GF waited a month to tell me she was raped.. But

[BillPaxton2424]

When did you contact the guy and the professor?

That was an awesome idea

 

I messaged the guy a day after she told me his name. He blocked me. I made a new account and said I would be contacting his college if he blocked this one. He blocked me so I emailed his college. Used a burner email on her PC.

[Thingsfallapart]

Make sure you contact the guy and let him know what he is being accused of

 

I think you’ll find he is more than shocked and will tell you stuff you probably didn’t want to hear

[Thingsfallapart]

Wow Bill if she was Asian and not Italian I would think you were dating my ex

 

The guy blocked you which means that she warned him

 

If someone messaged me to say that I raped their girlfriend blocking would be the last thing I’d do I would want to talk about it

 

He has blocked you which means your girlfriend has been contacting him about you!!

[BillPaxton2424]

Make sure you contact the guy and let him know what he is being accused of

 

I think you’ll find he is more than shocked and will tell you stuff you probably didn’t want to hear

 

I contacted him already on facebook. He denies everything and threatened to call the police (lol) and interpol. And he posted on his wall that my profile is a "fake profile" and to ignore any messages from me.

[Gaeta]

Bill: Just go back home and don't get involved. You don't want to be picked up by the local police for false accusations and god knows what else. You are not in your country and you could get in a lot of trouble. In Italy things don't work like in the US. Just go home.

[BillPaxton2424]

Bill: Just go back home and don't get involved. You don't want to be picked up by the local police for false accusations and god knows what else. You are not in your country and you could get in a lot of trouble. In Italy things don't work like in the US. Just go home.

 

God you are so right...

 

Im scared now... jesus

[BillPaxton2424]

next thing I know im going to be having rough consensual sex with this guy in prison. Then I'll regret it in the morning and tell the guards I was raped.. Yikes..

[Thingsfallapart]

Yeah Bill Gaeta is right

 

 

I had a girlfriend like yours. Almost the same person. I was married at the time. I broke up my married and ruined my life for a BPD girl...

 

I’ve been in your situation before and struggled on for a long time because I thought it was love... looking back now I realised that I was a complete idiot and fool.

 

You’ve been lucky my friend.

 

Get a train to Milan and don’t look back. Block and don’t ever speak to her again.

[BillPaxton2424]

Yeah Bill Gaeta is right

 

 

I had a girlfriend like yours. Almost the same person. I was married at the time. I broke up my married and ruined my life for a BPD girl...

 

I’ve been in your situation before and struggled on for a long time because I thought it was love... looking back now I realised that I was a complete idiot and fool.

 

You’ve been lucky my friend.

 

Get a train to Milan and don’t look back. Block and don’t ever speak to her again.

 

 

 

I think... I'm falling in love with you now

 

lol jk

 

but thanks man. Helps to clear the head of this nonsense and realize she is the insane one.

 

thank god I didn't actually go through with my plans and move here to marry her. lul

[Thingsfallapart]

Talking from experience, get yourself checked because you’ve probably got something too. Chlamidia or the like... That’s why she won’t check because she peobably already suspects she has something...

 

Keep us all updated as to how it all goes with her

[BillPaxton2424]

Talking from experience, get yourself checked because you’ve probably got something too. Chlamidia or the like... That’s why she won’t check because she peobably already suspects she has something...

 

Keep us all updated as to how it all goes with her

 

Ill let you guys know once I arrive back in the the States lol...

[2much4]

It's horrible she was raped. No denying that.

 

BUT:

She hit you.

She left you alone in a foreign country to party with some strangers.

She put your health at risk.

 

Those are grounds for breaking up.

[BillPaxton2424]

Her parents refuse to take me to the train station and I am running low on money. Do I call the embassy?

[nospam99]

That’s why she won’t check because she peobably already suspects she has something...

 

Or KNOWS. I just caught up with this thread and HER whole story and apparent character STINK. She says she was raped. I'd love to hear the alleged rapist's side of the story. But of course I won't. No one on LS will. And the OP won't either. OP, get back to the US ASAP before you get your ass arrested. Get tested for STD and don't be surprised if you're infected. If you're infected, get treated. And you might consider picking women with a lot more personal integrity in the future.

[d0nnivain]

Her parents refuse to take me to the train station and I am running low on money. Do I call the embassy?

