teenage boys) who would eat his scabs.....retch.... those things that are just thoughts didnt witness the spiderweb eater .....or the scab eater..... make me gag......gaggin now...those would be deal breakers for me too..... my deal breakers are pretty horrid... but then again i fed a serial cheating bf pal dogfood(with marrowbone added) meatloaf with slow roasted vegetables and a mustard reduction.....i should be more forgiving......deb Edited January 16, 2018 by todreaminblue Link to post Share on other sites
GoreSP Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 I can deal with exes under certain conditions. (Though lately my tolerance of lingering exes has gone below zero lol) Other than the usual (racism, sexism ect) I’d say allergies to cats and or dogs as I have one of noth. Nut/Peannut allergies Doesn’t have some kind of regular physical activity. Wants to go out and drink every weekend. Smoking Drugs Link to post Share on other sites
Sbla22 Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 I am a 26 year old male and now after a few years of dating, 3 relationships later my definite deal breakers are: No smoking No tatoos (a very small one on an ankle or something then maybe) No contact whatsoever with an ex - not falling for that one ever again. Someone who matches my texting preferences. Not constant texting but certainly texting that shows interest or flirtation. Someone who takes hours to respond when not very busy or responds with minimal wording/no questions make me bored or put off now. Someone who has been educated to degree level. This may be controversial but I see loads of girls on POF for example who have not been to higher education and are content to work in a shop. Often these girls' messages are shocking - no grammar, text speak etc. I consider myself to be fairly academic so I wouldn't be compatible with someone who isn't very. Someone who shows the same amount of interest in me as I do them and makes time for me. Link to post Share on other sites
MaleIntuition Posted January 16, 2018 Share Posted January 16, 2018 She kind of has to enjoy, or be open to learning how to enjoy, downhill skiing or snowboarding. Also I can’t get rid of that romantic fantasy about a cold winter night, a tent and nobody else within 5 miles... Link to post Share on other sites
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