mrs rubble Posted May 26, 2018 Share Posted May 26, 2018 if he was abusive but making $250K per year would you have still left him? Yes. I would have at least got child support in that case! Link to post Share on other sites
bathtub-row Posted May 26, 2018 Share Posted May 26, 2018 If two people are together as a couple, whether they're married or not, let's just say committed, then leaving someone over something like that is just downright heartless. I can hardly fathom someone being that way. I suppose it happens but I have personally never seen it myself. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted May 26, 2018 Share Posted May 26, 2018 I've been with my partner through a few retrenchments - wouldn't have considered leaving. That's because he's hard working and I know he'll get another job. But if my partner was repeatedly fired from jobs due to his own ineptitude, yeah, it would be a deal breaker. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted May 26, 2018 Share Posted May 26, 2018 Around here, when a woman doesn't want to work they become realtors...They go out and show a few houses a week, eh...no one buys and they come home and tell their men....."oh well..that's how it goes:" . But it is interesting.... TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted May 26, 2018 Share Posted May 26, 2018 She needed time to secure the attorney. It's called monkey-branching. It didn't have a name back then, but you she was "monkey-branching"... I did learn a valuable lesson, if a woman threatens to leave you, encourage her to do so. If she is living with you, help her pack her belongings. In the end, I damaged my career path by taking that crappy job. Link to post Share on other sites
snowboy91 Posted May 26, 2018 Share Posted May 26, 2018 If someone breaks up with a partner immediately after they lose their job, then that just goes to show how shallow they are. A breakup following a job loss might be warranted if the partner losing the job takes a long time to find a new job (whether it be due to laziness or lack of available jobs) and the other partner feels they are doing all the heavy lifting financially. Or if there ends up being a change in lifestyle (for example, moving for a new job) which isn't compatible with the other partner. But an immediate end to the relationship suggests that the relationship is built on the financial status of that partner and not on genuine connection. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chilli Posted May 26, 2018 Share Posted May 26, 2018 You kidding right, where ever you live remind me not to go there. lf some worthless so n so dumped me bc l lost my job then she wouldn't be anyone l'd wanna be wasting my time on let me tell ya. Link to post Share on other sites
Shining One Posted May 26, 2018 Share Posted May 26, 2018 It didn't have a name back then, but you she was "monkey-branching"...She was living in your home at your expense while searching for your replacement. She couldn't dump you immediately because she needed to secure someone else to leech from first. That seems like a textbook case of monkey-branching to me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted May 26, 2018 Share Posted May 26, 2018 She was living in your home at your expense while searching for your replacement. She couldn't dump you immediately because she needed to secure someone else to leech from first. That seems like a textbook case of monkey-branching to me. You are correct!! Link to post Share on other sites
Logo Posted May 27, 2018 Share Posted May 27, 2018 (edited) When a person truly loves another, they will stand by them. When they don’t, they will search for and dig up a million and one excuses to justify a breakup. Of course, there will always be those who will walk away the minute they can’t get that beautiful necklace, or pair of shoes as a gift or ride in a fancy late model car. But when you have 2 mature, healthy adults in a healthy relationship, situations like the one described are supposed to bring them closer and strengthen the bond between them. It always strikes me as odd that people can be with someone for months or years, but the minute either one hits a bump in the road, suddenly they’re relegated to the “stranger” category. “I don’t know you anymore”. Isn’t that bizarre and vicious? Some people have a very superficial view of what relationships should look like. A good relationship, is one where the two work together to weather the storm and come out stronger and closer on the other side. Gold diggers and those looking to “marry up” need not apply. Edited May 27, 2018 by Logo Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 27, 2018 Share Posted May 27, 2018 If two people are together as a couple, whether they're married or not, let's just say committed, then leaving someone over something like that is just downright heartless. I can hardly fathom someone being that way. I suppose it happens but I have personally never seen it myself. it happens all the time bathrub-row Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted May 28, 2018 Share Posted May 28, 2018 "Bill collector's at my door What can you do for me? Hey No romance without finance No romance without finance Boy, nothin' in life is free That's why I'm askin' you what can you do for me I've got responsibilities So I'm lookin' for a man whose got money in his hands 'Cause nothin' from nothin' leaves nothin' You got to have somethin' if you wanna be with me Oh, life is too serious, love's too mysterious A fly girl like me needs security".................... :lmao: TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CollinW Posted May 29, 2018 Share Posted May 29, 2018 If I ever lost my job I would honestly break up with whoever I was dating right off the bat. It would be better for both of us for me to focus on getting myself together first. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Logo Posted May 30, 2018 Share Posted May 30, 2018 So let’s say you’re married with kids and you lose your job, are you going to divorce her and sayonara? Even if you’re not married, what is the purpose of having a partner in your opinion? It sounds like you see your partner as a separate unit, as opposed to someone who has your back and you have hers. Off topic: Society’s views on relationships in 2018 boggle my mind. Nothing against you personally, I simply don’t understand what’s happening to people these days. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BluesPower Posted May 30, 2018 Share Posted May 30, 2018 This is something that sprung to mind recently. Okay, I understand that some people have standards and would prefer if their partner was working and/or earning a stable income. But then there are times when someone gets laid off or terminated, and then the person leaves his/her partner because of it. What do you think of all of this? I can understand if someone is unemployed because of lack of motivation, but because someone lost a job, whether the person was laid off or fired, I really don't think it's justified to dump the person because of it. Where do you stand? They have a word for people... with no job. It is called a bum. How long has this person been out of work? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
escapedmelody Posted May 30, 2018 Share Posted May 30, 2018 My ex dumped me for this reason, and it wasn't like we were living together so I didn't understand why my financial issues were of his concern (I was living with my parents, which he also didn't like...) I was laid off and he broke up with me a week later. (I didn't give him crap when he was unemployed, but oh well.) Link to post Share on other sites
Author E-Squared Posted June 2, 2018 Author Share Posted June 2, 2018 (edited) They have a word for people... with no job. It is called a bum. How long has this person been out of work? Look, my friend, this is just where you and I differ. Edited June 2, 2018 by E-Squared Link to post Share on other sites
Only-yours Posted June 4, 2018 Share Posted June 4, 2018 You're not necessarily wrong, but where's your evidence? Is there data showing this? Do you at least know someone personally that it happened to? How many people do you know that it's happened to? How does that compare to how many people you know overall? It's the "a lot" and "just the way it is" that makes me dig in my heels Because I don't doubt for a minute that it happens sometimes, but I think it's dangerous to overgeneralise. One thing that we definitely hear about in the news now and then is men who are AFRAID that they will be left if they lose their job/income and therefore they lie about losing their jobs, run up debts they can't afford, and sometimes kill themselves or their families because they're too scared to face up to the mistake. Everyone would have been a LOT better off if they'd just admitted they had a problem and dealt with it. For that reason I think it's important not to encourage people to think that they will be immediately dumped if they lose their jobs. I never met any man who would be afraid that they will be left if they lose their job. However, people usually develop a negative image of men who don't earn money or lost their job. Now their is pretty much compelling evidence that WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED to rich men, according to studies. Sources: https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/women-really-do-prefer-rich-men-study-finds-f2gjhr5gh https://www.newshub.co.nz/home/world/2018/01/women-are-more-attracted-to-rich-men-scientists.html Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 4, 2018 Share Posted June 4, 2018 Now their is pretty much compelling evidence that WOMEN ARE ATTRACTED to rich men, according to studies. I will take that one step further and say that attractive (and young) women are attracted to rich men Link to post Share on other sites
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