How do I offer to share my wife with another man?

[Puraboy]

My wife admits that she’s sexually attracted to someone else for a while now. Even though we’re happily married she’s felt this way about a guy she’s been friends with for years but never had a romantic relationship with before. I’ve always known about her feelings since I first saw them together and it never bothered me, so she doesn’t have to hide how she feels. I actually encourage her to speak freely about him and it turns me on how sexually driven she gets. Sometimes we even fantasize about her sleeping with him.

 

It’s not something she would actually do but I find myself thinking more and more about having a special relationship where my wife would be allowed to sleep with him (or other men). She said she would only do something like that if it came from me and I arranged it for her.

 

I know that her friend feels the same way but he tries to act like he doesn’t around me. I want to somehow tell him it’s ok and that I’m ok with him sleeping with my wife without coming across weird or scaring him off.

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[Imajerk17]

You are thinking of green-lighting your wife to have an affair with another man? (And the "just sex" will indeed lead to a full-blown affair.)

 

This is all just a horrible idea all around. I really don't know what else to say. Except that I find it truly sad that a grown man actually would be condoning something like this from his wife.

Edited May 19, 2018 by Imajerk17

[preraph]

It's not going to end well. It's only going to complicate things. I wouldn't place myself in the role of "arranging sex" of my wife to a man. Get into this habit and one day the man will be an undercover vice. Just saying.

[smackie9]

Cuckholding is a fetish which a man gets off on the infidelity/watching his wife have sex with another man.

 

 

 

 

Not a big deal. All it takes is to ask if he is interested. If he scares away, well what difference does it make how you do the approach? He is either into it or not. knock yourselves out.

[somanymistakes]

This is NOT the right place to get advice on swinging/hotwifing. There are forums for that where you will find people with experience who can give you advice and tell you the things to look out for.

[BluesPower]

Think for a second... About all of this.

 

Now if you really have the cuckold\hot wife fetish and your wife is down with it, well OK. But in general, if you and her want to get into some form of swinging, how long have you been talking about it?

 

What rules have you set?

 

What are the various scenarios that you guys have look at?

 

There are a million questions that have to be looked at. Have you talked through all of them.

 

Do you get to play as well, with other women? Do you want to watch, film, or a hundred other things?

 

But here is the most important thing that you need to consider.

 

What makes you think she has not already screwed this guy? And her letting you think that it is your idea for her to sleep with him is not a ploy to get "Permission" to continue to sleep with him at will?

 

What makes you think that she will not see you as weak and stupid for letting her sleep with other men?

 

And why does it have to be this guy? If you were going to start into this type of thing, wouldn't it be better for it to be a random guy instead of someone that she knows, someone that she already likes? Someone that there is less chance of her leaving you for?

 

Frankly, it really sounds like you are being played.

 

You really need to think about this for a LONG time before you get involved...

[awesomeblondie]

Having an open relationship that is healthy IS possible. Open relationships do not automatically insinuate a "horrible idea."

 

However, open relationships requite impeccable honesty and communication skills, but not everyone is capable of this. As one of the earlier posts mentioned - there are many questions/rules/conditions to consider. You absolutely need to be comfortable discussing them with your wife. If you don't feel comfortable having this discussion, then an open relationship is not the best choice, and will have a greater chance ending badly.

[BettyDraper]

Being unable to converse about this topic with your wife shows a lack of readiness for an alternative marriage.

Open marriages require complete transparency and honesty.

[ExpatInItaly]

I would not recommend experimenting with this of friend of hers. The risk for feelings getting involved are far too high and you will likely have quite a mess on your hands that isn't limited to bedroom activity.

 

If you are interested in exploring the lifestyle, this isn't the way to go about it.

[morrowrd]

My wife admits that she’s sexually attracted to someone else for a while now. Even though we’re happily married she’s felt this way about a guy she’s been friends with for years but never had a romantic relationship with before. I’ve always known about her feelings since I first saw them together and it never bothered me, so she doesn’t have to hide how she feels. I actually encourage her to speak freely about him and it turns me on how sexually driven she gets. Sometimes we even fantasize about her sleeping with him.

 

It’s not something she would actually do but I find myself thinking more and more about having a special relationship where my wife would be allowed to sleep with him (or other men). She said she would only do something like that if it came from me and I arranged it for her.

 

I know that her friend feels the same way but he tries to act like he doesn’t around me. I want to somehow tell him it’s ok and that I’m ok with him sleeping with my wife without coming across weird or scaring him off.

 

Personally, I think it's a bad idea. It's selfish for one thing, wanting her to sleep with other men. It's bad enough you are green lighting her "friend" - just to satisfy some fetish. Sex and marriage are such a wonderful combination, why would you want to contaminate it by bringing in someone else, and complicating your life. I think you're making a mistake.

[fredflint]

My wife admits that she’s sexually attracted to someone else for a while now. Even though we’re happily married she’s felt this way about a guy she’s been friends with for years but never had a romantic relationship with before. I’ve always known about her feelings since I first saw them together and it never bothered me, so she doesn’t have to hide how she feels. I actually encourage her to speak freely about him and it turns me on how sexually driven she gets. Sometimes we even fantasize about her sleeping with him.

 

It’s not something she would actually do but I find myself thinking more and more about having a special relationship where my wife would be allowed to sleep with him (or other men). She said she would only do something like that if it came from me and I arranged it for her.

 

I know that her friend feels the same way but he tries to act like he doesn’t around me. I want to somehow tell him it’s ok and that I’m ok with him sleeping with my wife without coming across weird or scaring him off.

 

And if she falls in love with him, then what?

[usa1ah]

Do it and let the drama begin. I got the popcorn.

 

Why do fools want to make their wives another man’s whore.

[CupCakess]

About 99% of the open relationships that begin this way, end up in divorce, separation, etc.

 

The only, only, only relationship of this kind that works, be it cuckold/swinger/open/etc, is when both parties agree from the start of the relationship (or at least in the early stages) that both of them have this type of fetish and would like to enjoy a non-traditional marriage. This is because both of them are interested in that particular life-style from the start, and the relationship is built grows around that fetish.

 

But when you have a "normal" relationship and you suddenly wish to turn it into some sort of open marriage, it utterly fails in nearly all the cases.

 

Do it and let the drama begin. I got the popcorn.

 

Why do fools want to make their wives another man’s whore.

 

 

They watch too much cuckold porn, and it screws up their brains.

[Dancewatcher2]

My wife admits that she’s sexually attracted to someone else for a while now. Even though we’re happily married she’s felt this way about a guy she’s been friends with for years but never had a romantic relationship with before. I’ve always known about her feelings since I first saw them together and it never bothered me, so she doesn’t have to hide how she feels. I actually encourage her to speak freely about him and it turns me on how sexually driven she gets. Sometimes we even fantasize about her sleeping with him.

 

It’s not something she would actually do but I find myself thinking more and more about having a special relationship where my wife would be allowed to sleep with him (or other men). She said she would only do something like that if it came from me and I arranged it for her.

 

I know that her friend feels the same way but he tries to act like he doesn’t around me. I want to somehow tell him it’s ok and that I’m ok with him sleeping with my wife without coming across weird or scaring him off.

 

I am with you and would love to allow my wife to enjoy other men, love watching her dance with strangers (another story) anyway the one thing I would be cautious of would be the fact she may have more than just sexual feelings for him and if you put the two together (sex and motional contact) it may end badly. Good luck in the future and I hope it as sexual and fulfilling as I want from ours.