CautiouslyOptimistic Posted May 20, 2018 Share Posted May 20, 2018 [*]Act like a 5 year old and pinch her nose, mess her hair, poke her tummy or gently shove her. You should try this with the hot tennis girl. I’m sure she’d appreciate it as well. What?! No, don't do that! Link to post Share on other sites
FilterCoffee Posted May 20, 2018 Share Posted May 20, 2018 What?! No, don't do that! Hahaha. I like doing stuff like this because you not only break that physical barrier but it also puts both of you in a playful mood. Sometimes the girl returns it right back and before you know it I’m kissing distance away Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted May 20, 2018 Share Posted May 20, 2018 Hahaha. I like doing stuff like this because you not only break that physical barrier but it also puts both of you in a playful mood. Sometimes the girl returns it right back and before you know it I’m kissing distance away If someone pinched my nose or poked my belly on a first date, it would not put me in a playful mood. I get what you're saying, but flirty teasing can be done in ways that don't invade physical space in a very awkward way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted May 20, 2018 Share Posted May 20, 2018 I just generally don't touch people other than shaking hands so when there's someone attractive in front of me it becomes difficult to do it naturally. If you can be physically affectionate with people whom you love and who demonstrate love to you, like family and friends, it's easy to translate that to dates/women you're attracted to sexually. Just imagine you are familiar with them and let it happen. If you have problems with human contact in general, that's probably best saved for work with a professional. Having a similar background, I often found the 'instant' familiarity of dating to be a bit contrived and fake. It wasn't rather that was simply my perception from years of arms-length relationships of the non-sexual sort, relationships which grew slowly over long periods of time through trust and many interactions. Dating isn't like that. You get all squishy first and, sometimes, friendship and love develop out of that. Expect the young lady and the other ladies you may meet to be transitory. That's not bad, merely human. There are billions on the planet to meet and until one or a few stand out as significant, they're all the same. Yeah, you may have sex with a few. Wrap it up Link to post Share on other sites
Author max3732 Posted May 20, 2018 Author Share Posted May 20, 2018 If you can be physically affectionate with people whom you love and who demonstrate love to you, like family and friends, it's easy to translate that to dates/women you're attracted to sexually. Just imagine you are familiar with them and let it happen. If you have problems with human contact in general, that's probably best saved for work with a professional. Having a similar background, I often found the 'instant' familiarity of dating to be a bit contrived and fake. It wasn't rather that was simply my perception from years of arms-length relationships of the non-sexual sort, relationships which grew slowly over long periods of time through trust and many interactions. Dating isn't like that. You get all squishy first and, sometimes, friendship and love develop out of that. Expect the young lady and the other ladies you may meet to be transitory. That's not bad, merely human. There are billions on the planet to meet and until one or a few stand out as significant, they're all the same. Yeah, you may have sex with a few. Wrap it up No issues being affectionate with people I know like family members and friends, but with someone I'm attracted to it feels different. About a year go I went out with this woman I really liked and was able to touch her back, arm, etc but never was able to do more than that. With family and friends I'm not thinking about anything sexual like with women I'm interested in. I think especially with Weinstein, Schneiderman, Lauer, etc I'm really afraid of touching or doing something inappropriate with someone to the point I'm paralyzed from trying to advance anything romantic. I've always wanted to find someone I figure out I really like and be able to kiss her on the 1st or 2nd date and then get to a point where we can cuddle or make out before moving onto anything more intense. Link to post Share on other sites
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