Ladybug1982 Posted March 9, 2018 Share Posted March 9, 2018 I am a average looking female. I have decent morals and values. Lately ive decided to put myself back out there in the dating world after being single5+ years.. I keep meeting guys and things seem to be going well then poof they disappear. I just dont understand. Also i almost never give out my phone number but on the rare occasions i do the guy will cease contact in a few days. I feel like giving up. Im a very sensitive person and yes i do take these things personally. Although i shouldn't. If these guys were interested in me where did go? Im actually not even looking for a relationship. Im introverted and a homebody. These days im just looking for some companionship. Why is it so hard to make a friend? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chilli Posted March 9, 2018 Share Posted March 9, 2018 Weird , but l'd love to meet an introverted homebody women, couldn't care less what the rest of the worlds doing. l know she'll come out at home on her own turf, maybe even more so than the otherwise extroverted kind. l've just had enough of the world and l could quite happily just exist in our own bubble, relationship. l really dunno though , l started a similar thread and question and not really being a dater myself either, l just can't work any of the crap out that goes on now. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
nospam99 Posted March 9, 2018 Share Posted March 9, 2018 I am a average looking female. I have decent morals and values. Lately ive decided to put myself back out there in the dating world after being single5+ years.. I keep meeting guys and things seem to be going well then poof they disappear. I just dont understand. Also i almost never give out my phone number but on the rare occasions i do the guy will cease contact in a few days. I feel like giving up. Im a very sensitive person and yes i do take these things personally. Although i shouldn't. If these guys were interested in me where did go? Im actually not even looking for a relationship. Im introverted and a homebody. These days im just looking for some companionship. Why is it so hard to make a friend? There is a stereotype about men, that they're only looking for sex and that they'll 'move on' either if the woman they're dating doesn't eff them or after she does when they've gotten what they want. I'm willing to believe that there are plenty of guys like that. I also count myself among the men who want the relationship first and pretty much won't 'move on' if I'm sleeping with the woman because if it gets to the point of sleeping together I regard the relationship as at least semi-permanent. More men with my attitude? I'm again willing to believe. The trick for a woman is to filter out the NSA ONS guys from the LTR guys and pick your target demographic. OP, do you think this may be a part of your dating problem? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chilli Posted March 11, 2018 Share Posted March 11, 2018 l wonder if two introverts get along.? Maybe if you can find somebody in your area more like yourself could be a future. must be heaps of people hanging out at home these days , internet and all. Do you ever actually just write on you old site, exactly what your like and that you prefer home life ? Just wondering. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SevenCity Posted March 11, 2018 Share Posted March 11, 2018 You don't want a relationship, does that mean you want casual sex? Guys usually want one or the other (or something in between), but rarely focus time and energy on women just to be friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Fair Posted March 11, 2018 Share Posted March 11, 2018 It's just a throw away society and quite frankly, I'm tired of having to give men 'the chase' instead of being able to be straight forward and not play 'the game.' Give him your number when he asks for it without playing coy and he'll practically yawn in your face and disappear. You'd think after a certain age people would grow up but they never do. I'm like you, I take too much too seriously. But really, it has nothing to do with you... the day of the internet and online dating and FB and all this crap, has done more to alienate people than bring them together. Loneliness is an epidemic. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted March 11, 2018 Share Posted March 11, 2018 (edited) Lately ive decided to put myself back out there in the dating world after being single5+ years.. Just curious, how did you put yourself "back out there"? Edited March 11, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator off topic ~T Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 11, 2018 Share Posted March 11, 2018 OP, the problem is men have so many options with online dating it's easy for them to ghost and move to the next woman. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted March 11, 2018 Share Posted March 11, 2018 You don't want a relationship, does that mean you want casual sex? Guys usually want one or the other (or something in between), but rarely focus time and energy on women just to be friends. This. Very few guys just want to hang out as just friends. They can do that with another man. At least they left before humping and dumping the op or having some other strange situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ladybug1982 Posted March 12, 2018 Author Share Posted March 12, 2018 What i meant by putting myself out there .... I created a online profile on a dating in order to meet people. I don't go out anywhere except to get household supplies and shop for groceries. So its very unlikely id meet someone in person. And to answer question was i looking for casual sex.. Absolutely not! I havent been intimate with anyone in over 5 years. Im wondering if im asexual because i dont have a desire for sex actually. But that changes if im with someone. Basically i miss having companionship. For the right person i would get up the nerve to maybe go out for a movie or coffee.. It would be nice if i could find someone to talk to every few days to discuss life and basic everyday things.. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Chilli Posted March 12, 2018 Share Posted March 12, 2018 It's just a throw away society and quite frankly, I'm tired of having to give men 'the chase' instead of being able to be straight forward and not play 'the game.' Give him your number when he asks for it without playing coy and he'll practically yawn in your face and disappear. You'd think after a certain age people would grow up but they never do. I'm like you, I take too much too seriously. But really, it has nothing to do with you... the day of the internet and online dating and FB and all this crap, has done more to alienate people than bring them together. Loneliness is an epidemic. Exactly , place has gone mad. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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