alphamale Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 Well here goes. It took me a while to put this top ten list together and it is not all inclusive by any means. If you follow these guidelines you'll be able to create attraction in women and also to keep them around long-term. It took me a long long time to learn this stuff so I though I would share. I am sure there will be much criticism but bring it on, I say . Here's the list: -be funny, generous, arrogant, sensitive, happy, assertive and a jerk all rolled up in one -be nice and respectful when she treats you well -be mean and nasty when she does not treat you well -don't be there all the time for her and don't do everything she wants -make her the center of your life when you are with her and be independent and have your -own interests when you are not with her -make sure she knows you can exist fine without her in your life -be the leader at all times and dominate when you have to -make yourself number one but always keep her needs, wants and desires a close number two -minimize jealousy and possessiveness. strong display of both good and bad emotions should be avoided -only be friends with her in the context of a romantic relationship (this is very impt) 3 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 -be mean and nasty when she does not treat you well -be the leader at all times and dominate when you have to All in all it's a good list & many wishy washy doormat men could learn from it. However the two quoted above are a bit too much. There is never a reason to be mean or nasty. Cold & distant / aloof would be fine in that context. "dominate" bugs me. Confident would be more appropriate IMO. 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 -be funny, generous, arrogant, sensitive, happy, assertive and a jerk all rolled up in one Do you know the definition of arrogant and jerk? *Arrogant: having or revealing an exaggerated sense of one's own importance or abilities *Jerk: a contemptibly obnoxious person That's suppose to keep a woman around long-term? -be mean and nasty when she does not treat you well Yes of course because we all know treating someone nasty and being mean to them is the way to a long and prosper relationship. Why use patience and communication when you can be mean and nasty, right? 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Shanex Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 The woman who treats me poorly after a while for no reason, I dump her and move on. End of story. Otherwise not that bad a list. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 If she does not treat you well walk away. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 -only be friends with her in the context of a romantic relationship (this is very impt) Not sure what you mean by this? Mr. Lucky 3 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 Not sure what you mean by this? I understood him to mean that if alphamale has romantic designs on a woman he won't be one of those guys who stick around being some kind of orbiter / "friend" in name only while he waits possibly in vain for the woman to break up with her awful BF who treats her poorly in the hopes that she will finally see the light & realize what a great guy he has been. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 never underestimate the value of being a man who knows how to dance 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 I understood him to mean that if alphamale has romantic designs on a woman he won't be one of those guys who stick around being some kind of orbiter / "friend" in name only while he waits possibly in vain for the woman to break up with her awful BF who treats her poorly in the hopes that she will finally see the light & realize what a great guy he has been. Makes sense. I'd actually read it as not being too "friendly" with someone you're romantically involved with. Seemed a strange concept... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 Curious... what is your current relationship status Alpha Male? I found several items on this list extremely cringe worthy and contrary to what I believe (and have experiences) a true loving partnership should be about. Well here goes. It took me a while to put this top ten list together and it is not all inclusive by any means. If you follow these guidelines you'll be able to create attraction in women and also to keep them around long-term. It took me a long long time to learn this stuff so I though I would share. I am sure there will be much criticism but bring it on, I say . Here's the list: -be funny, generous, arrogant, sensitive, happy, assertive and a jerk all rolled up in one - Jerk?. No, I have too much respect for myself than to entertain a jerk. -be nice and respectful when she treats you well -be mean and nasty when she does not treat you well - Mean and nasty? How about communicate effectively, and better yet, conduct yourself in a way that demands respect, so that she wants to treat you well. Mean and Nasty? F' that. I am not building my life with someone who can be mean and nasty to me. -don't be there all the time for her and don't do everything she wants. We ARE there for each other all the time. He says jump, I say how high. I do the same for him. We have each others back through thick and thin. Its us against the world baby. -make her the center of your life when you are with her and be independent and have your -own interests when you are not with her. - I agree, this goes both ways. -make sure she knows you can exist fine without her in your life. The fact that we do need each other. That we are willing to be vulnerable to each other, is part of our deep commitment and love. -be the leader at all times and dominate when you have to. F' THAT. I am a big girl, and I don't need a man to lead me at all times nor "dominate me". -make yourself number one but always keep her needs, wants and desires a close number two. This goes both ways. Your woman will always keep you as #2 as well. -minimize jealousy and possessiveness. strong display of both good and bad emotions should be avoided. Again, goes both ways. -only be friends with her in the context of a romantic relationship (this is very impt). Completely and totally disagree. We are best friends in every sense, and enjoy spending time together more than with anyone else. