Got Rejected By A Girl In My Biology Class Today

[GuitarGuy7]

Today, I got rejected by a girl today in my biology class. And yes it did sting, yes it did hurt, it makes me feel bad about myself when I get rejected.

 

But despite getting rejected, I am proud of myself for putting myself out there, I feel proud of myself for showing my interest.

 

You see, just a couple of years ago, I wasn't even able to talk to girls at all, let alone ask a girl out. I was incredibly shy, I mostly avoided women because they had hurt me in the past, I bundled up my feelings of attraction towards women.

 

That all changed when I met a girl who I had a huge crush on, and I let her walk away because I was too scared to make a move. And that's what ultimately motivated me to get better.

 

And that's when I started to get out of my comfort zone and slowly but surely, worked my way into being able to hold conversations with pretty girls. And for the first time in my life, I was actually friends with a girl.

 

I was 21 years old when I asked a girl out for the first time in my life, a girl from Tinder. She didn't respond at all, and yes it felt bad. Since then, iv'e asked out 10 girls in my life on a date, 3 of them have said yes. The first girl I went on a date with wasn't interested in me, the second girl I wasn't interested in her, the third girl I figured out we are not compatible with one another.

 

And even though I have yet to kiss a girl nor have sex, I am making progress in my dating life. Slow but steady progress.

 

I now feel like if I like a girl, I can show interest in her and then ask her out within a couple of weeks of knowing her. Sure I may get rejected, sure I may get blocked or deleted from Snapchat (iv'e had that happen to me a couple of times) sure she may think i'm a creep or weirdo, but at least now I feel comfortable enough to ask a girl out.

 

 

So even though I have been rejected, I have succeeded. Because now I know she doesn't like me, I don't have to live with the regret of never knowing what could have been.

[basil67]

Thanks for the update. You're making great progress!

[nospam99]

Today, I got rejected by a girl today in my biology class.

 

Good for you for 'taking a swing'. I'm not going to ask what 'rejected' means. Just throw out an imaginary example:

 

Me: Hey Susie, got a minute? How would you like to meet for coffee at the cafe across Main Street from Uni Hall after classes tomorrow?

 

Susie: Sweet of you to ask. But I'm seeing someone. OR

Susie: Thanks but no thanks. OR

Susie: No thanks. OR

Susie: Not interested.

 

All are rejections and pretty much okay.

 

Susie: Who are you? OR

Susie: Are you talking to me? OR

Susie: Do I look desperate? OR

Susie: [hilarious laughter] OR

Susie: Get lost, creep! AND

Susie: or I'll get my boyfriend to beat the **** out of you. He's on the football and wrestling teams ya' know.

 

These rejections are 'noble failures' but no reason to get discouraged.

[alphamale]

So even though I have been rejected, I have succeeded. Because now I know she doesn't like me, I don't have to live with the regret of never knowing what could have been.

 

rejection brings you one step closer to "the one". time to move on to the next girl...

[Mysterio]

Its her loss. You sound like a great guy from what you write here. You can not let it get to you.

 

All I see you is she probably rejected you for physical looks. Real Rejection = going out with you and building a life for at least 5 yrs and having kids, then pulling the plug and her going to another man, with out thinking it out and no major gripe against you. Thats rejection.

 

You were really not rejected. Life has better plans for you. Good for you for trying. I almost feel like for the most part. Most men if we are looking at men. Should just live their lives and unless she is trying to connect with him. Let the ladies come to you.

[GuitarGuy7]

 

All I see you is she probably rejected you for physical looks. Real Rejection = going out with you and building a life for at least 5 yrs and having kids, then pulling the plug and her going to another man, with out thinking it out and no major gripe against you.

 

 

Probably true.

 

I really do put in a lot of effort into fitness. I probably work out 4 times a week at least, I do mostly weight lifting but a little bit of cardio. I try to eat healthy as well. I don't drink alcohol that much, I don't drink soda, I don't eat a lot of sugary foods, I eat pretty healthy to be honest. As a result, i'm thin but i'm pretty athletic.

 

I put more effort into my fashion than I used to. I try to dress nice and put on good clothes every time I show up to school or go to events where I know I will be seeing people. I also get a haircut more often and have been using style on my hair.

