What makes a good husband?

[RecordProducer]

I was inspired by Kat's thread "what makes a good wife?"

I am eager to hear what married men think from their own experience as well as what the single men's expectations about marriage (first or second or third) are. I think we would also enjoy hearing women's perception of a good husband. Ladies, what would the husband of your dreams be like?

Hope this thread will help us all understand the other side better and learn something. I can't wait to read your replies. I will post mine in a bit..

[lindya]

Originally posted by RecordProducer

I was inspired by Kat's thread "what makes a good wife?"

I am eager to hear what married men think from their own experience as well as what the single men's expectations about marriage (first or second or third) are. I think we would also enjoy hearing women's perception of a good husband. Ladies, what would the husband of your dreams be like?

Hope this thread will help us all understand the other side better and learn something. I can't wait to read your replies. I will post mine in a bit..

 

I would, RP, I would - but I'm waiting for Loveshack to introduce a new tongue-in-cheek smilie first.

[RecordProducer]

Originally posted by lindya

I would, RP, I would - but I'm waiting for Loveshack to introduce a new tongue-in-cheek smilie first.

 

Huh?

 

[Art_Critic]

I'll go with Alpha's answer on this one ... When he posts that is ..

 

Guys don't know what makes a good husband ..

 

We are just trying to stay out of the dog house and keep up with the ever so changing moods of our women..

 

Well maybe I just answered my own question.. maybe what makes a good husband is one that is an excellent magician Poof !!

[RecordProducer]

My idea of a good husband: he loves me to death, I love him, he loves my children and they love him... He thinks I am wonderful, I think he is wonderful... He is responsible and reliable... He is passionate about me and makes love to me often... He gives me compliments and cares what I think of him... He wants me to be happy and acts accordingly... He expects me to make him happy (I am not a piece of furniture)... He is faithful and honest... Asks me question and talks to me gladly... Confides in me and shares his every thought with me... His family respects me and he respects mine (and vice versa, of course)... He is not selfish and self-centered... Rather talks in a constructive way than nags or argues... He is warm and tender to me... He thinks I am beautiful... He loves my music... He would rather do things with me than without me... He doesn't think of a divorce the first time we fight... He never forgets (or regrets) the day he met me...

[Three of Swords]

wow - I want one of those too.

[sami]

A good wife does.

[RecordProducer]

Originally posted by Three of Swords

wow - I want one of those too.

 

It is still just an idea!

[RecordProducer]

It is still just an idea!

A good wife does.

 

My thought too.

[lilmoma1973]

Hey all ..

My idea of a good H would be .. a H that is caring understanding faithful never calls you names or makes you feel be littled .. is always open and honest with you and never lies no matter what.. someone who makes you feel safe and secure and never have you doubt what they say..... SOME THAT CAN BE A FRIEND ALWAYS AS WELL AS A LOVER TO BE AS ONE !!!

[EndoftheRope]

Originally posted by RecordProducer

His family respects me and he respects mine (and vice versa, of course)...

 

Very important!

 

Loyalty is a big one for me.

 

Honesty.

 

Men should build up and support their wives, rather than tear them down.

[Debster]

Well...

 

How about a man who every weekend makes you a special breakfast to thank you for all the lunches you make for him during the week? What about a man who is affectionate, caring and sensitive? Is it a man who tells you daily how much he loves you and cares for you? Is it a man who remembers what you say and what your favourite things are. A man who will bring you flowers.. just because. A man who is your best friend and confidante. A man who considers your feeling and is honest and loyal. A man who understands when you're stressed and knows how to handle you when you're PMSing. A man who would make an excellent father.

 

Sorry girls. That man is taken!! He's my hubby.

[Neptune]

I think that I shall never see

a poem as lovely as a tree

a good husband I shall never be

for as Neptune

I am god of the sea

[Stone]

A rich one

[Horse]

My idea and what I try to be:

 

-Loyal, faithful (Not cheating or dissing her when she is not around).

-Understanding (recognizing when she is stressed or PMSing and giving her some space instead of being an argumentative ass)

-Trusting (to be able to give her space to be her own person)

-Affectionate (physically, verbally etc. hugs, touches, text messages, calls, flowers etc. for no reason except to say "I love you.")

-a good friend (someone she wants to talk to every day)

-A good listener

-A good partner (does their share of the house work etc.. I do about half of the cleaning and almost all of the cooking and yardwork.)

-A passable handyman, mechanic etc... I am embarrassed for guys who can't fix stuff.

-A good lover (to keep the passion alive)

-Sensitive in an empathetic sense. I think when women say they want a sensitive man, they want a man who can recognize and empathise with their pain and frustration, not a man who wears his own pain on his sleeve.

-Imperfect

 

and some Alpha stuff

 

-An individual. A man who maintain his own identity and interests.

