leon123 Posted June 23, 2018 Share Posted June 23, 2018 I have always been curious why women in their later years come out. This by itself doesn’t really surprise me, but in the vast majority of cases, these women have left long-term marriages or heterosexual relationships. I would be interested in others views on this. Thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 23, 2018 Share Posted June 23, 2018 I have always been curious why women in their later years come out. This by itself doesn’t really surprise me, but in the vast majority of cases, these women have left long-term marriages or heterosexual relationships. I would be interested in others views on this. Thank you. I think most them are simply bi-sexual or pansexual. I know of two women (I only know one personally, the other is a friend of a friend) who were married to men and then after divorce entered into a serious relationship with a woman. One of the couples got married. Both of those women (the new partners) are now becoming men! Link to post Share on other sites
DKT3 Posted June 23, 2018 Share Posted June 23, 2018 I think female sexuality is something many grow up being shamed for, and that isn't only lesbian women. So naturally there has to be a level of IDGAF in them to come out. Many aren't comfortable with their sexuality until later in life again not only lesbian women. A great number of women have sexual awakening later in life because of those factors. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Shanex Posted June 23, 2018 Share Posted June 23, 2018 I think most them are simply bi-sexual or pansexual. I know of two women (I only know one personally, the other is a friend of a friend) who were married to men and then after divorce entered into a serious relationship with a woman. One of the couples got married. Both of those women (the new partners) are now becoming men! My personal experience endorse your point. I could go further and point out that quite a few men a secretly bi as well. I don’t know how many but some come out of the closet which is easier to do these days. And no I have only watched Brockback Mountain a time or two. I don’t have an answer either as to whether we are born bi or gay. I’m guessing our sexual identity may change over time... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author leon123 Posted June 23, 2018 Author Share Posted June 23, 2018 How many of these women are looking for affection they don’t feel they have and the understanding of a woman as opposed to being truly lesbian. Very confusing. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted June 23, 2018 Share Posted June 23, 2018 I think female sexuality is something many grow up being shamed for, and that isn't only lesbian women. agree with this strongly. I'm not lesbian, but I *am* a woman of a certain age, who realized in my early 40s that I didn't have to live up to anyone's expectations by my own. And that was incredibly freeing. now, for someone who has been closeted for fear of being shunned, shamed or losing her her family, I can imagine when she reaches that point, it's doubly that feeling. Especially if she's done all the things to live up to others' expectations (marriage, kids) ... when she comes to this realization, she can live out her life honestly, without lying about who she is. just my 2 cents q 1 Link to post Share on other sites
major_merrick Posted June 23, 2018 Share Posted June 23, 2018 As others have pointed out, there's the aspect of female sexuality that has been shamed, the "other-ness" of being bisexual or lesbian that can be uncomfortable, and the lack of knowledge of oneself. Also, I think that as women get older they become dissatisfied with mediocre PIV sex and lackluster relationships with men. So the grass must be greener on the other side of the hill... And finally, the biological clock. Just because you are lesbian or bisexual doesn't mean your ovaries turn off. That's a pretty powerful drive. I'm mostly lesbian except for my husband, the one guy I've had a sexual connection with. The thought of not having kids drove me crazy for years. While my current pregnancy process is kinda miserable, there's an aspect of it that is hormonally/biologically Soooo satisfying that I know I'm going to do it again if I can. Even if you never have kids, there's an aspect of hope that probably doesn't go away until menopause. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted June 23, 2018 Share Posted June 23, 2018 what is PIV sex? Link to post Share on other sites
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