 

I do all of this to improve my physical appearance but at the end of the day, it's never going to change the fact that I am only 5 ft 3 and have just an average looking face and i'm thin but i'm athletic. And because of my abnormally short height, I am at a disadvantage compared to my taller friends. And nothing I can do, will ever change my height.

 

I try so hard for it not to bring me down, it's just that iv'e wanted a girlfriend so bad for so long, and when women ignore me and treat me like i'm nothing, it hurts so bad.

[JustGettingBy]

 

So even though I have been rejected, I have succeeded. Because now I know she doesn't like me, I don't have to live with the regret of never knowing what could have been.

 

Keep this mentality. Focus on the ones you still have a chance with.

[preraph]

Everyone gets rejected a lot. Do what Enigma says and flirt only with the girls who seem to be paying attention when you're talking to a group of them of who smile at you and just don't seem like they're avoiding you. Those are who you have a chance with.

Edited July 24, 2018 by preraph

[GuitarGuy7]

Everyone gets rejected a lot. Do what Enigma says and flirt only with the girls who seem to be paying attention when you're talking to a group of them of who smile at you and just don't seem like they're avoiding you. Those are who you have a chance with.

 

 

I get what you're saying, I need to do a better job of screening women to determine whether they're attracted to me or not. Obviously, it's a lot easier for me to tell when a woman ISN'T attracted to me because this is the majority of women I meet. Although I hear this is fairly normal for a typical guy. Iv'e only asked out 10 women in my life, 3 have said yes. That means if I were to ask out 100 women on a date, then surely at least 10 of them would say yes. And then maybe 3 of them want to see me again, and I end up hooking up with 1 of them. Dating is all a numbers game.

 

 

Not to mention that women never approach me first, so that's why I learned how to be able to talk to girls. Because if I didn't, then i'd never get anywhere with women. Being passive in regards to dating is a luxury that I wasn't blessed with. If I want a girlfriend, then I have to work, because it will never be handed to me like it will for some people.

Edited July 24, 2018 by GuitarGuy7

[preraph]

I get what you're saying, I need to do a better job of screening women to determine whether they're attracted to me or not. Obviously, it's a lot easier for me to tell when a woman ISN'T attracted to me because this is the majority of women I meet. Although I hear this is fairly normal for a typical guy. Iv'e only asked out 10 women in my life, 3 have said yes. That means if I were to ask out 100 women on a date, then surely at least 10 of them would say yes. And then maybe 3 of them want to see me again, and I end up hooking up with 1 of them. Dating is all a numbers game.

 

 

Not to mention that women never approach me first, so that's why I learned how to be able to talk to girls. Because if I didn't, then i'd never get anywhere with women. Being passive in regards to dating is a luxury that I wasn't blessed with. If I want a girlfriend, then I have to work, because it will never be handed to me like it will for some people.

 

I think a lot of guys are so focused on who they think is the most attractive girl in the room or group that they totally miss the one that's looking over at them or comes and stands nearby hoping to be acknowledged. I mean, back when I was young and going to music bars, I would sit back sometimes and just watch. So often I would see all the guys trying not to get caught watching the two hottest women in the bar and totally ignoring all the others. And you know, only the two hottest guys are going to get the two hottest women, so it's not good to do that.

[bradt93]

I think a lot of guys are so focused on who they think is the most attractive girl in the room or group that they totally miss the one that's looking over at them or comes and stands nearby hoping to be acknowledged. I mean, back when I was young and going to music bars, I would sit back sometimes and just watch. So often I would see all the guys trying not to get caught watching the two hottest women in the bar and totally ignoring all the others. And you know, only the two hottest guys are going to get the two hottest women, so it's not good to do that.

It would be nice though if the hottest women weren't so picky, because they never know, the hot guy could be a jerk and the average looking guy could be real sweet.

[bradt93]

I get what you're saying, I need to do a better job of screening women to determine whether they're attracted to me or not. Obviously, it's a lot easier for me to tell when a woman ISN'T attracted to me because this is the majority of women I meet. Although I hear this is fairly normal for a typical guy. Iv'e only asked out 10 women in my life, 3 have said yes. That means if I were to ask out 100 women on a date, then surely at least 10 of them would say yes. And then maybe 3 of them want to see me again, and I end up hooking up with 1 of them. Dating is all a numbers game.

 

 

Not to mention that women never approach me first, so that's why I learned how to be able to talk to girls. Because if I didn't, then i'd never get anywhere with women. Being passive in regards to dating is a luxury that I wasn't blessed with. If I want a girlfriend, then I have to work, because it will never be handed to me like it will for some people.