-Someone who looks out for his own happiness as well. (Both people have to be happy for the reationship to be successful)

-Confrontational when necessary (If you try to wait for a problem to go away, it will only get worse. If your wife is doing something that upsets you, you should let her know)

 

Above all

 

-A mind reader and good communicator. (To be able to recognize and resolve problems)

[RecordProducer]

Thanks for your replies, guys. They say it takes a lot to make a woman happy, but only two things to make a man happy:

 

1. Show up naked

2. Fix him something to eat

 

[Horse]

Thanks for your replies, guys. They say it takes a lot to make a woman happy, but only two things to make a man happy:

 

1. Show up naked

2. Fix him something to eat

 

 

I'm a better cook so all I need is:

 

1. Show up naked

[sami]

That's not always true with all men though.

[New_Wife]

I'm facing that question right now, as my husband is showing me exactly what makes a good husband that I didn't even know.

 

It's very simple for me, really. He's there for me when I need him. I've been there for him - but really his life is uncomplicated - he just wrecks cars now and then. I'm going through a huge pile of crap with my childrens' father, and my hubby is supporting me emotionally through this.

 

The rest, is just extras right now.

[Horse]

That's not always true with all men though.

 

 

Yeah. It's a joke. It helps a lot, but I don't think that its really true with any man.

 

A good wife should do all of the things that a good husband does, - the handyman stuff and + being more emotionally expressive.

[RecordProducer]

I don't think that its really true with any man.

 

I agree. Most men require that the woman also is:

 

1. mother

2. cook

3. cleaning lady

4. nurse

5. baby-sitter

6. entertainer (smiles when she feels like crying)

7. dog (she listens and does everything he tells her, but doesn't talk)

8. his best fan

[sami]

All of the above except this # 7." dog (she listens and does everything he tells her, but doesn't talk)".

[Horse]

I agree. Most men require that the woman also is:

 

1. mother

2. cook

3. cleaning lady

4. nurse

5. baby-sitter

6. entertainer (smiles when she feels like crying)

7. dog (she listens and does everything he tells her, but doesn't talk)

8. his best fan

 

I can't answer for most men but,

 

1. I don't want another mother. I'm not a baby.

2. I cook, but it would be nice if she did sometimes.

3. Yeah

4. No I can patch myself up, besides she is too squeemish to be a nurse.

5. Mother to our kids? Yes some day.

6. Entertainer. That would be cool. She doesn't have to smile when she wants to dry though.

7. Maybe if I can pet her, but no. She would just laugh at me if I insisted she did what I told her to do and she couldn't talk.

8. Most definitely

 

My list:

1. A companion (someone to share the good and bad times)

2. My biggest fan and cheering section

3. Entertainer / Comedian

4. Future babies mamma.

5. Organizer bill payer etc.. (I can do tis stuff, but I'm not very meticulous. I make loose plans and fly by the seat of my pants)

6. Part time housekeeper.

[Iluvsiamese]

Horse, maybe you should give lessons!

 

I am pretty happy with my current guy. He is many (most) of the positive things that have been listed. I'd like for him to have a bit more patience and/or tolerance. Other than that, he's great. Except, of course, for the slight obsession with his ex-wife. I could do without that issue. But he has gotten the idea about not talking about her all of the time.

[Jtizzle]

My perfect hubby would be one that is

 

-Understanding

 

-Has somewhat of a great memory for dates ( remembers our first date, when we got married, my birthday, my middle name,just lil things about me in general,etc)

 

-Great advisor, as well as a Listener (sometimes i just want you to "hear" what i am saying).

 

-Passionate in the bed, and in life

 

-Considerate (yes, sometimes i do want the last french fry:o )

 

-Thoughtful (writes me poems just to say hi, send me flowers because its a nice day, leaves me sticky notes around the house when im upset,etc)

 

-Grateful Receiver and GIVER ( In most relationships i always do the spending and shoot sometimes i want to be spoiled myself, not to much to ask for is it)

 

-My bestfriend and Confidante (we'll have a blast getting childish and egging folks houses on halloween or something else kiddish like)

 

-My lover (loves me for who i am, my passions, and what i have plans to be, and not for what i am not, or for what he thinks or hopes to change me into)

 

-My #1 fan (whether im in a staring contest, or who has the stinkiest breath contest, I want him to be my #1 fan, besides me)

 

-My personal comedian (I love to laugh, and when were in tough situations i make jokes to lighten up the mood, and he has to be like that as well)

 

-My personal assistant ( for when we get old with age, i need someone to remind me to put my dentures in for i start chompin on my chips)

 

-Kid at heart (even if you are 109yrs old)

 

but most of all, the perfect hubby is the one that I am able to see myself with 80yrs from now:D