amaysngrace Posted February 28, 2018 Share Posted February 28, 2018 In talking with a man I teach with I came to know his only plans for Easter Sunday is sunrise mass on the beach. My family is doing that too and I'm having brunch here back at the house which may end up being dinner too knowing my crew. I feel sorry for him. I don't think he has any family really. I don't think he's ever been married or has any kids because he never mentioned any plus it would explain why mass is his only plan. I was feeling bad for him and thought maybe I should invite him here but would that be weird? I don't like him romantically AT ALL. I think he seems a little boring and wouldn't want him to bring us all down with his strange demeanor but at the same time I dont feel right not to invite him but hope that he'll say no, which I think is equally wrong to be insincere in my invitation. Shouldn't he be dining with the priests or something? Why is this my dilemma? Help! Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted February 28, 2018 Share Posted February 28, 2018 Don't make it your dilemma. If a guy at work asked my boyfriend what he's doing for Easter he'd answer the same 'church & nothing else'. People would probably think poor guy but the truth is BF has me, my entire family, and plenty of friends that would love to have him over for Easter but he's one of those people that don't celebrate any holidays and he's not gonna start explaining that to people, he's too private. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted February 28, 2018 Share Posted February 28, 2018 Are you married? You can invite him for breakfast after mass, saying that from 8 am you will be having breakfast for an hour at your house and he is welcome to share. This way breakfast is done. You can usher him out the door with it was nice of him to come for a visit. Then you will not be stuck with him for the whole day. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted February 28, 2018 Share Posted February 28, 2018 I don't think anybody wants an invite that is based on pity. Why on earth would this guy want to go where he's not wanted? I'm single and I work odd shifts sometimes. Because of that there is the odd occasion where I will spend a holiday alone rather than with my family. I like company but I also love my alone time. Given a choice of spending a day enjoying my own company or spending it with someone who feels sorry for me and who was hoping I wouldn't even accept the invitation, which do you think I'd pick? Given your disdain for this guy I think it would be more hurtful to him to be invited. What if he doesn't understand that he was just your good deed for the day and he goes away thinking you actually like him and wants to be friends? People don't need pity and they certainly don't want be used for good deed brownie points. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 28, 2018 Share Posted February 28, 2018 I think it's a lovely gesture. Is there another single teacher (preferably male so he doesn't think it's a set-up) you could invite also so nobody gets the wrong idea? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author amaysngrace Posted March 3, 2018 Author Share Posted March 3, 2018 I'm still thinking it over if I'll invite him or not. I'm having two other single women here too besides myself so I don't think he'll get the wrong idea especially if I seat him nearer to them than to me. I appreciate everyone's input. Thank you! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 3, 2018 Share Posted March 3, 2018 You can't go wrong extending a kindness. Especially at Easter, think about what Jesus would do. May I suggest you read the Beatitudes or the Prayer of St. Francis as you make the decision. I think you should go ahead & extend the invitation. He will either politely decline or be eternally grateful that he is not alone for the holiday. If you are friendly but not flirty he will understand your gesture was one of kindness not romantic interest. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted March 3, 2018 Share Posted March 3, 2018 Why is this my dilemma? it is your dilemma because you are a nice, amazing person who also has a great "crew". By all means invite him over but make it clear it is not a date. We wouldn't want him to get the wrong idea. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted March 3, 2018 Share Posted March 3, 2018 Eh...You're a good soul, but I say don't do it.. It just seems like it will get weird...I mean, do you really want to tell him "you can come to my place, but don't get any ideas, because it's never gonna happen"??? And if you don't tell him, he'll probably think he's embarking on a love interest or his ship has finally come in...That would be equally bad.. .02 TFY 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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