Should I tell her I love her?

[sam8989]

(Sorry about my English, i'm French educated)

 

Hello all, so I met this girl 3 years ago when she moved to my school... I was in the 9th grade and she was with me in the same class... At first there was nothing special, i did not text her at all or even talked to her. Only Hello/Goodbye... So my bestfriend loved her and then revealed his love to her, they had a relation for about a year and a half. On the 10th grade they broke up... A year has passed and still i'm not into her... this year "11th grade" we talked a bit more than the 2 years before but still nothing special... A month ago, We (me, her, a girl from our class and 2 guys from our class too) went all together and had walk, we then went to the amusment park... While we were playing with some games... Me and her held hands because she was afraid.. From this moment, i started feeling some passion towards her..A week have passed and we went me, her, and a her friend "which is also a girl from our class" to the movies... We watched a horror movie ("Truth or Dare?" In case you wanted to know) We also held hands while we were watching the movie... After that, we all decided to go back home walking... We also held hands on the road... We arrived her friend to her house and continued (me and her) to her house... on the road we had a deep conversation about life and friends (and still holding hands)... when we arrived to her house and went back to my house and started thinking of her... The feeling was amazing! I realized that i have a crush on her... a week or two have passed and we decided to go camping (me, her, and some of our friends)... At last we went only me and her since our other friends became busy with some school projects...) we had a great time and i'm sure she felt some passion... at night she was scared and cold so we cuddled in the tent and of course hold hands... Yesterday, we went me and her to had a dinner and watch a movie and it was amazing... while we were on the road we also held hands and i bought her a rose from a man that was standing infront of us so she said my name in a cute shy way... while we were in the movies a friend of mine called "she is a girl" so i felt that the girl that I crush is a little jelous... We had a deep conversation and held hands... i'm feeling it... i want to tell her that i love her so badly... I don't want to et rejected or something... i don't know why i'm so confused... she talks about her ex "which is also my bestfriend" from time to time... I want to know if she is the type of girl that acts like this or she also feels the same towards me... Thanks in advance!

[PRW]

You have been gutless, timid, and weak for so long, I don't see anything happening.

[preraph]

I think the way things are going is just fine for your age and the only concern I have is what your best friend thinks and whether this may cause you to lose him.

 

The way I see it, you are already dating her, holding hands, and she knows you like her. it is too soon -- way too soon - to say "I love you" because you don't know her well enough or long enough. So you need to just show her you like her and realize you are crushing on her but don't know her well enough to be saying you love her. And saying it too soon will scare off a lot of women because they know you can't possibly know them well enough to be saying it, so they distrust why you would do that. They may think you are desperate if you say I love you before you've been dating long enough.

 

She likes you or she wouldn't be cuddling and holding hands, so there's no need to tell her just to see if it's mutual. She likes you. Now, you need to just keep dating her long enough to find out if she still could be hung up on your friend or not. If she is, you need to stop being with her because you will get hurt and things will get messy. But sounds like she likes you, so that's great.

 

Just keep going out. Do not get in a hurry. Just date and spend more time. Kiss her next time you drop her off at home for the night. First kiss doesn't have to be big, just short and on the mouth. Next time make it longer. You want to increase the kissing and stuff gradually and it should feel natural. Since you're already cuddling, I think that's a good sign you're getting comfortable. Kiss her soon! Good luck. You're doing fine!