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Jj66 Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 never underestimate the value of being a man who knows how to dance ^^^^ this. And never underestimate loyalty either. An acquaintance of mine, a woman, told me "If word ever got out that you were single they would be lined up around the block, mister. I hope you know every single woman in this place is in love with you. You should be ashamed of yourself." Why? "You are playing with their lonely hearts." Huh?? How? "By DANCING with them. By being friendly and making them laugh." But they know I'm taken and loyal to X. "Your loyalty makes them want you even more. You could go home with a lot of people here but you don't. They see that. They want to be in her place, not on the outside looking in" It was very eye opening 2 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 Do you know the definition of arrogant and jerk? *Arrogant: having or revealing an exaggerated sense of one's own importance or abilities *Jerk: a contemptibly obnoxious person That's suppose to keep a woman around long-term? Yes of course because we all know treating someone nasty and being mean to them is the way to a long and prosper relationship. Why use patience and communication when you can be mean and nasty, right? Well with all the treads and posts with the complaints from men that all the woman that date put out for the Jerk Bad Boy men and from BH's that is the type of man that their WW cheated with, how can you say that is not a successful way to act? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 (edited) Well with all the treads and posts with the complaints from men that all the woman that date put out for the Jerk Bad Boy men and from BH's that is the type of man that their WW cheated with, how can you say that is not a successful way to act? But does that really KEEP them around - Long term one at that? Or is that a good way to get an emotionally unstable woman into bed? One that you probably do not respect much, because she allows you to treat her poorly. Are there lasting, happy, healthy relationships that are built on this dynamatic? I know for me, yes, I won't respect someone who lets me treat them like a door mat, but on the converse, I have way too much respect for myself to ever entertain a jerk. To me, the part of the list I bolded, sounds like a recipe for landing a woman with daddy issues (allows him to act like a jerk, allows herself to be "led" and "dominated") Edited January 24, 2018 by RecentChange 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 I'd like to add... When you pick up a woman for a date, never show up empty-handed. Even after dating my present girlfriend for 6 years, when I pick her up on the weekend, I usually have a used book (she loves to read), flowers or even something with an opal in it. Opal jewelry is inexpensive, especially on-line or at estate sales and she loves it. It shows you were thinking about them during the week. I dated one woman, who loved flowers; so I'd stop at the grocery store on the way to pick her up and grab whatever was on sale (usually $4 - $5), or stop off at a road side flower stand. One time I found these huge sunflower type flowers, she was so excited; you would have thought I had given her the Hope Diamond. Just my two cents... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 Well with all the treads and posts with the complaints from men that all the woman that date put out for the Jerk Bad Boy men and from BH's that is the type of man that their WW cheated with, how can you say that is not a successful way to act? Ask any woman on here that is in a relationship, semi-long-term or long-term, if it's her partner's arrogance and jerkiness that kept her in that relationship. Second, you may have notice that *some* women go for the arrogant and the jerk but what does it say about those particular women? Are those really the type of woman you or OP would like to build a relationship with. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 Can't speak to the attracting part but among my social circle of males married 30-50 years that list is pretty spot on. Obviously, the dynamics may be different with women far younger. Different generation and demographics. IIRC, Alpha is in his 50's so it makes sense, to me anyway. Being successful and a leader out in the world helps. Women love that stuff. Pride. One way to discern the well-traveled path is to walk the one less traveled. