My daughter does not like my boyfriend

[bathtub-row]

I think we can all make the informed assumption that the mom here gets the seriousness of this situation. She’s already pointed out that she’s taking her daughter to counseling. When she agreed that she’s had weak boundaries with her daughter, I can see where this is potentially a situation where she’s being manipulated. Honestly, this generation of kids who spout out suicide every time a situation makes them uncomfortable reeks of a group who’s decided that it’s the best way to get their way and get attention. I don’t know if that’s the case with OP’s daughter - only she knows that. I think we can also give her credit that she understands this is a forum of strangers who only know a small amount of the situation, and if she’s deliberately leaving out things that she doesn’t want us to know.

 

Having said all that, if my child had ever even hinted at suicide, I’d be all over that. First of all, I’d make sure he understood just how powerful words are and that things like that shouldn’t be spoken glibly. If OP’s daughter is a product of bullying, then that compounds the problems here and there’s no question about the seriousness of the situation. Regardless of all that, this mom would do her and her daughter a huge favor by being more of a parent to her daughter who obviously needs a strong and loving guiding hand.

[whichwayisup]

I don't have anyone else to help me especially for free.Her dad is not in her life.

 

Thank you, I'm making sure to take things slowly.

 

No family or friends? Neighbours? Cousins or other relatives? I highly doubt he's the only person you can go to for help.

[Thor of Love]

It's a big disturbance to a kid's inner peace bringing a a foreigner to her home. Her home is her sanctuary where she wants to remain comfortable only with people she can relate with, she also doesn't want to share her time she spend with you with anyone else, she probably grew this way and is used to it. I would also be very mad if my mother brought a foreigner to my home, he wouldn't manage to stay for too long that's for sure.

 

You just have to make a choice, you either respect your daughter or you don't and you lose her, even if she doesn't suicide, she would certainly go into a deep depression and will hate you because you are controling and disturb her life and she would be right. You exercise control over her space so she responds accordingly, there is nothing strange about her behavior.

 

I mean, your daughter shouldn't even have to threat you about this, you should be mature enough to understand such a thing.

 

Nonetheless, she looks like the strong type, if she is strong enough to threat you about this then I don't think she will suicide or harm herself, suicide types are usually more shy about what is bothering them and keep it to themselves. You shouldn't risk it though, you will really wound her if you do this, this can make her stronger in a way but also it can make her really weak.

Edited June 23, 2018 by Thor of Love