Did she cheat on me ?

[vj9595]

Hello Experts,

 

My question is below..

 

I live in India and she lives in the US. There is a friend of hers who frequently visits her and they are pretty close. This was OK to me as it seemed pretty normal.

One day she told that they slept on the same bed. I was initially furious because it didn't seem normal to me but she convinced me that nothing happened between them.

Later I somehow got to know her Google password and checked her activity on Google and found the below!

At first, I was surprised to find porn in her search activity, as she was always against watching porn. I later came in terms with it as it is common these days.

 

Found these in the google search:

 

1.) Pussy licking and ****ing.

2.) Pornhub - few videos.

 

The second thing which completely shocked me was this.

 

1.) She searched if precum makes one pregnant.

2.) Is it possible to get an infection by spitting on Vagina?

 

When I confronted her via WhatsApp and calls she blatantly rejected that she watched porn. Later after a lot of persuasions, she accepted that she watches porn but denied having any relations with the guy.

 

When I asked her about other searches, she said, that her friend mentioned an incident to her and thus she searched.

 

She doesn't text me a lot. One time her guy friend blocked me for 2 days on her phone and she didn't do a thing about it. This was on the weekend and they spent time together in her apartment. I don't know what happened between them. She unblocked me on Monday and said that the guy blocked me for fun and was teasing her.

 

Please give your suggestions.

Edited July 11, 2018 by vj9595

[JDJ]

It sounds like she is not a very close friend to you if she allows you to be blocked like that. If it was me, I would just forget about her and move on.

[BaileyB]

Two problems here as I see it...

 

1). You think you have the right to search her phone/computer. That's an invasion of privacy and I would dump you for that alone!

 

2). She's not as invested in the relationship as you. If she is not communicating with you and this relationship is long distance, I don't see this ending well.

 

Time to end it and find someone local to date. You will be happier.

[d0nnivain]

In all likelihood there is something going on with the other guy. Since this is a long distance relationship for you two, yet you had so little trust you had to snoop, just end it. From far away if you have no trust you will drive yourself nuts.

[caveman621]

Maybe it's just me, but I don't understand how you can have a "relationship" with somebody over 8,000 miles away. How often do you see her?

[vj9595]

@Caveman621 we were together in India for 6 years later she's moved to US.

[usa1ah]

Simple answer, yes she is cheating on you.

 

Block her and move on.

[kendahke]

@Caveman621 we were together in India for 6 years later she's moved to US.

 

Operative word in that sentence is "were".

 

Apparently, you two in India is something she's moved on from. You should do the same.

[smackie9]

End the relationship and you will see she won’t fight you on that decision.....won’t even shed a tear.

[TheFinalWord]

You hacked her computer? That's way more psycho than her searching for porn.

[preraph]

Sounds like she's either having sex or thinking about it or almost having it (hence, the search). Either way, she doesn't live in the same country anymore, and things are out of hand now with you crossing boundaries and her doing the same. Time to stop trying to pretend you're still a couple.