The interaction...?

[unit1]

When u meet someone and both have interest, if he/she starts to talk a lot daily, send u long message daily, how do u handle?

 

sometimes u know u just don't know what to say, or that day a bad mood....but for the beginning of your interaction, u can't tell them the whole truth,right?mmm

[todreaminblue]

When u meet someone and both have interest, if he/she starts to talk a lot daily, send u long message daily, how do u handle?

 

sometimes u know u just don't know what to say, or that day a bad mood....but for the beginning of your interaction, u can't tell them the whole truth,right?mmm

 

 

what do you mean you cant tell them the truth..... you just

 

"say hey im a bit off today sorry...its one of those days and im just taking some time to myself...." ill talk to you tomorrow I hope you have a great day".............deb

[unit1]

what do you mean you cant tell them the truth..... you just

 

"say hey im a bit off today sorry...its one of those days and im just taking some time to myself...." ill talk to you tomorrow I hope you have a great day".............deb

 

Thank u...

I m so timid nowadays cos I m afraid to lose the connection if I tell I m a bit off, ....

[preraph]

You can control the pace on your end. Now, she might continue to keep sending stuff, but just don't answer until you have time and don't do it more than you are okay with. I mean, no point in encouraging someone who is more needy than you like to begin with. It will only get worse.

[unit1]

You can control the pace on your end. Now, she might continue to keep sending stuff, but just don't answer until you have time and don't do it more than you are okay with. I mean, no point in encouraging someone who is more needy than you like to begin with. It will only get worse.

I see....so much to learn ,new things....

 

also, I suffered PTSD and had a past not easy to be revealed, if he ask, what shall I do?

u know nowadays they move very fast, and ask direct questions very fast,

and I feel if I didn't have a difficult complicated past, we would be a great match,i m afraid they will set back when know I have another side/the difficult yin side.

[preraph]

Well, I think if you keep it light and just act happy and just try to be entertaining and keep the other person talking, you can do it and not let it get heavy. Too soon for that. But one of these days if you're still close, you'll want to slowly let it out. Hey, it's absolutely great that even though you have PTSD, you are still out there open to having new relationships and experiences, because with time, that will help rewrite your brain. I had PTSD and am over 99% of it.

[todreaminblue]

Thank u...

I m so timid nowadays cos I m afraid to lose the connection if I tell I m a bit off, ....

 

everyone has off days...life and love are never perfect which is lucky huh ...;0)...because neither are we .....you wont lose the connection with honesty....it will strengthen the connection and make it real not fake..honesty has a habit of forming and creating strong bonds between people who use it......lucky us...:bunny:....go easy on yourself my friend and just be honest she will understand then how you really feel and therefore closer to you.....good luck....deb

[basil67]

While there's nothing wrong with telling someone you're a bit off today, if it happens frequently it will drive the other person away.

 

Do you want a different form of contact or no contact?

[unit1]

Well, I think if you keep it light and just act happy and just try to be entertaining and keep the other person talking, you can do it and not let it get heavy. Too soon for that. But one of these days if you're still close, you'll want to slowly let it out. Hey, it's absolutely great that even though you have PTSD, you are still out there open to having new relationships and experiences, because with time, that will help rewrite your brain. I had PTSD and am over 99% of it.

 

how did u overcome the bad sleep and sudden flashes ?

[unit1]

While there's nothing wrong with telling someone you're a bit off today, if it happens frequently it will drive the other person away.

 

Do you want a different form of contact or no contact?

I m not a very communicative person, I was a silent child since I was little, so I need to push myself .....usually

[preraph]

how did u overcome the bad sleep and sudden flashes ?

 

In my case, it was just a constant repeating loop of memories and situations, with a lot of anger, and I was of course jumpy and isolating. Mine lasted a long time, years. But what finally hastned me out of it was for an unrelated reason, I was looking for something in my journals I'd kept all throughout my 20s and 30s, and once I started reading, I couldn't stop. I was lucky I had written my life out because reading it brought me back to myself and got me out of the accompanying depression, thought he PTSD slowly faded after that as I resumed living and socializing and making new memories.

 

I heard someone talk about it one time saying a study found PTSD often took 9-10 years to get better. Not sure why that is or if it's accurate, but that's about what it was for me. Mine was not combat PTSD, so I didn't have that added burden. I've read that it an often be prevented from setting in if you find the right doctor soon after a trauma. But I really had this feeling all throughout mine like my thoughts were just a broken record and I couldn't stop it from just repeating. Distraction, I really believe is the best thing for this. Making yourself continue to be social and go do new things and make new memories. Mine was all tied up with my associations, so I had to try to face down triggers and make new associations with the old triggers as best I could.

 

I can imagine it's different for everyone. It's miserable.

[unit1]

In my case, it was just a constant repeating loop of memories and situations, with a lot of anger, and I was of course jumpy and isolating. Mine lasted a long time, years. But what finally hastned me out of it was for an unrelated reason, I was looking for something in my journals I'd kept all throughout my 20s and 30s, and once I started reading, I couldn't stop. I was lucky I had written my life out because reading it brought me back to myself and got me out of the accompanying depression, thought he PTSD slowly faded after that as I resumed living and socializing and making new memories.

 

I heard someone talk about it one time saying a study found PTSD often took 9-10 years to get better. Not sure why that is or if it's accurate, but that's about what it was for me. Mine was not combat PTSD, so I didn't have that added burden. I've read that it an often be prevented from setting in if you find the right doctor soon after a trauma. But I really had this feeling all throughout mine like my thoughts were just a broken record and I couldn't stop it from just repeating. Distraction, I really believe is the best thing for this. Making yourself continue to be social and go do new things and make new memories. Mine was all tied up with my associations, so I had to try to face down triggers and make new associations with the old triggers as best I could.

 

I can imagine it's different for everyone. It's miserable.

It is terrible it will take 10 years to get better, but it seems true now....the flashes never stop from the deep cells.

 

I v taken jounals too, but I m not a good writer for myself, I wrote in a boring way, I guess, when I read them I didn't feel much....my feelings mostly still numb, they went to sleep state for too long.