Wordguy Posted August 27, 2005 Share Posted August 27, 2005 I need some advice on next steps with this girl I've met who takes the same bus as me home from work. A couple months ago, I got the nerve to introduce myself and speak to her. Her name is Nicole. She is about 5'8" with red hair and blonde highlights, a pretty face and wise eyes. She works in a similar industry as me and lives in my neighbourhood too. The couple of times we talked, we really hit it off and spoke the whole ride until I got off. We don't see eachother every day but at least once a week our paths will cross and we usually talk some more. She went away for vacation to visit her brother's new baby and the first day back she came up to me and told me all about it. We are getting to know eachother, but I am unsure about her status and perhaps she of mine. A week goes by and we are riding home together and I decide to offer her my business card and tell her that if she's in the neighbourhood to call me and we could go for lunch. By the way, this whole time she has not mentioned a boyfriend and wears no ring. But I still am unsure if she is single. Although I do think she is interested. A week after me giving me the card we happened to be taking the same subway, saw eachother and she waited for me at the top of the escalator in the subway station. She was looking for change/waiting for me and I walked up to her said Hello and asked her how she was doing. She seemed genuinely happy to see me. Not wanting to interrupt her phone call, I walked up to the bus platform knowing I would see her again. I know that I will have to ask her out to find out if she is available or truly interested. I just haven't felt comfortable enought to do this. Either it's like a week between talks and I have to build some rapport or we're on the unromantic, crowded bus and I can't bring myself to ask her out (although I consider the business card offering a clear signal if interest on my part that she has yet to act on). At the same time, I am worried that if I do this, and she says 'no', it will make things uncomfortable. I guess my question is, what do I say to the girl to tell her I'm interested and want to take her out? Or do I just keep being the nice guy and wait for her to contact me? Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted August 27, 2005 Share Posted August 27, 2005 I would just ask her if she would like to go get something to eat later...if she likes you ...she will say yes ( in most cases ). You have to be the one to ask otherwise she might not know. Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted August 28, 2005 Share Posted August 28, 2005 don't be 'Mr. Linger' and never leave a girl waiting. you should find out as soon as you start getting to know her or she might think you're not really interested. don't stress over the 'perfect moment' so much (life is as life does), just approach it in casual, non-threatening way and you'll have your answer soon enough. from what you've said, things look hopeful. good luck ! Link to post Share on other sites
Neptune Posted August 29, 2005 Share Posted August 29, 2005 Wordguy, What surprises me most of all is that after this post being on LS for 29 hrs only one women responded to it. Yea, I know, only one guy too. But, you would think a few gals would give you just a clue. Which, old bean, they did without muttering a single word....Wordguy. And that is women really don`t give you much clues for a reason. They want YOU to be the one to make the move. So now, it is time to make a move. In fact , way over due. First, ask if she is married. You should have done that right out the starting gate. But, you have to ask her that because if you ask her for a date and she says she`s married it truly makes you feel like a fool. The hell whether she has a boyfriend or not. Let her make up her on mind on that. Just do it. This gal has give you enough vibes to light up New York City Link to post Share on other sites
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