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 Well with all the treads and posts with the complaints from men that all the woman that date put out for the Jerk Bad Boy men and from BH's that is the type of man that their WW cheated with, how can you say that is not a successful way to act? It depends on how you define successful. If you're after a woman who has low self esteem, then I guess it's the key to success. Mind you, this is the kind of woman who many abusers go for...which is exactly the man you and alpha were admiring in this point. Arrogant, Jerk = abuser. If you're after a woman who has integrity and self worth, you'd be setting yourself up for a massive failure. There's no way she'd settle for rubbish like that. What kind of woman do you want? Are you after a woman with low self esteem who you can abuse? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 (edited) Well here goes. It took me a while to put this top ten list together and it is not all inclusive by any means. If you follow these guidelines you'll be able to create attraction in women and also to keep them around long-term. It took me a long long time to learn this stuff so I though I would share. I am sure there will be much criticism but bring it on, I say . Here's the list: -be funny, generous, arrogant, sensitive, happy, assertive and a jerk all rolled up in one -be nice and respectful when she treats you well -be mean and nasty when [you believe] she does not treat you well -don't be there all the time for her and don't do everything she wants -make her the center of your life when you are with her and be independent and have your -own interests when you are not with her -make sure she knows you can exist fine without her in your life -be the leader at all times and dominate when you have to -make yourself number one but always keep her needs, wants and desires a close number two -minimize jealousy and possessiveness. strong display of both good and bad emotions should be avoided -only be friends with her in the context of a romantic relationship (this is very impt) This list really sums up the marriage of a well known female poster who took her kids and left her husband just before Christmas. (Haven't heard from her since then. Hope she's OK) Did he achieve marriage with a woman he wanted? Absolutely. The nice parts of him were sufficient to woo her and have her overlook the bad parts. Could he sustain marriage with her? No. She left with the kids because of the points I've bolded. Those bold points will leave him as another statistic in part time parenting. Thing is though, those same bold points will mean that he's too arrogant to see how he's contributed to this mess and learn from it. This is not success in my books. I too wonder what your own relationship status is. Do you successfully employ these recommendations and have a woman who is happy and content by your side forever after? Edited January 24, 2018 by basil67 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chilli Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 (edited) The more l read around and other forums , the more l just feel effg sorry for men out there. Wtf is going on out there ,or is it all just internet lala land . l mean we got guys going one all worried about being beta males, whatever the fk that is , we got guys calling themselves alphamale, right , really l thought that must've been some18yr old mixed up kid or joke, l thought this thread was suppose to be a joke but now it seems like it's serious, guys do l text, do l sound needy am l clingy how do l be funny how do l keep her interested how do l make exiting date oh man,guys running round with internet lists and oh she touched her hair and l should be this l'm trying to be that, this is crazy shyt wth is happening out there. It still be crazy bad enough but one thing , if we heard all the women carrying on like this too , but it always seems to be just the guys , the women seem to be just fueling the fire all over the net and sitting on thrones cracking whips. Fellas , your fathers and grand fathers would be cringing in their graves. l mean really. Edited January 24, 2018 by Chilli 3 Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 Wtf is going on out there ,or is it all just internet lala land . l mean we got guys going one all worried about being beta males, whatever the fk that is , we got guys calling themselves alphamale, right , really l thought that must've been some18yr old mixed up kid or joke, l thought this thread was suppose to be a joke but now it seems like it's serious, guys do l text, do l sound needy am l clingy how do l be funny how do l keep her interested how do l make exiting date oh man,guys running round with internet lists and oh she touched her hair and l should be this l'm trying to be that, this is crazy shyt wth is happening out there. :lmao: Oh I am with you Chilli. I have a lot of guy friends, some single and dating, some in relationships, a few are married. And all of this... hand wringing and Alpha male talk is totally foreign to me when it comes to my interactions out there in the real world - what I see among my social circle (which I admit, includes mostly extroverts). I don't know if its that these things exist mostly on the internet, or that on the internet, we are seeing many people who spend too much time behind a key board, and not enough time OUT THERE interacting in person with other humans. Getting out of their damn head, and all of their anxieties, and over thinking. I wonder if with the rise of the internet, we are seeing a fall in social skills. SO MANY dating problems I see talked about on this site could be cured with proper social and communication skills. Something I think more people had when they TALKED to people, rather than typed behind a key board. