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2 years you've been doing this? That is crazy, if you were expecting a relationship out this. Where is your self-respect? If you were okay with this casual arrangement, I would tell you to keep having your fun. But clearly, you're not, and you think it's more than it really is.

 

 

I would put money on it, yes.

 

I don't know how else to explain to you why he would go after her again - we have all told you that his level of anger is actually a reflection of how much he wants her and how much he is upset he couldn't have her. You are refusing to listen and keep asking the same questions over and over and over. We keep repeating the same thing.

 

Not sure what it is you're not getting here.

 

How can someone fall in love with whom he couldnt even talk properly? Thats what i dont get

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This so called resentment and annoyance ? And i mean you saying they had a relationship?

 

Noah I never said they had a relationship. What resentment and annoyance? You are hard to follow. Is English your native language?

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You have an arrangement, not a commitment. He can pretty much keep his options open. So you don't really have any real say over this girl he seems to be mackin on.

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Noah

Obviously, this really bothers you. It’s not healthy. I agree with everyone else that you have an “arrangement” and not a relationship. If you are okay with this, go with the flow, no expectations and no questions.

 

If it bothers and hurts you, which it does, spare your heart and find someone who will commit to you.

 

Stop questioning if he... why does he... why why why stop asking what he does and why he does it!

 

You’re not going to hear an answer you want because we are honest with you. We are not going to tel you he’s in love with you, he’s not looking for other women, etc.

 

Either you get that and accept it or I don’t know what else to say.

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How can someone fall in love with whom he couldnt even talk properly? Thats what i dont get

 

Who knows? It doesn't matter, really.

 

What matters is that he isn't in love with you. All this tedious dissection of why he does or says or feels X, Y and Z about her is irrelevant to the real problem here.

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Noah I never said they had a relationship. What resentment and annoyance? You are hard to follow. Is English your native language?

 

The irritation and anger he was displaying. ? No mine is Spanish

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You have an arrangement, not a commitment. He can pretty much keep his options open. So you don't really have any real say over this girl he seems to be mackin on.

 

What does mackin mean?

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Noah

Obviously, this really bothers you. It’s not healthy. I agree with everyone else that you have an “arrangement” and not a relationship. If you are okay with this, go with the flow, no expectations and no questions.

 

If it bothers and hurts you, which it does, spare your heart and find someone who will commit to you.

 

Stop questioning if he... why does he... why why why stop asking what he does and why he does it!

 

You’re not going to hear an answer you want because we are honest with you. We are not going to tel you he’s in love with you, he’s not looking for other women, etc.

 

Either you get that and accept it or I don’t know what else to say.

 

 

Ok so u believe he love's her? They never had any contact though and even now they dont. Plus separated..so woudnt his anger plus this non contact lessen his feelings?

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What is that you want to know here, OP? A bunch of strangers on an Internet forum can't tell you EXACTLY how your "boyfriend" feels about some girl he's been chasing. You're bombarding everyone with questions demanding answers and we can't give them to you, we can only offer an opinion. And I agree with the opinion that has been offered here - you're just casual and can't expect much from that kind of arrangement. So quit asking so many questions and think for yourself for a moment, to figure out if this is right for you.

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What is that you want to know here, OP? A bunch of strangers on an Internet forum can't tell you EXACTLY how your "boyfriend" feels about some girl he's been chasing. You're bombarding everyone with questions demanding answers and we can't give them to you, we can only offer an opinion. And I agree with the opinion that has been offered here - you're just casual and can't expect much from that kind of arrangement. So quit asking so many questions and think for yourself for a moment, to figure out if this is right for you.

 

I just want to know why you guys think he loves her?

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I just want to know why you guys think he loves her?

 

We have already answered this question, several times.

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We have already answered this question, several times.

 

Could you just list 1 point which can actually prove he does? Sincer amger and shutting her off makes it weird for.me?

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Could you just list 1 point which can actually prove he does? Sincer amger and shutting her off makes it weird for.me?

 

No. Just because it's weird for you and you don't accept it does not mean I am going to repeat myself again and again. I am not going to word it differently or change my response.

 

Please go back and re-read the thread. The answers to the questions you ask are all there.

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No. Just because it's weird for you and you don't accept it does not mean I am going to repeat myself again and again. I am not going to word it differently or change my response.

 

Please go back and re-read the thread. The answers to the questions you ask are all there.

 

How is sex with me and taking me out and stuff less than the bits and pieces hes had with her? We even smoke from the same cigarette

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How is sex with me and taking me out and stuff less than the bits and pieces hes had with her? We even smoke from the same cigarette

 

See there's your problem.

 

You shouldn't smoke.

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It means "hitting on", "pursuing", "going after".

 

Well ok. But do u think he can go back to her if she returns in his life again? As far as i know they separated last year and met again and now are separated again so ? Is it possible?

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See there's your problem.

 

You shouldn't smoke.

 

You couldnt answer my response so taking jibes huh?

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How is sex with me and taking me out and stuff less than the bits and pieces hes had with her? We even smoke from the same cigarette

 

Ok he doesn't care about her, he only wants you. Sex and sharing cigarettes are signs of eternal love and devotion. He probably hates that other girl.

I think that's what you want to hear and you won't relent until you hear it...

You sound very young, are you both still in high school?

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Well ok. But do u think he can go back to her if she returns in his life again? As far as i know they separated last year and met again and now are separated again so ? Is it possible?

 

Noah dear, this thread is going around and around in circles with you asking the same questions and us trying to give you the answers in 20-30 different ways. Please refer back to these posts to find the answers to your questions:

 

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5,6,10,11,15,17,21,27,29,31,33,34,37,38,40,44,47,48,49,51,52,65,71,75,79 and 84.

 

I hope this helps you.

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Ok he doesn't care about her, he only wants you. Sex and sharing cigarettes are signs of eternal love and devotion. He probably hates that other girl.

I think that's what you want to hear and you won't relent until you hear it...

You sound very young, are you both still in high school?

 

Why dont u explain clearly how he loves her as he never spent or gave her any of his time but spent time with me? He had declined to meet her too a couple of months back but my friend did say he remembered her asking for free time?

 

My english isnt great and i find hard to understand? He is 23 and im 21

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Noah dear, this thread is going around and around in circles with you asking the same questions and us trying to give you the answers in 20-30 different ways. Please refer back to these posts to find the answers to your questions:

 

Post #

 

5,6,10,11,15,17,21,27,29,31,33,34,37,38,40,44,47,48,49,51,52,65,71,75,79 and 84.

 

I hope this helps you.

 

I failed to mention but she asked if he was free in march i think but he said he couldnt join . But he told her how she asked him that.

 

So if he loved her so much he still didnt go to her back in march or feb i think but then got angry and resentful? This is what makes me confused

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You couldnt answer my response so taking jibes huh?

 

OK, sorry for the joke.

 

Here is your answer:

 

He's not that into you. Period.

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I failed to mention but she asked if he was free in march i think but he said he couldnt join . But he told her how she asked him that.

 

So if he loved her so much he still didnt go to her back in march or feb i think but then got angry and resentful? This is what makes me confused

 

I'm confused as well. You need to ask him that question. It might help you to get rid of that friend who keeps telling you everything he's doing. It is not helping your relationship with the guy you're having sex with.

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I'm confused as well. You need to ask him that question. It might help you to get rid of that friend who keeps telling you everything he's doing. It is not helping your relationship with the guy you're having sex with.

 

Do u still think he loves her?

 

I cant do that. They are really good friends and he lives with him as well.

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