I am angry and depressed

[MarcoInaros]

I think I feel this way because I have a very small social network. RIght now I have one friend, and a few aquaintences. My job, which I hate, has erratic hours and pays nothing and I don't have the time or energy to exercise. I live in a rural area and have no one to hang out with and my truck uses too much gas. I have never had a girlfriend, intimacy, warmth, or anything. The girls I meet are far and few between and they avoid me. Life is cold and pointless and meaningless, we only exist because we are biologically predisposed to survive. I am too filled with bile and anger to feel happiness anymore.

[JS17]

Take a look at some of the threads here on depression, social anxiety, and CBT. There are ways to learn about how to help yourself without spending a fortune on therapy. Do you have any hobbies? That might be a good way for an introverted person to meet people.

[tanbark813]

You, my friend, need EverQuestII.

[MarcoInaros]

Videogames are the last thing I need. I used to play them but I cannot think of a more antisocial activity.

 

Sure I have hobbies. Hobbies like mountain biking, hiking, reading, and other interests. But I just never have met anyone to enjoy them with. And it seems as if no one really wants to be around me. I seem to fail at interpersonal communication. I think this is because I do not like to disclose very much about my life to others because my life is an abject disaster. Therefore I do not inquire into other peoples lives, because I do not want them to inquire into mine.

[Zephyr45]

Ick... I'd recommend World of Warcraft.

 

Since your post was all rant, I don't know what kind of response you are looking for lostjeff. You want help? Advice? Wise ass remarks?

 

I'll say this. You want more friends, a better job, better life? To be happy? Well making more friends, trying to get "promoted" to a better job, or moving is not going to make you happy because people will run from the hills when they sense your angst. You gotta change that first, then the friends, job, life will come.

 

You gotta begin by changing your mindset, your internal thoughts. Keep them positive and eventually you will begin to believe yourself. You control your destiny. At the moment, you are controlling it down the wrong path.

[MarcoInaros]

So you are suggesting that I should be happy regardless of my situation in life?

[Zephyr45]

I'm suggesting that if you change your mindset (which may include "being happy") then you can change your situation in life. How are things working out for you being angry? Is it helping make it any better?

 

There are any number of books that may help you turn things around and I suggest you hit up the nearest bookstore or Amazon and consider picking up a few. I'd recommend reading "Reinventing Yourself" by Chandler.

 

As the book starts by asking, I'll ask, "Are you an Owner or a Victim"? You've been either an owner of the human spirit or a victim of circumstances. What type of person do you think would respond to my post with that sarcasm? I'd imagine a victim. But that's ok. I've been one too, we all have been, especially Chandler.

 

Flipping through the book I found a highlighted quote you should consider:

 

"Some people use language to describe the lives they lead, and other people use language to create the lives they lead."

 

You obviously don't believe it, yet, but your mind/thoughts/attitude affects your situation in life more than anything else. Gotta start fixing things there before anywhere else.

[Merin]

Zeph makes some great points... please consider them.

 

It may also be a good idea to make an appointment with your Doc for a check up.

[MarcoInaros]

I'm suggesting that if you change your mindset (which may include "being happy") then you can change your situation in life. How are things working out for you being angry? Is it helping make it any better?

 

 

 

"Some people use language to describe the lives they lead, and other people use language to create the lives they lead."

 

 

No, it isn't advantageous to be angry over a situation. And it is not helping make things better. But by this line of logic I can choose whether to be angry or not, which is sometimes not the case.

 

If one has a festering wound, is it logical to feel pain? If one suffers a loss is it logical to feel sad? If one has endured failure after failure and is hopelessly behind his peers, is it logical to feel depressed?

 

Humans are not always logical creatures. We are not vulcans. And sometimes I feel as if life is agonizing and I feel incredibly irritable and feel like ranting.

 

Like when I see couples or groups of friends walking around, I just can't bear it, because I lack those things. Logically I should become content with being a loner, but I feel very depressed because that is not how I want my life to be like, without friends, or memories, or love.