WTF to do????

[Love_aint_happenin]

Long story short, I asked her to leave, after 10 months of living together, which she did 6 weeks later. I was refusing to show my feelings for her based on previous marriage and such, I know my bad! She moved 1 mile from me and we continued to,..well you know. She runs into a guy she knows that has a daughter the same age as her son and they (the son and daughter) know each other.

2 weeks later, this guy is asking her to marry him, but she's not accepting, yet anyway!

She has moved out of her place down the road and is now staying with him!

She still loves me and I DO love her, now that I know what I had and have lost.

She calls me every day and today she calls and asks to use my computer, I say sure, you know where the keys are, help yourself.

I come home to a sparkling clean place, a new bed spread on the bed, incense burning. etc.

WTH do I do?

I don't have a clue of what she's trying to do or say.

Help me to figure this out please?

Alan

[Maria46]

Sounds like she would like another opportunity?

 

Best to communicate with her and find out whats up. That would be the only way I can see to figure her out.

 

Best of luck

[Love_aint_happenin]

Sounds like she would like another opportunity?

 

Best to communicate with her and find out whats up. That would be the only way I can see to figure her out.

 

Best of luck

That's what I'm thinking and hoping for.

She also told me that she really didn't need to use the computer after all, but rather was playing our favorite songs instead.

She says she wants to come back, has told me she was coming back, but then she stays another night with him.

She calls and leaves messages on my phone about what a miserable night and day she's had and how she just wanted to hear my voice to make her smile.

Sooooo confused I am.

[Love_aint_happenin]

She's also tried to have sex with me probably 6 times, but she knows I don't mess with anyone who's with someone else.

About 3 weeks ago she drives up to "our" home, tosses me a bottle of this oil we reallly like and we walk inside.

I reach into the fridge for a beverage for her and she pulls me to her quickly and kisses me, really nice like, puts her hands on my ass and tells me she wants me to "take" her right now.

I said no way, not while you're with him, that'd just be wrong and of course she agreed, probably to not feel rejected.

I'm ramblin here, gotta get to work.

Ya'll have a great day!

[country gal]

call me cautious but i would tread lightly with this one.... it obvious that there are still strong feelings between you two, but on the flipside, she's with someone else and (very heavily) putting the moves on you. that would make me nervous. its one thing to fall for someone else while you are committed to another which then prompts you to leave. its another to string 2 people along - no matter what the reason. i 'd ask her to make a solid decision aobut what she wants ... in other words, sh*t or get off the pot. my $.02

[Love_aint_happenin]

call me cautious but i would tread lightly with this one.... it obvious that there are still strong feelings between you two, but on the flipside, she's with someone else and (very heavily) putting the moves on you. that would make me nervous. its one thing to fall for someone else while you are committed to another which then prompts you to leave. its another to string 2 people along - no matter what the reason. i 'd ask her to make a solid decision aobut what she wants ... in other words, sh*t or get off the pot. my $.02

Thanks for the reply CG, that's exactly what I've thought today. Basically, "you can't have your cake and eat it too!"

Again, I thank you for your thoughts!

Alan