What is the science behind this? Guys get me better results? Or coincidence?

[htpr24]

Well at work I have a major crush in a weird way on this guy that's like my manager I think it depends on the day. But he walks around regularly. He is gay and has a boyfriend I think but anyway when he's near me I'm more likely to succeed I think with guys. Especially like I was going to talk to him but instead a call goes through. And whatever I was going to say clearly had nothing to do with how I feel about him obviously but just whenever I am either close to interacting with him or he tells me good job or anything for that matter many of the time I will get like this rush thing and then the next call comes in and I generally will have a much higher chance of success through the call it seems. Well I just thought it was him generally like for some odd reason. But it happened yesterday again with this other guy I kind of like and I got the same rush which helped me from getting sent home I got 2 completes in that short time. I wish I could create that same rush thing normally. And it's always a guy on the phone who seems susceptible to it. I am wondering how can the guy on the phone be able to even tell what's going on with me on the other line? Some things I do understand. Like I get a much better reception with men on the phone when I am ovulating than on a regular day my voice sounds a lot better obviously. But this can happen on any day that the first guy is interacting with me to any extent. I don't think my voice really changes advice? How can I recreate that environment for me to always get a good successful rate?

 

 

Sorry I should have put this in the work section my bad

Edited February 28, 2018 by htpr24

[snowboy91]

Most of it just sounds like you have a better outcome when you receive positive encouragement. But that rush is stronger if it's a crush though... or someone really important. I don't know how many tiers in your organisation there are above you, but I imagine a similar thing might happen if, for example, the state or national boss walked in and said you were doing a good job. It's that feeling of "THIS person said I did good" that carries on to the next call or two.

 

I don't think there's an awful lot to read into here, but others may have a different perspective.

[htpr24]

Most of it just sounds like you have a better outcome when you receive positive encouragement. But that rush is stronger if it's a crush though... or someone really important. I don't know how many tiers in your organisation there are above you, but I imagine a similar thing might happen if, for example, the state or national boss walked in and said you were doing a good job. It's that feeling of "THIS person said I did good" that carries on to the next call or two.

 

I don't think there's an awful lot to read into here, but others may have a different perspective.

 

That's what is weird not always I can talk to the actual supervisors who are in better positions or my neighbor who is in the same position as the first guy I mentioned I lose calls while they are saying good job. Sometimes because I want to please and I get nervous. Every time the owner's son comes in I am all freaked out scared and I have a crush on him btw but I have a bad history with him being accused of absences when I wasn't or being caught being late etc.... Amazingly enough he's managed to help me out when I needed it still. And I have never ever had a good response from him more a matter of be good or else situation. Plus in general it's not that either individual said I did good. It was just if I said something to them. Almost like I talking to them in a different voice? But I don't even know what type of voice that is. Once in another division I remember he sent someone home and I went right into a call and completed like right away and I didn't even know I had it in me. I thought I was dead for the day. It's like an energy thing in that case though the respondent taking the call was a female. I just wish I could channel it now like I did then because I hardly even see him now and if I do he's not like near me like long ago. With the other guy we have a weird thing going on lately and he's just my coworker I've worked here longer than him twice as long actually. I actually talked about him in a previous thread. But it was just he sat near me and at one point we said something and smiled at each other after that I got 3 attempts 2 of which were successful completes. I had the same surge of feeling that I generally have with the other guy whenever I say anything to him whether it's positive or negative and like it's not like I favor him nor does he favor me. I originally was actually jealous of him because I really liked his boyfriend more than him. But anyhow, it's always an energy I get that seems like a higher rate of success rate. I used to think it was the fact that I like love green eyes a lot and they tend to calm me But with the guy I'm talking about I don't have to see his eyes much of the time I'm looking at my computer. And the energy I get isn't calm either it's a different kind of strong energy. I just wish I could trigger it normally day to day call to call. Whatever it is. I guess I needed it more back in the day.