At a loss for words with the weekend antics

[mortensorchid]

This weekend came together in a whirl and it was … Well I am at a loss for words truly. It was a unique experience which I hope someone on this forum has had in the past. Long story short, after much drama long ago, not speaking to one another for many years, the first man I ever did IT with found me on Facebook about 9 years ago and we reconnected. I am happy to say that we now have a second relationship as adults. We talk about 5 or 6 times a year. Then, the other week, without going into too much detail, he said he was going to be in his hometown date through date. A voice said "Go", and I said "Yes, I am coming to see you."

 

I had no idea how I would react upon seeing him, he was a drunken mess way back when and I was an 18 year old. He treated me and other bad, one day I said enough and I walked away. But I put that behind me because I was curious - how would I react if I ever saw him in the flesh again? And I am such a different person now after 25 years. When I got there, I got out of the car and he was there. And I went to him and we held one another for at least five minutes, I couldn't speak, I was shaking.

 

After a bit I said I can't believe this is really happening, we were really here. We talked a lot about the past eventually, he said he was sorry for all that he had put me through. I said I was angry at myself and at him he should not have been the first I was with but I resolved it, I said I can't change the past on my part and his issues had nothing to do with me nor were they mine to fix. And he said yes that was the case. It felt good to be able to say those things to one another and resolve them.

 

And then he said he had a gf in the new city where he lives, I said I saw that on Facebook. He said they have an open relationship and he also had a weekend pass. I'm not sure if I believed that, but I said "Yes, we will" because I wanted to have the novelty of being with someone who you haven't been with in 25 years not to mention the first man I'd ever been with EVER 25 years after the fact. It was mind blowing, truly, being one of the more unique experiences one can have. Believe him about the gf/open relationship? Not sure, not really concerned with that. Did what I did and not unhappy about it.

[Happy Lemming]

You are two consenting adults.

 

If you had fun and enjoyed yourself, then good for you.

[Els]

You are two consenting adults.

 

We don't actually know if the girlfriend consented to him sleeping with another woman or not, and my bet is on "no". This sort of matters, you know - if a man posted here saying he slept with a woman who clearly had a boyfriend/husband, he'd be lambasted.

 

OP, I'm not sure why you created this thread to be honest. Do you expect pats on the back for your cavalier attitude and welcoming a partnered man into your bed? People treat you the way you let them, so good on you for letting someone cheat on their partner with you, I guess.

 

The "open relationship" thing is obviously a lie, especially if the woman herself did not mention it. Very few people are genuinely in open Rs, and the ones who are won't exactly be waiting for out-of-town travel in order to have sex.

[alphamale]

this guy hasn't changed a bit in 25 years

[mortensorchid]

this guy hasn't changed a bit in 25 years

 

No he hasn't, but it was an experience to be able to have that I am blown away by it. I am not sure if he was telling the truth or not, but I don't expect to be patted on the back for this at all. But I don't feel guilty about it because I went into it knowing this was the case and it was an experience to be able to have that very few get to. It's what it is.

[DrReplyInRhymes]

How is this a second chance again? You trying to win him from his girl?

You think a weekend of debauchery will shock him after your whirl?

You're looking to just have some fun? Is that what you sought?

Then have some fun and be sure to tighten the wrist knot!