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[Treacle2786]

Hi Guys,

 

I am new here and I am in need of some advice and I could think of nowhere better than from people with whom I have never met, simply because friends and family seem to be a little biased with advice.

If you feel you need to judge me for anything I might say that is fine, I can take it, I just really need some help with what to do.

 

So, 9 years ago I met a guy, who actually turns out I went to school with, for some reason we never crossed paths until a few years after we left school he sent me a request on Facebook. We met shortly after that and well, one thing led to another. It was brief and soon after that he had a girlfriend, things for him did not work out and we ended up being with each other again, he would come to my house often and we even went out on a date. Then one day I asked him to stand out the back while my Mum came to visit, simply because I did not want her to embarrass him or jump to conclusions that we were together.. Turns out, much to my dismay (something which I learned of only a month ago) was that he thought I had another guy in the house.. when I cleared that up with him, he told me I should have just introduced him to my mum and things might have been different. Back then, I felt so hurt I upped and left to go to Holland for 4 years.. He never left my thoughts but back then we had an argument and he had blocked me. After 4 years had passed I returned home to the UK and we started talking again, this time I was with someone and so was he but him and I did flirt a little, but nothing came of it, I would never dream of cheating, even though I am aware that even flirting is wrong. Long story short, New year's day just gone, he found out that one of the guys I had been with before was a mutual friend of ours (something I didn't know) and completely flipped, thus telling me that he had to stop talking to me, in order to "save his relationship" but still continues to tell me how bad his girlfriend treats him... 6 months down the line, he loses his father and contacts me about it, I go to the funeral as support and we have been talking ever since, he even came to my house to pass me some Liverpool shirts because mine had been stolen, his girlfriend knew about this but still continued to belittle him and be so cruel down the phone. We've had numerous long chats about how I feel and he seems to acknowledge that I am hurting, some days he is a flirt, other days he can be quiet and ignore me and then proceed to tell me that he has his life and he is staying where he is... I am sorry to have rambled I am just trying to give you a little insight of what's going on. Truth be told, I fell in love with him the first time I laid eyes on him, I was 23... I am almost 32.. If you guys have any questions please don't hesitate to ask me, it might make this all the more clear, thank you for taking the time to read and respond to this.. ♥

[d0nnivain]

For whatever reason you two can't seem to make this work. Perhaps it's time to stop trying.

 

I do think it's a bit ridiculous that you shuffled him into the back yard rather than introduce him to your mom.