Maybe she wasn't single? it might not have been you.

[basil67]

Very well said. Can I like this post more than once? I would if I could. I think there should be a sticky thread here filled with the most useful dating advice, and I would add this post of yours to that thread.

 

I always ignored the hottest women in the club. Being another one of her lame lapdogs, telling her how hot she is while you hope she goes out with you is beyond terrible. Like you said, other ladies are watching. They see those guys getting shut down, and they won't be thrilled if they become the next girl Mr. Loser tries to go home with.

 

I always ignored the hottest girl in a group of friends and went for the cute, quiet one. Get a date without looking like a shallow loser and likely meet a better, more well-rounded girl.

 

I always did the same with men. It's worked brilliantly

[Mysterio]

I think that men are more attracted to women more than the other way around. I know very little women that are single. More guys in my circle of friends are single than the women.

 

Thats just my view. I think that GG is going to meet a woman, when he gets to a state of not really caring. Not going out there hunting for love. If you want to paractice, fine, but every woman out there for GG has to be in his mindset as practice, not major love love. I am no saying that GG is thinking that per say, but thats hoe it has to be, if GG wants to have lasting love.

[preraph]

I think that men are more attracted to women more than the other way around. I know very little women that are single. More guys in my circle of friends are single than the women.

 

Thats just my view. I think that GG is going to meet a woman, when he gets to a state of not really caring. Not going out there hunting for love. If you want to paractice, fine, but every woman out there for GG has to be in his mindset as practice, not major love love. I am no saying that GG is thinking that per say, but thats hoe it has to be, if GG wants to have lasting love.

 

I kind of agree, but what balances it up some is women want to play house a lot more than most men. That makes a lot of them get real.

[preraph]

It would be nice though if the hottest women weren't so picky, because they never know, the hot guy could be a jerk and the average looking guy could be real sweet.

 

Yeah, but there's always a hot sweet one. And the hot ones usually aren't bitter.

[preraph]

You know, if all the hottest women were totally not picky and would just do it with everyone, it would be like in caveman days when whoever had the most brute strength just ran off the others who were standing in line waiting for their turn.

[bradt93]

You know, if all the hottest women were totally not picky and would just do it with everyone, it would be like in caveman days when whoever had the most brute strength just ran off the others who were standing in line waiting for their turn.

I just wish they would look at a guy not only for their looks, but their personality and goals in life.

[GorillaTheater]

I just wish they would look at a guy not only for their looks, but their personality and goals in life.

 

 

I'm sure a lot of less-than-stellar-looking women feel the same way.

 

 

It's a tough ol' world.

 

 

And maybe a good reason to pursue those average-looking women, right?

[alphamale]

And maybe a good reason to pursue those average-looking women, right?

 

I've never slept with an average looking woman

[GorillaTheater]

I've never slept with an average looking woman

 

 

Well, me neither, but some guys aren't as blessed as we are.

[GorillaTheater]

Well, me neither, but some guys aren't as blessed as we are.

 

 

Wait, I take it back. There were a couple of girls back in the early days that I'm still kind of embarrassed about.

[Mysterio]

GG. I am just curious on how she rejected you. I know it may be painful to say how. I just don't get the big deal going out with a guy. Its not like anything is going to happen, beyond going out and having a good time.

 

I just wish more women would be open to going out more. Once they are in a relationship. Thats it. They won't be able to go out with guys anymore for the most part. Its just going out and getting to know a person. Nothing more than that. Romance/friendship may sprout from that.

[normal person]

I just wish they would look at a guy not only for their looks, but their personality and goals in life.

 

Most do. That's why women are attracted to ambitious, rich men and not poor, directionless ones.

[bradt93]

GG. I am just curious on how she rejected you. I know it may be painful to say how. I just don't get the big deal going out with a guy. Its not like anything is going to happen, beyond going out and having a good time.

 

I just wish more women would be open to going out more. Once they are in a relationship. Thats it. They won't be able to go out with guys anymore for the most part. Its just going out and getting to know a person. Nothing more than that. Romance/friendship may sprout from that.

No kidding and I see why some men turn gay or go to escorts, because they are sick of the BS. It's like you have to be perfect for the right girl to like you and that's not possible. A lot of women are very fickle.