For men

[Natalie]

This message is basically for all the guys out there. I just want your opinion on this. A guy said to me that there are no men around who would want a woman who have kids from previous relationship. That they would all end up just playing with you, that's all. A woman with kids to find a man to take her and her kids is impossible. I believe in love, and that it can happen, but what is your opinion?

 

Tell me what the majority of men think about this.

[Outcast]

I know a guy who loved kids and loved them so much he was delighted to have a woman with kids. They went on to have another couple of kids together.

 

There will never ever be one answer for what all men think or want - any idiot that tells you that doesn't deserve your attention. Whether or not a guy will go out with someone who has kids depends on his own maturity and his feelings about kids in general. If he really loves kids, he'll probably love yours. It may be a little harder to find a guy who loves kids and is man enough to not need to have his own DNA in them but it's not impossible at all.

[Blackfrost]

A guy said to me that there are no men around who would want a woman who have kids from previous relationship.

 

That's not true for every man, but it is true for most of the guys I've known. It works both ways, I have a good male friend who has custody of his son, and he's had a hell of a time trying to meet a single woman who would want to marry him, because he has a kid. Eventually he did meet a good woman, but she has a kid of he own as well, so it worked out well for both of them.

[TUDOR]

I don't think this in entirely true. There will always be some one willing to take a woman as a package deal which will include her kids. My step dad married my mother who had 3 kids. He had two of his own. He was the best thing that could have happened to my mother and I couldn't be happier for her. When I turned 18 he adopted me. I proudly carry his name because he loved my mother enough to not only accept her kids but love them as his own.

 

So it does happen but there are men who do not want this route but all you can do is be up front about it and let them know it is a package deal and not to waste your time if it is not something they want.

[Merin]

Originally posted by TUDOR

When I turned 18 he adopted me. I proudly carry his name because he loved my mother enough to not only accept her kids but love them as his own.

 

 

That is sweet...

 

My BF has 2 Little people of his own from a previous marriage, and I have my 2 Little people as well...

It hasn't been an issue...

[lost_in_chgo]

My ex had five kids, I didn't have a problem with it.

But I wanted kids of my own and she wasn't sure she wanted more.

 

You'll find it easier in some ways to date a guy with kids of his own, and harder too.

 

You'll have no problem finding men looking to share a bed or move in with you. But to commit/marry that will be tougher. You make a tempting target for the freeloaders because they consider you the desparate type.

 

Choose wisely.