Love Patterns

[Mysterio]

When you read on our board when it comes to having love in our lives. What patterns do you see here when we talk about it occuring.

 

Shyness= can't ask out a woman if your a man.

 

Blockers= every romantic prospect you encounter is attached.

 

No interest.= If they are single. When you interact there is not romantic connection.

 

For me. I seem to have a high amount of women that are attached. Single women are rare and I am at a point where it just looks that razzle dazzle me into asking a woman out. She has to be very warm and sweet to me, before she triggers anytype of romantic attraction towards her.

[preraph]

Well, both shy and blockers waste an inordinate amount of time and get nowhere, end up angry or feeling powerless.

 

The "no interest" ones will be okay if they're the type to just write it off and move on. If not, they end up wasting time too.

[Chilli]

Sadly , it's pretty obvious many around have never known real love , matter of fact l often think they;'re mostly the people that fill up forums and so you get this distorted sideways views and ideas coming out everywhere.

 

But for me ,it's happened twice in my life and the same both times and the thing was l just felt it straight away . I know many don't believe this stuff but yeah , l knew in seconds.

Everything was just there , it just was. From the person to things l loved about looks even clothes the way she talked and thought and beliefs and a million other things.

All just there, right in front of me.

[Chilli]

You both feel it you know.

lt's just a given,it's right there, as if you just are. full stop.

 

Maybe different for other people but that's how it worked for me.

[guest569]

How are these “love patterns”? This has little to do with love?

[Mysterio]

I guess I could have refined the question better. Perhaps I should have written love obstacles.

 

One pattern I keep seeing a hearing in life. Looking for Love at least 75 % of the time, does not result in Love at all. Its like it comes and leaves our lives. Its what you do with it on your end that matters.

 

I would like to have a steady romantic relationship, as I don't like going out there trying to make it happen all the time. Too much stress. Its not like I see a bunch of single women open to it from me, or other men around me for the most part.

[guest569]

Ok, love obstacles. Past trauma.

[5x5]

When you read on our board when it comes to having love in our lives. What patterns do you see here when we talk about it occuring.

 

Shyness= can't ask out a woman if your a man.

 

Well being shy isn't going to do you any favours. The way I figure it, if you're not with someone you've got nothing to lose if they reject you. So one ought to have a go, for the chance they will say yes.

 

Blockers= every romantic prospect you encounter is attached.

 

Can't say that's happened to me, though there some who were. Yet that didn't stop some of them dumping who they were with, in favour of being with me.

 

No interest.= If they are single. When you interact there is not romantic connection.

 

Well absent having a visceral attraction, I don't see much point in wanting them to be with me.

 

For me. I seem to have a high amount of women that are attached. Single women are rare and I am at a point where it just looks that razzle dazzle me into asking a woman out. She has to be very warm and sweet to me, before she triggers anytype of romantic attraction towards her.

 

I was always looking for sex with women who I thought were sexually attractive to me. Love was simply something that followed with some of them through time afterwards.

 

I also found getting sex out of the way early on, established whether we got on sexually in practice or not. If we did, it was fine to press on and invest oneself emotionally. If we didn't it was far easier to let them go early, rather than make an emotional investment into a sexual partner who didn't mesh well sexually.

[Chilli]

Sadly , l don;t think you understand how it works or that it's not something you can make happen.

lt's all about feeling , and that doesn't come around very often so with the rest , your wasting your time if it's love you want.

Edited June 14, 2018 by Chilli

[Mysterio]

So Chilli you are saying that I should be leading with my sexuality than my love vibes?

 

I have done it before. Its hard for me, as its not natural for me to be that way. I just don't see women's agenda to get laid. Thats from my female friends to my friends wives.

[5x5]

So Chilli you are saying that I should be leading with my sexuality than my love vibes?

 

Do you miss sex? Do you like sex? Do you want sex?

