a lost little girl Posted May 18, 2001 Share Posted May 18, 2001 i have recently started doing some inner child work and find it very interesting. my sister sent me some pictures from when i was quite young. i had actually forgotten and seen very few pictures of myself when i was young because they are all on slides. so, i got these pictures now and i look at them and talk to her and try to make her feel safe in an insecure and unsafe feeling world to me. my question is this: how do i make her feel safe with me when i don't feel safe my self? i don't mean safe as by the elements of life, i mean safe by feeling strong in myself, self-esteemed in myself, confidence in myself, trust in myself, etc. i have alot of anxiety attacks and alot of hangups and fears about leaving my boundries of home. so i can i help her when i'm a wreck myself? i don't know if i'm making sense, i hope so, cause i don't know what to do. here is an example of what i'm talking about: i have a job where i travel within the city, but sometimes i get them far away from home and i don't want to take them but i do cause i need to work. sometimes i can travel this other times i can't, now when i can't, i talk to her and tell her i will protect her, assuming it is her feeling insecure and threatened to make this trip, but how can i convince her when i as the adult feel the fear? please help! maybe the less said the better, i hope i'm making sense. this is only one example tho, i'm talking about everything that generates fear, anxiety, insecurities, doubt, jealousy, etc. how do i calm her when i am a wreck myself? any advice? thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
a lost little girl/i guess this is the wrong board Posted May 19, 2001 Share Posted May 19, 2001 i have recently started doing some inner child work and find it very interesting. my sister sent me some pictures from when i was quite young. i had actually forgotten and seen very few pictures of myself when i was young because they are all on slides. so, i got these pictures now and i look at them and talk to her and try to make her feel safe in an insecure and unsafe feeling world to me. my question is this: how do i make her feel safe with me when i don't feel safe my self? i don't mean safe as by the elements of life, i mean safe by feeling strong in myself, self-esteemed in myself, confidence in myself, trust in myself, etc. i have alot of anxiety attacks and alot of hangups and fears about leaving my boundries of home. so i can i help her when i'm a wreck myself? i don't know if i'm making sense, i hope so, cause i don't know what to do. here is an example of what i'm talking about: i have a job where i travel within the city, but sometimes i get them far away from home and i don't want to take them but i do cause i need to work. sometimes i can travel this other times i can't, now when i can't, i talk to her and tell her i will protect her, assuming it is her feeling insecure and threatened to make this trip, but how can i convince her when i as the adult feel the fear? please help! maybe the less said the better, i hope i'm making sense. this is only one example tho, i'm talking about everything that generates fear, anxiety, insecurities, doubt, jealousy, etc. how do i calm her when i am a wreck myself? any advice? thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
Paulie Posted May 19, 2001 Share Posted May 19, 2001 Read John Bradshaw's book, "Home Coming" Also, re-post your question up top of the thread, you'll get more responses this time Link to post Share on other sites
a lost little girl Posted May 19, 2001 Share Posted May 19, 2001 thank you paulie, i will check into that book too. it seems i may be doing alot of reading in this near future as tony has also recommended some books on anger. thank you again. Read John Bradshaw's book, "Home Coming" Also, re-post your question up top of the thread, you'll get more responses this time Link to post Share on other sites
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