What made you realize that you dont care that much for family?

[Jtizzle]

they say its bad to hate and i was wondering if there was anybody else out there that absolutely hate their families or someone in their family...?

 

i finally come to the realization that i dont really care for family because of the kooky ones i have now..my father side of the family are crooks, liars, crabs in the buckets, you name it..they stab each other in the back, steal from one another,etc..

 

my mothers side is crooked too, all about themselves, and use other family members for their benefits..prime example..my mother is the successful one in the family nice job that pays 6 figures, nice house, car, 2 college degrees,etc..we went up to buffalo last december to visit my ailing great grandmother who was on her deathbed..and even though we had spent like 2grand (last minute tickets,hotel fees, car rentals,etc) my grandmother and my lil aunts and uncles (im older than them) they expected us to pay for everything..we brought them groceries, gave them pocket money, since it was around christmas time we brought them gifts..now this is what we did out of the kindness of our hearts..until oneday i was at my grandmas house and my lil uncle was talkin to her about something..and he was like oh get so and so to get it..im like wtf..we come out here and we gotta pay for everything without so much as a thank you or please, or some kinda kind words..

 

besides that get so and so to get it..this is what turned me off to my moms side of the family..as i said we had went to buffalo to see my dyin great grandmother and me and my mother stayed with her in her hospital room from opening hours til they kicked us out..whereas my grandma (her daughter) and my aunts and uncles only came to see her once and then they only stayed for a few minutes..and when they had came and we all were leaving none of them would kiss my great grams goodbye..she was like alright u all give me a hug and a kiss..me and mommy happily did it..but they were all groanin like." ahhh hell i dont wanna kiss her blah blah"..and that right there showed me their true nature..you cant even kiss ya dyin mother or grandmother wtf..thats just foul and inhuman if u ask me..

 

so besides that...me and mom come home a few days before christmas because my mom had a big meeting,etc..we called my grandma on christmas day wished her greetings told her stories, stayed on the phone while she got a power nap and then woke back up talkin like she never slept..and then she died the next day..come to find out my grandmother didnt even think to go see her own mother on christmas..so my great grams died 26th...my moms didnt want to cremate her so we sent my grandma 5grand to get a casket and do whatever she needed to do and if she needed more we'd pay whatever it took to give her a proper burial..you know this hefer took the money my mommy sent her and cremated my great granny and then kept the rest of our money, and had the audacity to ask for more too.. that right there made me just be like why have family like that when you can just do bad on ya own and just live and worry about yaself..

 

so yea i really dont care for family now..what incidents made u realize that you dont care that much for them?

[she_9325]

oh honey.... sorry to hear about all that.

 

i always maintain, that parents don't always know best. they don't always guide you in the right direction. my dad was abusive, my mom was very submissive and let him and did nothing. my father constantly reminded me how worthless i was and made promises to me that he constantly broke. for ages all i wanted was for him to simply be proud of me. now i couldn't give a sh*t what he thinks of me or says. and i know i will never be like my mom. i am not reliant on anyone. it's taught me a valuable lesson. maybe it's harsh but i don't care. i don't need them. i even used to care and now i just don't. too much effort. i live for myself now.

[Jtizzle]

Originally posted by she_9325

oh honey.... sorry to hear about all that.

i always maintain, that parents don't always know best. they don't always guide you in the right direction. my dad was abusive, my mom was very submissive and let him and did nothing. my father constantly reminded me how worthless i was and made promises to me that he constantly broke. for ages all i wanted was for him to simply be proud of me. now i couldn't give a sh*t what he thinks of me or says. and i know i will never be like my mom. i am not reliant on anyone. it's taught me a valuable lesson. maybe it's harsh but i don't care. i don't need them. i even used to care and now i just don't. too much effort. i live for myself now.

 

amen to that...i understand completely..its harsh to say, but eh it happens, people do stuff where you get fed up with it at one point or another, and you just gotta go into tha i dont give a damn method..

[IhavenoFREAKINclue]

My mother HATES my brother. He has no other place to go but her house and she can't stand him. He just recently broke his leg and he was being disrespectful to her (as was she) and she kicked his leg! Bitch. She always says she wishes he was never born and yada yada yada. I feel bad for my brother, but he hates her just as much. I don't hate anybody. I only have about 3 family members left that I can count on.

[RecordProducer]

I read your post carefully, but I don't know what to tell you.

Except "money makes the world go round."

[lilmoma1973]

Hey all..

I can so relate to what you are saying with hating families!! I hate my inlaws they are the inlaws from hell!!! They always got to be nosey about my h and i relationship with his son which is my ss!! i wouldn't wish these people on no one !!!