GF waited a month to tell me she was raped.. But

[d0nnivain]

No, but you already know she's a normal girl.

 

When you defend yourself to your true friends OFF-LINE you say that she cheated on you & after you caught her cried rape. Not to beat a dead horse, but rape victims deserve compassion. Women who make false allegations do a huge disservice to the true victims.

 

Do not get dragged into the gutter to fight her games on her level.

[PRW]

After the rape occurred, she got back into the passenger seat with him and let him drive her to her car. Does this sound strange to anyone else?

 

 

She's supposed to walk back,...exposed to the streets,...after that? She probably figured it was safer to play it cool and get back to her car as soon as possible where she can get away. Clearly she could not fight off the guy if she "ticked him off" or she already would have and wouldn't have been raped.

Edited August 2, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[d0nnivain]

No, but you already know she's a normal girl.

 

 

Whoops. that should say she's NOT a normal girl.

[BillPaxton2424]

"In the meanwhile I would like to warn you to not add or message MY NAME and to block him if necessary. I believe to the best of my knowledge that this Facebook account is currently safe from further attacks from this person."

 

never got on her facebook once since I left... I think shes losing her mind.

[Thingsfallapart]

She is painting you black now...

This is the worst part of BPD

 

Usually when you walk away from a girl with BPD it triggers their abandonment fears so they will paint you black to anyone and everyone. You had basically caught her cheating (though it went further then she possibly wanted... maybe)

So now she is doing damage control to try and save her reputation, don’t be surprised if she starts making false rape claims about you also, as this is often a revenge tactic of BPD women... weather the storm Bill Paxton. And don’t be surprised if she attempts to re-engage with you in 3-6 months as sweet as butter because that’s another thing about BPD women - they always come back...

Edited August 1, 2018 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[Lorenza]

Hmm, so she didn't inform anyone about the rape, but no problem letting the whole Facebook know her boyfriend left her. What a disturbed person.

[PRW]

Hmm, so she didn't inform anyone about the rape, but no problem letting the whole Facebook know her boyfriend left her. What a disturbed person.

 

 

People on Facebook do that all day long.

 

 

Women not wanting to talk about their rape is rather common too.

 

 

Nothing unusual here.

[basil67]

Hmm, so she didn't inform anyone about the rape, but no problem letting the whole Facebook know her boyfriend left her. What a disturbed person.

 

It's not uncommon for women to announce on FB that their ex-boyfriend/husband is a tool. At times half my feed seems to people diagnosing their exes with one personality disorder or another. Totally normal.

 

It's also not uncommon for women to keep rape to themselves. Especially if they are blaming themselves for the rape happening. Totally normal.

[DKT3]

There are two issues here. 1) some are automatically convinced that there was a rape 2) OP is being attacked for a decision he made base on his GF clearly poor behavior (before and after the event in question).

 

Rape is horrible, yet his decision wasn't dependent on if she was or wasn't. Really, as far as he decision to end it, its irrelevant. So why are some banging him over the head with it.

 

How a woman reacts after has no standard baseline. Behavior can and will be all over the map. With that said, one would have to be blind to not admit the gf has been shady at best. If the claims are false (which is as likely as not) she is pure evil.

 

No one here knows, but as is normal per today's society guilty until you can prove your innocent.

[basil67]

If the claims are false (which is as likely as not) she is pure evil.

 

She had bruises on her neck. I would have been far more likely to believe that the claims are false if the OP said she had a history of loving auto erotic asphyxiation or BDSM. But he did not say this.

 

Some posters are saying that bruises after sex are normal but with the exception of kink, I can't see that significant bruising is in any way normal after consensual sex.

[DKT3]

She had bruises on her neck. I would have been far more likely to believe that the claims are false if the OP said she had a history of loving auto erotic asphyxiation or BDSM. But he did not say this.

 

Some posters are saying that bruises after sex are normal but with the exception of kink, I can't see that significant bruising is in any way normal after consensual sex.

 

How would he know? He wasn't her only sexual partner during their relationship. How is he supposed to know what kind of sex she has with the other men? Maybe that is her thing, sexually, a part of her she kept from him. She doesn't exactly have a history of being honest with him does she?

[basil67]

How would he know? He wasn't her only sexual partner during their relationship. How is he supposed to know what kind of sex she has with the other men? Maybe that is her thing, sexually, a part of her she kept from him. She doesn't exactly have a history of being honest with him does she?

 

I think the odds of her being into auto erotic asphyxiation and her long term boyfriend not knowing about it is very slim indeed. To me, those bruises say rape.

 

Apparently we will have to agree to disagree.

Edited August 2, 2018 by basil67

[Thingsfallapart]

Bruises on the neck could have been hickies or Love it’s or even make-up,

Op only saw selfie photos 3 weeks after

[Lorenza]

People on Facebook do that all day long.

 

 

Women not wanting to talk about their rape is rather common too.

 

 

Nothing unusual here.

 

You're right actually. I live in the before mentioned European capital of rape and now when I think about, I wouldn't inform the authorities if that happened to me either, those people who usually commit rape are protected and untouchable here. They don't even get deported.

But I wouldn't be all over social medias with my breakup either and don't consider it a normal behavior. That girl needs help. It was mentioned that she tried cutting herself and whatnot, I understand why the OP couldn't take it anymore.

[DKT3]

I think the odds of her being into auto erotic asphyxiation and her long term boyfriend not knowing about it is very slim indeed. To me, those bruises say rape.

 

Apparently we will have to agree to disagree.

 

Hold on, I'm not saying she wasn't raped. Unlike some others here, I only have what OP to go on. I'm not drawing any conclusions or assuming that I know what happened based on it. I didn't see the bruising, for all we know they could be hickeys, he didn't say they were hand prints or at least I didn't read that.

 

Again that really isn't the point, her behavior was poor and warrants him walking away long before the event. Couple that with her dating other guys while on vacation, yeah he is well within sound logic to dump her.

[NuevoYorko]

Bill

 

Have you checked her phone?

Is she suspicious with her phone?

Why should he do that? He's already got his plane ticket to leave and he's cutting all contact with her at that point.

 

Way to deal with a girlfriend getting raped. Catatonic and bruised is enough for me. But in the end it's best for all involved.