chasingwildflowers Posted January 25, 2018 Share Posted January 25, 2018 i broke up with this guy after dating him for 2 years. it was kind of a bad breakup but eventually i was okay. he dated 2 other people after me and i went out with a bunch of new guys, but never a committed relationship because i wasn't ready. its been two years since the breakup and we've reconnected again after a while of on/off texting. we mostly connected by talking about our issues/mental health problems and it was easy and nice because we both said it felt comfortable. we've been each other's emotional support and he always shoots me a text when he's feeling down and i do the same and he tries to call me or make me feel better. recently we started sexting a little and now that he's back in town for a bit, we started hooking up. we both talked about it beforehand that it was going to be just a non exclusive thing and that we can do it when we're around each other but if i wanted to end it or found someone i wanted to date, i should let him know. he said he'll do the same but doesn't think he wants to date anyone for a while. we hang out together around his friends, he's invited me to things he goes to as his plus one and all that stuff. we talk pretty much every day through text. and i'm just confused because i dont know where this is going. i wouldn't be opposed if he wanted to get back together but how do i make him want to? what do i do from here? Link to post Share on other sites
CaliBabe Posted January 25, 2018 Share Posted January 25, 2018 These are just my opinions and a male perspective can chime in at any time... however, my thought are... men do not respect a FWB. He does not wife a FWB. He's basically using you... It's like you're good enough to have sex with but not good enough to be my girlfriend. Is that how you see yourself? I dunno... everyone is different however I think I am way too bomb to be a FWB. A man should go out of his way to win you over. Take you out, make you feel special and loved. FWB is not special, in fact its insulting. I don't mean to sound harsh but I just want you to look at your value. Sex with you should be something he works for. Not freely given without work or he will not value it or you. You deserve better girl and if you want him as your bf get that! As you stated you would be open to reconciliation and you are asking how you can get more... You get more when you require more. Don't settle for the bottom of the barrel FWB you are better than that. Keep that in mind... You are not a side piece FWB, you are a wifey. Fellas am I off basis here with this thought process? Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted January 25, 2018 Share Posted January 25, 2018 I don't think there's anything you can do to make him want to get back together. You've already had sex and agreed it would be no strings attached, so you can't try the hard to get angle. I think the only option here is to lay your cards on the table. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted January 25, 2018 Share Posted January 25, 2018 You can't make someone want to do anything. All you can do is be honest about your feelings and see if they feel the same way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
xUnknown Posted February 13, 2018 Share Posted February 13, 2018 men do not respect a FWB. He does not wife a FWB. He's basically using you... It's like you're good enough to have sex with but not good enough to be my girlfriend. I would disagree with that. I went into what I thought was a FWB thinking that's all it was. Turns out we both had feelings for each other and wanted to see where things go. It has since ended, but the feelings on both ends were real. We both saw a future with the other person. Just because you started as a FWB doesn't mean he isn't feeling the same way you are. Feel things out a little more and see where things take you two. Link to post Share on other sites
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