 

The embassy is not an ATM. Call your own parents or a good friend back home to wire you some money.

[Try]

Her father is seriously pissed at me for wanting to leave the trip early and go home.

she went out 3 nights afterwards with another "guy friend"

Even if you assume that she was raped by one of the men that she was with when she went out without you while on this trip with you, for her to afterwards (on the same trip with you) leave you at home so that she could go out 3 more nights with another "guy friend" would be enough for me to dump her. She dated other men on this trip and one of them raped her. She is not good wife material, and her father is a jerk for supporting her poor behaviour.

[Try]

Yes, I would tell my husband. But my husband wouldn't place the blame on me for getting raped. Nor would he ignore my state of mind the next day even if he was mad.

 

The OP admits that the next morning he was pissed at her for going out without him. I can't see him being in a supportive state of mind. What I can imagine is him blaming her for going out with her friends the night before.

If you read what the OP said, he was mad because she did not pick him up in the car like she was supposed to, thus leaving him in the streets in the middle of the night; that is a legitimate reason for him to have been mad. Add to this that she did not tell him that she was raped, and continued to go out with other men while on the trip with him, and your constantly attacking the OP for being upset does not make sense. He was not put on this planet to serve her, and he has every right not to accept being disrespected by her.

[Poutrew]

Her parents refuse to take me to the train station and I am running low on money. Do I call the embassy?

 

Dude, don't you have a credit card? put as much as you can on credit and then make the minimum payments when you are back stateside, if you have to.

[d0nnivain]

You may also be able to call your credit card & get an emergency one time increase

[BillPaxton2424]

It wasn't so stressful for the first 1.5 years. Then she became a different person and developed some mental illness. I tried to help her through it but she refused to get help from professionals. At the end I thought graduation from college would lift her stress and she would become whole again. But she is a narcissist and it was hopeless from day 1.

 

I am at the airport waiting to go back home so I made it out safely. Once I land in Texas I'm going to talk to somebody to make sense of all if the lies and then forget she exists.

[amaysngrace]

She has pictures of herself the morning after with horrible bruises all over her body, including her throat.

 

I was also present the following day and her demeanor COMPLETELY changed. Depressed, catatonic, etc.

 

All of this makes it sound like she was raped.

 

Honestly with the way you're being so heartless I wouldn't feel safe telling you either.

[mrs rubble]

All of this makes it sound like she was raped.

 

Honestly with the way you're being so heartless I wouldn't feel safe telling you either.

 

 

I agree. However having read the whole thread, OP elaborates on her other behaviours as well, it makes me suspect that she may be lying.

 

As a survivor of rape myself there were a couple of things that stuck out, my partner didn't believe me either, so I went willingly to the police station to report it, the police believed me and investigated I was also beaten up. The fact that she wasn't concerned in trying to prove what had happened to you is a red flag.

Secondly after I was raped, I was petrified to go anywhere in case I ran into him. I didn't go to work or leave the house for a full two weeks after the event and it took my months to start to relax again. Maybe my reaction was extreme, but I don't think I'd have been going out without my partner a couple of days later.

[usa1ah]

If you hadn't been so self involved the next morning....if you'd taken note of her mental and physical state.... you wouldn't be here crying about being traumatised.

 

You made your own bed, so sleep in it.

 

This is bull ****.

 

She was supposed to pick him up the previous night at 2 am.

 

She never called or anything. He gets a taxi a 3:30 am.

 

She doesn’t get back home til 4 am.

 

So the time he is waiting for her she is at the party still. He is mad because his gf that has cheated in the past has gone out with male friends and was mia. She could have worn clothes to cover up the bruises. OP said he saw them in the pics she took. So how the heck was Bill to know what happened?

 

The only thing he is complaining about is the fact that she lied and exposed him to STD’s. He has stayed with her this entire time helping her even though she has been lying to him. Then people here want to bitch at him for being upset that she exposed him to STD’s. Really.

[BillPaxton2424]

I left her place this morning and am in the airport headed back to civilization. Her entire family hates me and thinks I did something wrong by leaving... Lul. Literally the worst trip ever.

[basil67]

Bill why did you have unprotected sex with your girlfriend THREE TIMES when you knew she wasn't using contraceptives?