at a crossroads

[digger]

Most of you know my story. Divorced now for 1 1/2 yrs and never saw it coming.

The hate she has shown me since day 1 has continued to screw me over. A woman who changed 180 degrees and as a preist told me--its her guilt is why she is acting the way she does.

Finally off my haunches, Im going to counseling (better late than never) next week. I think it kinda signals an end of sorts for me.

But here I am in a strange city, owning a business which I hate and changed me when WE got here. The stress, the confusion. I was NOT a happy guy.

Anyway, Im 2 shakes from putting it up for sale and this is where the confusion comes in. If i sell it my plans are to move down south and find something else.

I feel as if Im deserting my 17 yr old--(who rarely contacts me) and that is upsetting.

But the bigger point is this: If I split town and do what i think needs to be done,

will i be sorry? I mean after all, i DO hold out hope that whatever got into EW will work its way out. A year and a half is NOT a long time. We moved here 3 yrs ago and i could reach backwards and touch that day. I worry I havent given it long enough and that if i hightail it, we'll be separated by 500 miles and that is no good for even a reconciliation dinner (if it were to ever happen). My mother says. "by god if you move and she wants to follow you, shes an adult. Let her come to you!!" She further adds that "when she sees you are moving on, I wouldnt be surprised if shed be 2 steps behind you, cause being in the same city, youre her comfort zone. She doesnt think youre serious and she can dangle you anytime she wants. When she see's youre serious, it might be a whole different story. Now that OM, 1000 miles away has told her to back off (my daughters words) is moving bad timing me for me? There are alot of variables here. Please read again and think before you choose your advice. Thanks.

[alphamale]

i think your mom is a wise woman. i also think you should be more selfish and take care of yourself first and do what makes you happy. women are very attracted to men who take care of their own needs first.

good luck

alpha