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 I'd like to add... When you pick up a woman for a date, never show up empty-handed. Even after dating my present girlfriend for 6 years, when I pick her up on the weekend, I usually have a used book (she loves to read), flowers or even something with an opal in it. Opal jewelry is inexpensive, especially on-line or at estate sales and she loves it. It shows you were thinking about them during the week. I dated one woman, who loved flowers; so I'd stop at the grocery store on the way to pick her up and grab whatever was on sale (usually $4 - $5), or stop off at a road side flower stand. One time I found these huge sunflower type flowers, she was so excited; you would have thought I had given her the Hope Diamond. Just my two cents... lovely.....thats all...just lovely...especially the sunflowers....deb 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 The more l read around and other forums , the more l just feel effg sorry for men out there. Wtf is going on out there ,or is it all just internet lala land . l mean we got guys going one all worried about being beta males, whatever the fk that is , we got guys calling themselves alphamale, right , really l thought that must've been some18yr old mixed up kid or joke, l thought this thread was suppose to be a joke but now it seems like it's serious, guys do l text, do l sound needy am l clingy how do l be funny how do l keep her interested how do l make exiting date oh man,guys running round with internet lists and oh she touched her hair and l should be this l'm trying to be that, this is crazy shyt wth is happening out there. I think that the vast majority of guys have got this stuff sorted out. It's just that when there are forums, those who do have questions or insecurities come out of the woodwork. Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 be thoughtful be yourself be respectful always....the woman who ready for a long lasting committted relationship will love you for respecting her....respect her body her mind her heart... be kind...not only to her bu tall the people you meet .....always dotn form harsh judgments on people or her...... love her family even though they drive yo umad at times...remember your own ...they do that anyway too.... treat her how you want to be treated....if she walks then you know its the right thing for her to walk.... if you want a mean gf eventually....treat a woman mean...... find her happy place....remember where it is..... know what she loves....what she dislikes......and accept both even if they differ from yours... dotn expect women to be mind readers...although i am one..kidding maybe not.......reading someones mind however involves talking by the one who has their mind read..reading "minds " comes by knowing someone....so let the true you be known......so talk often ....be honest..laugh often....and let her know how you feel eb gay...i dotn mean homosexual i mean be bright light hearted there is nothing sexier on a man than the smile in his eyes...and a love of life and tomorrow... be surprising......do things for no reason.....to make her happy...just because you are the one who can..... buy her things you know she loves when you see them on special.....little things......small objects ....like penguin pebbles....because all women....love happy feet...and penguin love.......ok well maybe just me....:0)..... be committed in all you desire to keep. employment.......accomodation..relationships with family and friends......be stable stick to the truth...in everything...and you will make it with real women in real time......because the women you attract will be good... the most important thing of all ...know how to say sorry and mean it....because its something you will have to say regularly....all men and women ....make mistakes........deb.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 do l sound needy am l clingy how do l be funny how do l keep her interested how do l make exiting date oh man,guys running round with internet lists and oh she touched her hair and l should be this l'm trying to be that, this is crazy shyt wth is happening out there. It still be crazy bad enough but one thing , if we heard all the women carrying on like this too , but it always seems to be just the guys , the women seem to be just fueling the fire all over the net and sitting on thrones cracking whips. Fellas , your fathers and grand fathers would be cringing in their graves. l mean really. First I don't think it's funny to laugh at men's insecurity. Men have always had these questions about charmng a woman on different levels. Before the Internet we just didn't hear men openly speak about it. Now that they finally do open up thanks to the anonyma of Internet I don't think it's nice to put them down, laugh at them or belittle them because of their inner fears. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 lovely.....thats all...just lovely...especially the sunflowers....deb Yes, she had purchased this HUGE vase many years ago, on a whim. Her mother asked her why she purchased it. She told her mom, one day a guy will bring me flowers big enough to put in this vase. Well, one did... It made me happy that she was so excited to receive them and use that HUGE beautiful vase. I've had better luck treating women, the way I wanted to be treated. I kind of like the ole "Golden Rule" about treating people the way you want to be treated!! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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