 

I have done it before. Its hard for me, as its not natural for me to be that way. I just don't see women's agenda to get laid. Thats from my female friends to my friends wives.

 

Yet there are plenty of women seeking sex and complaining about it when they aren't getting any.

 

In my experience women are wanton, highly sexual animals who have a tremendous well of sexual lust and desire.

 

Do you really think you're going to nice your way into a woman pants and perhaps share romantic (sexual) love, without generating some sort of visceral sexual desire in the first place?

[guest569]

So Chilli you are saying that I should be leading with my sexuality than my love vibes?

 

I have done it before. Its hard for me, as its not natural for me to be that way. I just don't see women's agenda to get laid. Thats from my female friends to my friends wives.

 

What do you mean? “Lead with sexuality” lead what ? “Than love vibes” what are love vibes?

 

Are you saying sex is not for women? What is a man’s agenda to get laid?

[Chilli]

So Chilli you are saying that I should be leading with my sexuality than my love vibes?

 

I have done it before. Its hard for me, as its not natural for me to be that way. I just don't see women's agenda to get laid. Thats from my female friends to my friends wives.

 

 

Nah sorry , that's not what l was trying to say at all.

lsn't it a long term relationship your seeking , love ?

l'm saying when you meet the right person you'll just know , maybe even on sight. Or at least if there is a pattern then that's been mine. Maybe yours will be different.

[Mysterio]

In my social environment. I don't get the vibe from women that all they want to do is get laid. From my female friends /aquintances etc.

 

Thats my perception. Of course when I am with a woman. Its not all about being nice and proper. Its just to go into that, I want to get laid and have sex with her. That I find a bit too jarring.

 

I Ideally would like to go in like this. We go out have a great time with interesting conversations and laughs building into Sex and affection.

 

For me the women that I have been able to get into any type of physical affection. The women are more on the make towards me. Not me making that initial effort to court them. If we become a couple its usually 6 weeks later.

 

I think its usually easier for a woman to bed a man, than vice versa. I like to know what I am getting into. I don't want to go out there. Bed a woman then wind up with a kid our of wedlock. Its too easy for things like that to happen.

 

Why can't it be like this. Jane likes Mysterio and they get together and its cut and dry. No games and no Soap Opera. Thats the way I would want things to work out.

 

Leading with Sexuality to me is looking at a woman as only good for one thing. A roll in the hay. I really don't get that vibe from a lot of women I know. For me the only time I really get any action is when I don't care or come off that way. Never when I have intentions of courting a woman, which is us going out to Dinner. Rarely does it end with us bedding each other. I am 47, but feel 17 when it comes to the woman situation. Once we are making out. Then you test your boundaries.

 

I guess for me. I really need clear signs that she likes me, before anything sexual comes out.

[OatsAndHall]

I see many insecurities pop up on this board and not just insecurities that prevent people from landing dates; issues that sabotage potential relationships. I see a few posts every week involving situations where I feel someone is reading far too much into a situation, generally involving technology and communication ("They didn't text me that night... I saw they were on Facebook but didn't 't return a text within a few hours, etc..etc..).

 

 

 

And, I am also seeing some social ineptness within posts. Situations pop up where folks just need to read between the lines. They are exhibiting Behavior A; THEY'RE INTO YOU! ASK THEM OUT! Or, they're exhibiting Behavior B; they don't want to date you/they're playing you... Cut your losses and move on..

[Mysterio]

Do you miss sex? Do you like sex? Do you want sex?

 

 

 

Yet there are plenty of women seeking sex and complaining about it when they aren't getting any.

 

In my experience women are wanton, highly sexual animals who have a tremendous well of sexual lust and desire.

 

Do you really think you're going to nice your way into a woman pants and perhaps share romantic (sexual) love, without generating some sort of visceral sexual desire in the first place?

 

 

I want Sex as the next guy. I just want a solid foundation when I have Sex with a woman. Not some FWB. A woman that is basically my GF who wants that from me as well.