Author Mysterio Posted June 18, 2018 Author Share Posted June 18, 2018 Freudian Slip you caught me. LOL. I really meant to say the personality connection goes to first place. Looks become second place. Link to post Share on other sites
Romantic_Antics Posted June 18, 2018 Share Posted June 18, 2018 I'm the luckiest man alive. I have a soul mate who is physically beautiful, with the most spectacular eyes you'll see this side of heaven, but it's everything else about her that makes her the most beautiful woman in the world to me. Her physical looks helped kindle a spark, but it's the content of her heart, mind, personality, and soul that made me fall in love with her and want to spend the rest of my life with her. It's not all about looks. I could be blind and my future wife would be just as beautiful to me as she is right now. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
anduina Posted June 19, 2018 Share Posted June 19, 2018 Mysterio, what age women are you trying to date? Since you're 47, twenty and even some thirty year olds might have a problem with that. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted June 19, 2018 Share Posted June 19, 2018 Let's face it, whenever this comes up most guys will gush about how important it is that their current partner (who just happens to be pretty) is smart, funny, interesting, etc. Yet I've seldom seen any guys chime in that their partner is overweight and ugly, but they love them for their beautiful personality. Looks are far from the only thing that matters, and there are plenty of other reasons not to be interested in someone, but most of the time they're still the most important thing. That's just the reality of the world we live in. I won't lie I do feel lucky as hell that I hit the trifecta which is beauty, brains and a genuinely good heart but there is no way I would be with a good looking woman who was an awful person. If something did happen to her face I would not dump her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mysterio Posted June 19, 2018 Author Share Posted June 19, 2018 Mysterio, what age women are you trying to date? Since you're 47, twenty and even some thirty year olds might have a problem with that. All the women I was dating or have come across are mid 30's to mid 40's. No one under 30. So close to my age. I am single/childless. No marriage in my lifetime. I live in a Condo. Even though I am 47. I usually get age 34-36. I was born in 1971. So for me, I think its that I am Shy and asking out a woman. I want a lot of prep in my mind. I see all sorts of people in different age ranges. Its hard to Date same age. So in a nutshell. 30/40 something. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 19, 2018 Share Posted June 19, 2018 When I look at my friends. In particular the male friends. Their main woman that they have been long term came to them for the most part. This is where you are shooting yourself in the foot. We women are not wired to go after men. You should not limit yourself to one modus operandi and be open minded to meet online, in real life, through friends, etc. I think I read somewhere you are Canadian, so am I. In our country we have a different life style with 5-6 months out of the year being stuck inside with very little opportunity to come across someone randomly. I am in Qc, not sure about you, but in my Province forget about men approaching a woman cold, it will not happen! I was single from age 40 to 48 and I may have been approched 2-3 times top even if I am a good looking woman. When I was online dating I'd get 3 dates a week no problem and met over 200 men. So looks has never been an issue. In my case attracting a genuine man seemed impossible. Eventually I did because one of my character trait is when I want something I work till I get it even if it kills me so 200 dates later I met my prince charming. Back to looks. You like what you like and there is no justifying it, eventually you will find that perfect little miss next door and she will think you're the hotest thing around even with all of your imperfections. Link to post Share on other sites
DrReplyInRhymes Posted June 19, 2018 Share Posted June 19, 2018 I feel this humorous video is a great fit for this thread, It had me and my buddies laughing hysterically to what he said. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vwbKYcBdVyk Link to post Share on other sites
Chilli Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 I agree but this is what gets men in trouble. They are happy just to be with an attractive woman in his life and they are shocked when one day they wake up and she is sucking the life out of him. l dunno , l can't bel;ieve that mentality and l'd find it hard to believe any guy with half a brain would marry somebody just because of looks, but then l'm not in the US , maybe they do there. Sounds like suicide to me though and a recipe for a pretty miserable life down the track. But eh, whatever floats the boat l guess , good luck to em. Link to post Share on other sites
Chris2016 Posted June 30, 2018 Share Posted June 30, 2018 (edited) This is where you are shooting yourself in the foot. We women are not wired to go after men. You should not limit yourself to one modus operandi and be open minded to meet online, in real life, through friends, etc. I think I read somewhere you are Canadian, so am I. In our country we have a different life style with 5-6 months out of the year being stuck inside with very little opportunity to come across someone randomly. I am in Qc, not sure about you, but in my Province forget about men approaching a woman cold, it will not happen! I was single from age 40 to 48 and I may have been approched 2-3 times top even if I am a good looking woman. When I was online dating I'd get 3 dates a week no problem and met over 200 men. So looks has never been an issue. In my case attracting a genuine man seemed impossible. Eventually I did because one of my character trait is when I want something I work till I get it even if it kills me so 200 dates later I met my prince charming. Back to looks. You like what you like and there is no justifying it, eventually you will find that perfect little miss next door and she will think you're the hotest thing around even with all of your imperfections. This might be a topic for a thread ... but what came first, idealized prince charming, or 200 dates then realistic prince charming? So, meaning the guy at date #200 had a chance, versus the same guy at date #1 would have been ignored. I'm thinking like my job searches. After I got laid off, I was aiming high, but the market didn't want me, though I had years of experience. So, 6 months and several interviews later, I landed a job, with a reputable company with hopeful longevity. It isn't ideal, but I'm working again. I'm hoping I can grow my way through the ranks. I'm approaching/starting to think my romance life like that, though I'm not active. I can at least get my mindset on what seems like a right path. That's why I think for people who struggle (whether you're attractive or not, have a good personality or not), be proactive, go and get rejected (or not), and see where you stand. That way you don't skip people who could potentially be right for you. I think I should add, getting rejected doesn't only set you straight (it's not just about you), but it also hopefully lets you not take too seriously and forget about the folks who seem to continuously be single. Edited June 30, 2018 by Chris2016 Link to post Share on other sites
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