is friends with benefits with a ex after a 2 year relationship completly bad????

[CantDecide...]

Hey guys i was dating my girl for 2 years. we broke up in late June, and have been apart since. tonight however ihad the idea, i think this girl is insanely hot, she feels the same aboutme. we both miss each other sexually, and it would be awesome to have her to hook up with with out the relationship headache, but with all the perks, sex, good person to hang with. As it is we've been spending a lot of time together, so why not at least get something out of it. so i said to her tonight, lets just simply make an agreement, we can hook up with each other, fulfill are urges, and at the same time if either of us are at a party, and we see a decent looking person we can if we want hook up with them. i mean in my mind i see this working as long as there is an agreement of what is going on, the rules, and all that good stuff. am i absolutely crazy? or could this work as long as there is an agreement.

[sanne]

yes you are crazy. this will absolutely not work under any circumstances whatsoever.

[CantDecide...]

you know i understand what your saying, but like her and i are best friends we enjoy eachothers company, we had a killer sex life, were both really atracted to one another, thats what i sub consesioly think i miss the most, and if were still friends, and stil hooking up but not dealing with the realtionship bs for some reason i think it could work, thanks for your input, i dunno whats the worst that could happen?

[fundamental]

Originally posted by CantDecide...

you know i understand what your saying, but like her and i are best friends we enjoy eachothers company, we had a killer sex life, were both really atracted to one another, thats what i sub consesioly think i miss the most, and if were still friends, and stil hooking up but not dealing with the realtionship bs for some reason i think it could work, thanks for your input, i dunno whats the worst that could happen?

 

 

hahaha! It just won't work. If you guys are bestfriends, extremely attracted to each other, and have killer sex, then one or both of you will end up treating these hook ups like a relationship. Then when someone decides to go after someone else--due to your agreement--the other person will become upset. Been there, done that.

[Rocko]

Originally posted by CantDecide...

you know i understand what your saying, but like her and i are best friends we enjoy eachothers company, we had a killer sex life, were both really atracted to one another, thats what i sub consesioly think i miss the most, and if were still friends, and stil hooking up but not dealing with the realtionship bs for some reason i think it could work, thanks for your input, i dunno whats the worst that could happen?

 

"What's the worse that could happen?"

 

Google "Famous Last Words."

 

You may want to reconsider if what you had before was lust or love. Sounds like lust to me.

[bunnygrl07]

Yeah, you're screwed. Either call it what it is, or move on.

[933KJL]

Originally posted by CantDecide...

you know i understand what your saying, but like her and i are best friends we enjoy eachothers company, we had a killer sex life, were both really atracted to one another, thats what i sub consesioly think i miss the most, and if were still friends, and stil hooking up but not dealing with the realtionship bs for some reason i think it could work, thanks for your input, i dunno whats the worst that could happen?

 

Sounds more like an outstanding basis for a RELATIONSHIP than a FWB if you ask me.

[CantDecide...]

well basically in my head of thinking its like this...we both care fr eachother and love spending time together. we both want to remain close friends, we talk a lot and chill a lot. however after everything that has happened she basically said she doesnt evan know if she wants a relationship anymore. so i said to her listen if were gonna be hanging out with eachother and talking, why not just hook up, that doesnt necesarilly mean have sex all the time. and at the same time if her and i are at a oarty and we see a cute gyuy or girl, and we wanna hook up we have that option to. for some reason i think if were in an agreement of what were doing what were looking for out of this, and understand one anothers feelings why not give it a shot. if we try it for a week or two and dont like we simly say listen u know this isnt working out for me, and maybe it will work out. i knowi sound compltly crazy but i dunno...like what do u guys think is really the worst that coulkd happen, do u think it will turn out to be we end up not talkign again, or do u think it coukld turn into a relationship again, as in like if we do this for a month or two, and its like were together but not, and then just be like why dont we just make it official, what are the chances of that?..sry for the long post im just confused