figgurinoutlife Posted August 29, 2005 Share Posted August 29, 2005 okay, my ex has been having problems w/her boyfriend and she is calling alot more and acting different, we have been talking as friends for the last couple months. She asked me today if we could hang out tommorow night, not go anywhere, just hangout and I said that would be fine. We have not hung out in a long time. Tonight she called and asked me if I missed her, and I was honest and said at times, then she asks me when I miss her and I said when I hear a song on the radio, or go to a place we both went alot, or watch a movie that we both saw together. I wasn't real deep like saying I miss holding you in my arms at night, or your kiss, or anything deep like that. Then I felt compelled to ask her if she missed me and she said yes and that she would talk about it more tommorow when we hang out. I really still like this girl and would like to date her again just to see if a second chance would work. My question is when we hang out tommorow how should I act, what should I say? Did I say the right things so far? Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 29, 2005 Share Posted August 29, 2005 Just play it by ear. When she comes over, see how it goes. Treat her like someone else's girlfriend. Off limits. If she starts up with the 'I miss you' and 'hold me' type stuff, just be crystal clear about the fact that you will not be handing out 'girlfriend' type benefits to someone else's girlfriend (meaning you will not be the kissy/cuddle guy behind her boyfriend's back), and despite the fact that you two dated before - she is, in fact someone else's girlfriend. If she wants to get back with you, let her know that you are more than happy for that to happen - but ONLY when she is free to do so. If she keeps her boyfriend, she does not get to have you. Period. The more clear you are about this, the better. Don't accept or hand out mixed signals. Under no circumstances should you give her the impression that you are willing to see her 'that way' behind her boyfriend's back. If you offer that, she will take advantage of it and you'll find yourself the "OM", and she will likely keep her boyfriend too. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted August 29, 2005 Share Posted August 29, 2005 My question is when we hang out tommorow how should I act, ....ahhh, like a man?! Link to post Share on other sites
blue16 Posted August 30, 2005 Share Posted August 30, 2005 man this soap opera is still going on...? Link to post Share on other sites
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