Tristate1234 Posted June 24, 2018 Share Posted June 24, 2018 Hey guys, Here's the link of my previous post https://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/658176-2-months-strict-no-contact-after-months-limbo-after-break-up#post7578750 So after almost 3 months of NC, she reached out to me 2 days ago on social media replying to one of my stories. I texted her back the next morning and asked her how are you, we exchanged 2,3 texts asking each other how each other has been. Then she didn't respond for a day now after my last text (just a short how've you been text) Now I'm really confused, I think I should still stay in NC. Is she playing game now or what? Thanks for your advice! Link to post Share on other sites
Lotsgoingon Posted June 24, 2018 Share Posted June 24, 2018 There's nothing to be confused about. So reached out ... so what? ... You can't have a relationship based on someone occasionally reaching out. You will know a relationship is good for you ... when you do not feel confused. Another guideline that has helped me. If the person's interest isn't OVERWHELMINGLY CLEAR, then they're not interested. Ambivalence and mixed messages = no, they're not ready, not interested, whatever. Keep going with your freedom. Don't let this out-of-the-blue contact derail you. Link to post Share on other sites
TunaCat Posted June 24, 2018 Share Posted June 24, 2018 There's nothing to be confused about. She wanted to check and see if you are still on her hook so she could reel you back in on her own whims. It's a breadcrumb and you fell for it. Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted June 24, 2018 Share Posted June 24, 2018 Yep, breadcrumb and you bit. NC is on you not her. Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted June 26, 2018 Share Posted June 26, 2018 3 months NC is when my ex reached out with a meaningless text just like your contact. It was too soon for me. I reacted and it lead to more wasted time. I suggest you leave it alone unless she reaches out with more substance and she shows a lot of initiative. Right now you have neither of that from her. She knows you're there and open to communicating. Don't chase. Link to post Share on other sites
Mac0908 Posted June 28, 2018 Share Posted June 28, 2018 (edited) Breadcrumbs 101 She was bored, lonely, wanted to see if you'd take some bait. You took the bait, wrote something boring like asking how've you been. SHE then got bored and subconsciously realized she got her validation and bailed. Welcome to the wonderful world of insecure single women. She didn't text you personally. She threw an ultimate type of breadcrumb with a social media move. Next time don't DARE bother with "chit chat" when it comes to an ex. if you are in fact looking to rekindle possibly, you simply say hello, maybe write one or two things MAX, then ask her when she's free to hang out, and see her response. That cuts through all the BS and sees if she's for real or not. End of story and you just saved yourself type and the confusion that you're going through right now. But the reality is there is no confusion. She wanted nothing more than some attention. In an additional note and response to your original thread about this woman (these two threads need to be combined btw) I will tell you that you absolutely need to remove this person from social media. You are only hurting yourself. She'll continue throwing breadcrumbs and you'll continue to delay your process of getting over her. You should have never went to that concert with her. You fell into the friends zone by doing so as well as letting the game between you two go on for as long as you did. Seems like you got WAY too needy. The second a woman pulls the lets just be friends card, you tell her you're not interested in that and you bow out unless she changes her mind about going on a legitimate date. Move on. Stay NC for good now. Edited June 28, 2018 by Mac0908 Link to post Share on other sites
Beachead Posted June 28, 2018 Share Posted June 28, 2018 (edited) Hey guys, Here's the link of my previous post https://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/658176-2-months-strict-no-contact-after-months-limbo-after-break-up#post7578750 So after almost 3 months of NC, she reached out to me 2 days ago on social media replying to one of my stories. I texted her back the next morning and asked her how are you, we exchanged 2,3 texts asking each other how each other has been. Then she didn't respond for a day now after my last text (just a short how've you been text) Now I'm really confused, I think I should still stay in NC. Is she playing game now or what? Thanks for your advice! She's stroking her ego by checking to see if she still has you hooked. Now that she knows the answer, it satisfies her curiosity, and she's back to doing her thing. You are training wheels on a bike. The fact that she can do this shows she has no respect for you. Don't respond to her breadcrumb attempts again and stay in NC. She is a waste of time. - Beach Edited June 28, 2018 by Beachead Link to post Share on other sites
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