Jklen Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 When we chat my gf and I, I send her links sometimes, and many times she just doesnt check them. When I compare the situation to mine, I do check her links and give them importance. When I send her stuff (video links, articles, quiz etc..) sometimes she ignores and later continue the conversation, I ask her why didnt you check wtv I sent you and her answer is she is busy and she'll check them later. Then later (the next day or so) I ask again then she either check them bcz i asked twice or sometimes she ingores them too. I don't wana be pushy, clearly it doesnt interrest her, but again, many of the links she sends me do not interest me neither but i check them for her. And if I happen to be busy , I'll mention that i cant check this now and will do later, not ignore it. That's just one small example of what I sometimes get mad about, it's her lack of empathy and not putting her self in my shoes. If she does she will see that if I act the way she does towards her she won't be happy. I know it because I tried it couple of times on purpose. Does this mean I am more emotional and she isn't ? does it mean I care more and she care less? Does it mean she values her self and time more than me? I just want to understand the core reason behind this recurring behavior even after discussing it with her several times. It's just how she is and I want to understand her. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 She doesn't like your links so why do you keep on sending them? I don't understand your behavior either. Your girlfriend has little respect for you, we've established that already in your last thread. She loves herself first. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 It means she's not interested in the link. Especially if you are sending her "junk" like cute pictures of puppies or some other drivel it's not that impotent to her. It doesn't mean you are not important to her. Since she won't look, stop sending her the stuff. Half the time my husband does not click on links I send him to his boarding pass / ticket for the airline when we go on vacation. I just learned to print him a paper copy & hand it to him or download both onto my phone. I don't view it as a negative referendum on our marriage. Some people also don't click links because they are afraid of viruses. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jklen Posted January 22, 2018 Author Share Posted January 22, 2018 It means she's not interested in the link. Especially if you are sending her "junk" like cute pictures of puppies or some other drivel it's not that impotent to her. It doesn't mean you are not important to her. Since she won't look, stop sending her the stuff. Half the time my husband does not click on links I send him to his boarding pass / ticket for the airline when we go on vacation. I just learned to print him a paper copy & hand it to him or download both onto my phone. I don't view it as a negative referendum on our marriage. Some people also don't click links because they are afraid of viruses. She could be honnest about it and say that, and no not sending puppies posts, sometimes work related stuff. Otherwise that was just an example of the behaviour. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jklen Posted January 22, 2018 Author Share Posted January 22, 2018 She doesn't like your links so why do you keep on sending them? I don't understand your behavior either. Your girlfriend has little respect for you, we've established that already in your last thread. She loves herself first. She never said she doesnt like them that’s the thing.also It’s not wrong that she loves her self first. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 She probably doesn't want to hurt your feelings so not looking is the path of least resistance. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 She never said she doesnt like them that’s the thing.also It’s not wrong that she loves her self first. You can come to the conclusion she doesn't like them on your own. In your last thread you were not so crazy about the fact she is full of herself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jklen Posted January 22, 2018 Author Share Posted January 22, 2018 She probably doesn't want to hurt your feelings so not looking is the path of least resistance. Totally agree, but if i do the same she gets upset but doesnt say it, she’s the type of girl that doesnt like to look vurnerable, so if i did something that made her hurt, she won’t tell me but start either ignoring or letting go... Thats why I make sure i check all then links when many do not personally interrest me. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted January 22, 2018 Share Posted January 22, 2018 Thats why I make sure i check all then links when many do not personally interrest me. This makes about as much sense as assessing the quality of your relationship based on the number of FB "likes" she gives you. It's all just digital dust, bits and bytes that have nothing to do with real life. Judge her based on your in-person interactions and tell your virtual self to calm down... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
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