sinkerswim Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Well, I first came here February of 2004, because i was completely devastated, depressed, feeling suicidal..all of that. I was with my ex fiance for 8 years when all of a sudden he wanted "space". No return phone calls, left me hanging forever. Was mean when I would try to contact him. No goodbyes. So I finally excepted it.. he didnt want anything to do with me anymore. I felt like I was erased from him forever. Lets just say..it took quite some time to get better..finally take off my engagement ring and get on with things. I met a couple guys and knew life would go on. Im now in a LDR, and I am sooo happy with who I am with. He is everything I wanted in a man. If you would have told me a year ago I would be so happy again, I never would have believed it. The other night I come home to a message from my ex. A message I never in my wildest dreams could have expected. He wanted to talk. So we did.. for 3 hours. He told me apologies are just words, he cant express how sorry he was. He told me he was thinking alot about me, got out old photos of us, things I bought for him. He is aware I have a new man, and he also has a girlfriend. But Im thinking there is trouble in paradise. He has alot of guilt for what he has done to me. I did forgive him. We talked and also reminisced. It was good talking to him again. Its not in my nature to be mean with him or anyone. I know he was truly sorry, just by calling me. That is odd for him. We ended that phone call as friends. He still wants to talk. I am happy I was such a strong person on that phone with him. I was changed, and he was probably blown away. I do want to remain friends with him. I can do that. But I dont think I could ever take him back. I got what I wanted even though its well over a year later. I got my apology.. I got my call. I never dreamed.
Gottabestrong Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 This is wonderful to hear. I remember your story from a year ago and always felt for you. Now I am so glad to read that you are truely happy with the new man you found. That your ex called and apologized is just the icing on the cake.
sundrop Posted August 26, 2005 Posted August 26, 2005 Sinkerswim, Thanks for the post, it's nice to hear that they sometimes regret their decision. Glad to hear you are so happy and at a much better place. Again thanks for the post and best wishes for your future happiness.
Author sinkerswim Posted August 28, 2005 Author Posted August 28, 2005 thanks guys,. I am happy with my new man... he makes me very happy. Now that a couple of days went by since the phone call, I cant stop thinking about my ex. Is this normal?
GL 44 Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 Sinkerswim... You said you finally took off your engagement ring after he broke it off. Do you still have it? Did he ask for it back? I'm asking because of a similar situation. My advice is to let sleeping dogs lie. Don't put yourself thru the torment of being available again after all this time for someone that devastated you. IMHO.
Author sinkerswim Posted August 29, 2005 Author Posted August 29, 2005 Hi Gl... Yes I still have my ring... but took it off back in Sept. of last year. He didnt ask for it back. I told him I still have it on my dresser in the box it came in. I know I should let this go...I got my apology..I got some answers I was dying to know, that YES he was thinking about me and remembering things. All along I thought he had erased me from his mind. but he didnt. Made me feel better.
Art_Critic Posted August 29, 2005 Posted August 29, 2005 Hi Gl... All along I thought he had erased me from his mind. but he didnt. Made me feel better. It's great that you forgave him and got the answers you needed. Sometimes just knowing that they are thinking about you can make you feel good.. It's a nice ego stroke. Sounds like you are happy and it's nice to see you moved on. Cheers
Zoey Posted September 2, 2005 Posted September 2, 2005 Wow. this is really encouraging...and I don't mean because your ex called you. To me, the best part is hearing how sad you were when the engagement broke off, but now how happy you are. Good luck. thanks for posting.
60sdreamgirl Posted September 2, 2005 Posted September 2, 2005 heya wow.... reading this is giving me a whole new perspec on how my old guy may be thinking! we were never engaged or whatnot, but now i've started contacting him again (like your ex-fiance did to you) because i miss him and realize how much i value him mind if i go off on a lil branch here? we were buddies and were both secretly crushing on each other but he was too shy or insecure etc to ask me out. so he started dating this other chick because all his friends knew her & it was easier i guess, didn't tell me. uhh so naturally i got jealous! he got pissed and it hurt his ego cos i stopped talking to him. lo and behold his lil missy cheated on him but he started dating another girl. never thought i was still interested. but i kept hearing around he was still mad obsessed with me........ sooo when i told him that i was, he got all flustered but eventually decided to stay with his current chickie. i think it was a big ego stroke that i was still thinkin about him, but now what? is this the end of all of it? he doesn't return my phone calls ever now... he's enjoying making me suffer i think what would your ex-fiance need to do to prove his love for u? what can i do to prove my love to my "ex"? that is... without looking desperate... is there really no way to get an "ex" who was once crazy over u, back? and for real now, was what i did really horrible enough that he has right to act all the way hes doing now?
RoseyLife Posted September 2, 2005 Posted September 2, 2005 As long as he did not have you -- physically, as in sex-- then he will come back. They always do, even the most sensitive ones. The thing is, you are unfinished business. He will inevitably start comparing you, or continue comparing you, to his current girlfriend. Especially if you happen to be both physically and mentally attractive.
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