Brought together for the future

[mortensorchid]

In the last few months, I have become very tight with a neighbor in my apartment building who I will call Sally. I felt sorry for her, she is disabled (she has a condition where she has a tumor wrapping itself around the base of her spine and walks with a cane) and spends a lot of time alone. I told her I understand how she feels - the feelings of loneliness and isolation and wishing that someone would come in and show you the way to find fun or good things to do rather than just one dead end after another. She's married, she and her husband are on the outs. I don't know much about him save for what she has told me, he works second shift and spends a lot of time away. They are both not being faithful to one another, but I stay out of that. SHe said I have been her rock and one of the few bright spots in her life. And I am happy to be that for her.

 

She has a plan now. In August she has a hearing to officially get on disability, and she thinks this is going to happen soon. When she gets the green light on disability, she said she is going to leave her husband, divorce him and move on. I asked where she will go to. She said she wants to move to Florida. I said I have been thinking about where I am going in terms of my career and what I can/cannot do with it. ANd I said I think we have been brought together for a reason, I've been her rock and she was mine when I got fired via text message at 9:30 pm on a Thursday night - yes really. I was with her and I had a breakdown, she held me up. I said I want to go to Florida as well, and I think we have been brought together to not just be friends but because we are going to restart our lives together. Not as a couple, of course, but as friends going forth with each other as each other's support system.

 

I have said this to my Mom already that we are making a plan. Once she gets on disability, she said she is going to go to Florida. SHe's already doing research on real estate and places she would want to be. I said I would come down for an extended visit at some point once she is set up, and I would perhaps spend the spring semester 2019 there so that I can get a feel for being there, see the markets around and start subbing there (I am a substitute teacher and do other things as well on the side like everyone else).

 

Sound like a good plan? I wanted to run this by others. I am not looking to restart for the wrong reasons, but I feel that I have been played out in my hometown and it's time to move onto someplace else if just for a bit to try it out. But not making a rash decision.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

I think that could be a great move for you as long as you're not relied on too much as a caretaker. I would love to be able to pick up and move to a new locale!