mortensorchid Posted June 29, 2018 Share Posted June 29, 2018 Today I was chatting with a coworker at my summer job. I keep a very wide distance between me and coworkers - I don't share anything about myself that is not work related, but I digress. She mentioned something about her bf / fiancé who works a 3rd shift job. They live together, they work/live on opposite schedules. Instead of seeing each other every morning they see each other at night at dinner, then he goes off to work and she goes to bed. She said they had been together for about 3 years and as long as she has known him he has worked 3rd shift and it's always been like this. I asked her, not that it's any of my business but out of curiosity, if he has been working 3rd shift for as long as they had known each other (he works at a 24 hour Wal-Mart), how did the two of them ever date? I did not ask how they met (maybe it was online?), but you would have to eventually meet face to face to date let alone get engaged / live with someone, right? She said they did it very carefully. She would have to juggle her schedule and so would he in order for them to be able to do anything together. I was blown away by this information. I mean, that's really a dedication. And it made me feel really annoyed. Not that it has anything to do with them specifically, but I could not help but think of all the idiots I and other friends have been with who wouldn't even bother to make the smallest commitment and to think that these two are/were in this situation. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted June 30, 2018 Share Posted June 30, 2018 She said they did it very carefully. She would have to juggle her schedule and so would he in order for them to be able to do anything together. I was in the bar/nightclub business for years and my GF (now wife) was a teacher. And I'll just say for us, absence made the heart grow fonder. We learned to prize the time we did have together and really focus on enjoying each others company. With the current prevalence of TV, Internet and smartphones, I'd guess we had as much quality time together as many new couples have today ... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Chilli Posted June 30, 2018 Share Posted June 30, 2018 What you say just sounds like everyone that posts here. It's like breath wrong and they're off and it's next and it's don't waste time and it's bla bla , but that's not reality. Couples go through all kinds of crap and usually many sacrifices , that's life , that's reality. So it's nice to hear someone around here understanding a little bit about commitment and real life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted July 2, 2018 Share Posted July 2, 2018 I've been working 3rd shift for the better part of 15 years or so. It really makes forming a meaningful relationship difficult. The girl I am seeing now, she works at the local hospital and asked to be put on 3rd shift herself to make things easier for us. Now we are both vampires. Good news is, the lack of sun keeps your face looking pretty young. Not necessarily. I got home at 9am the other day, started drinking, and got ten hours outside, sunny and 100F. I finally went to bed after 26 hours awake. Needless to say, I was burnt and felt like crap the next day. To OP, 3rd shifters get days off like anyone else. I do ten hour shifts, so work four days a week. Been managing it for six years, same amount of time I've been with my H. I absolutely can't take more than 4-6 hours a day one on one with anyone, except my patients, and that's $$ driven. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 2, 2018 Share Posted July 2, 2018 I would think the third-shift people would be a nice dating pool if you also worked third shift. It's a lot of healthcare givers, ENT, police, firemen. I think if someone was having trouble dating, it might be a good thing to try, get a third-shift job and tap into that crowd Link to post Share on other sites
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