Parents Want Me to Leave My Boyfriend Because He is in a Wheelchair

[adamsbabygirl]

need some advise. Please help.

 

I am 20 years old. I have been dating this guy for 7 months. My parents hate him and wish for me to break up with him. First of all let me tell you about my man. He is 21 years old, and he is in a wheel chair. He has a disease called muscular disofiend. I am not sure if I even spelled that right. The only thing that he can not do is walk. He does not have the full blown disease. His brother has it as well but his sister does not. His family compelely adores me and likes me ALOT. My parents and my little brother say that I am messing my life and that I am much better off without him and that he will never amount to anything and that I am just wasting my time. I try and tell them how complety in love I am and how happy I am. He treats me like a goddess he is just so amazing I can not describe it, he has treated me the best out of every guy I have dated. He believes and supports me through everything. I tell him everything we are so very very comfortable with each other. He makes me a better women. I have given him the streghten to re learn how to walk and he is making progress. We push and support each other like no other. He sends me roses buys me things treats me so well. He would die for me and I would die for him and I buy him things and its just so perfect. Then there are my parents again telling me that I don't know what I want and they want nothing to do with Adam and I. It hurts me all the time and my brother doesn't help he will make jokes and I never thought that my family would be like this. I guess the people they talk to agree with them and people I have talked with agree with Adam and I. I don't know what to do anymore. I even told my parents that we broke up but we did not but its not working. I love him so much and he loves me very very much. I know my parents want what is best for me but Adam is so caring and takes amazing care of me and he loves me like no other man has ever loved me before. He tells me how amazing and how wonderful and beautiful I am,he makes me the women who I am now. I know they want was his best for me but I think I know myself little bit better then they do. Please help!!!!

[outdated]

Let me just say first off how cool I think you are for looking beyond what most people would use as a deal breaker right off the bat. If he treats you as amazingly as you say and you truly are as happy as you say, then your family should have say in the matter. Why do they hate him so much? Purely because he is in a wheelchair? That's pathetic if it's true and your family should seek immediate counseling. No one knows when they might end up in a wheelchair. My mother certainly didn't. Should my father have left her because she wasn't going to amount to anything? It's ridiculous. You're a good person with a good soul that will steer you in the right direction.

[JPMorgan]

http://www2.loveshack.org/forums/t69656/

 

You posted your thread twice!

 

I'm with HokeyReligions on this - don't discount him because of the wheelchair, but know what you are getting into and make sure you can handle it -- its the only fair thing for both of you.

 

I don't think that there is anything wrong with someone who does not want a relationship with a handicapped person. Cheers to them for knowing what they want and what is important to them! If I was in a wheelchair I wouldn't want a relationship with someone because they either felt sorry for me; or felt obligated to me in some way and stayed even though they were unhappy or it became too much for them to handle.

 

A person with a disability deserves the same honest feelings and love as anyone else and doesn't deserve to have a guilty or sad feel-sorry-for kind of love just because they are in a wheelchair or something. Adam wouldn't you prefer honesty over pity?

[JS17]

I've seen your other thread too. You seem to have a wonderful relationship but I can't help but wonder if there's something that you're leaving out, either purposely or something that maybe you don't see yourself. I don't know, I'm just guessing because I can't imagine why your parents wouldn't like your wonderful boyfriend solely based on the fact that he's in wheelchair.

[Mr.positive]

It sounds like you two are amazingly happy. I already have a lot of respect for you. who cares what your parents say. Your not a kid anymore. He sounds like a great guy. I think you should do whatever you want it's your life.