Do women feel urgency to wed or make serious decisions once they are at that age?

[2.50 a gallon]

I am retired, in my younger days, I knew many career minded women. They did not want to marry and did not want to have kids. Almost every one of them hit a point in their mid to late 30's and it was "I want a baby"

One, a dear friend, was a fashion buyer for a large high end store. Her life was spent flying around the world attending fashion shows. A small town girl the had married, then wanting something larger in life, divorced so she could get her career. Then she found out her ex was remarrying, the night of the wedding was the second biggest pity parties I have ever seen. "She's f..n my husband. Mind you they had been divorced for almost a decade. The biggest was when she heard that they were going to have a kid.

Another dear friend worked for a computer company. It was her job to give away the company's computers. Yes colleges and schools. But also into the sporting arena. She was a big NFL fan and was on a first name basis with most of the head coaches. Tickets to the superbowl. Also baseball, basketball, soccer. AND racing, Indy Cars, LeMans, Formula 1, she spent a week in Monaco, attending parties and watching the race, pit side. And that wasn't the only one. Also America's cup, she got rides on the boats, while they were practicing.

Age 35, I want a baby. She gave that job up to stay home get married and have a kid.

[Els]

Well, just i was recently introduced to one who is 35 going 36 (she is year of dog so she will turn if not already 36). My parents pushes for kids and always say that women later in 30s have more complications to conceive etc which scientifically is correct. I guess part of me thinks about that in my head too so want to get an idea what the opposite sex thinks without accidentally offending her. Her parents are certainly worried as well.

 

I also want to settle down (36) so not sure the best way to set the tone so to speak with her about this. Time is precious so i dont think either of us want to waste any..

 

The best way is to simply be honest and talk to her about your concerns. You don't have make it about her or her age, just say that you would like to settle down and have kids asap. Then listen to what she says. Everything else is superfluous - we don't know her and don't know what she, in particular, wants.

 

I will say though that waiting a year at your/her age is substantially LESS risky than marrying someone whom you barely know just because of your age. Lots of people have children at 37. On the other hand if you find out you're incompatible after marrying and having kids, you are going to be faced with the choice of breaking up your family or staying with the wrong person forever.

[MeadowFlower]

I do think that most women are playing for keeps once they hit late twenties and early thirties. I'm in this age range and at least where I'm from it seems like a lot of the desirable men are already married--so I always used to joke that I'd have to wait for the first round of divorces.

 

But, I don't feel any rush (I'm 32). I still want to wait around a year before I cohabit with a man. I'm 6 months into my relationship and my boyfriend has been pushing for me to move in; I've had to put him off because I think more time is necessary before that step is taken to establish a good foundation.

 

 

Do you mean not be physically intimate until more time has passed?