My Husband Left Me

[Bodhismommy]

This will be a good one guys...My husband and I have been together for three years. When we got together I had 2 sons from a previous relationship. the youngest son was just 1 year old. A year into our relationship we had another baby...who is now 2. I took off the last 2 years to stay home with the kids and now am working full time. The last vacation my husband took was a year and a half ago, until July 1st. We spent 4,000 on a week long vacation, then about 2 weeks ago another $1,000 on a weekend. My husband grew up with A LOT of money, and puts great emphasis of a persons worth on it.

 

He came home last week and was so excited about this idea of starting his own business. I thought it was great, he has always lacked a little in motivation...but has great ideas. He came home and discussed it with me, I was excited for him. he said in a few years I can stay home and run the office for him etc etc etc. He phoned my mom and told her that we were coming over to talk about it on sunday. (he never phones my mom) She said he sounded so excited. Sunday came and he had to work a few hours. He said he was tired and didn't feel like going to my mom's. I had promised the kids they were staying at my mother's and so I took them out there and told him I would be home by around 4pm. He called at 3...at my mother's and told me he was going to his brother's...he wanted to have a visit alone with him. His brother doesn't really like me or the kids.

 

Monday he told his brother he was leaving me. Tuesday he told me. We watched a movie and after I told him I had been thinking about the business thing. I said "let's do it. We will go see a financial planner and do what we have to. For you let's do it." he then proceeded to tell me that he wasn't in love with me. That he loved me, but felt there was no chemistry anymore. he said that he was too young, and had 3 kids. But then denied it was the money. He also said that there was no other woman. (I believe him, he is never out without me)

 

I believe that he is confused and frusterated, and I understand why. He had very big plans with his life and they have not been realized. He said that he is willing to try and work on things, but living seperately at least for now. he says that we have not financially moved forward in three years and that he feels depressed. He feels he has given everything to us for 3 years and taken nothing for himself. He told me last night that if we do work things out he will move wherever we are, and not to worry about him being tied into a lease.

 

I told him I had gone out for dinner and he questioned me thoroughly about who, what where etc...why if he doesn't love me? Why be jealous? I feel like maybe his brother, who wants to leave his wife but wont, has encouraged this action. It would have eventually probably happened anyways...but I have this gut feeling.

 

Does he really wanna try? Is it the financial(which he has not fully admitted)? And finally...is there any hope? The woman he fell in love with was strong, independant and self assured...somehow I lost that over the last 2 years...could that be it? Please help me.