Tallgirl91 Posted July 24, 2018 Share Posted July 24, 2018 Kind of might seem like a silly question but bear with me! I graduated college a little over a year ago and have been trying to maintain a group of friends that I had throughout all 4 years! I still feel pretty close with 3 of the 4 but I haven’t really spoken with the 4th one in a year. I reached out to her last June but she never reached out to me after that! Her birthday was in March and I normally text her happy birthday but this time I posted on her Facebook wall. My birthday was yesterday and she didn’t even wish me a happy birthday! You think it’s because I didn’t send her a text on her’s but posted on her fb? Maybe she felt it was too impersonal? Or maybe I’m just overthinking this? Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 24, 2018 Share Posted July 24, 2018 You did more than you needed to if she doesn't even remember yours or try to be friends. Don't worry about it at all. Link to post Share on other sites
IndigoNight Posted July 24, 2018 Share Posted July 24, 2018 If this person did not respond to you after you reached out, she may not want to stay in contact with you. If she did not acknowledge your birthday, there should be no expectation for you to make the effort to acknowledge hers. One of the harder lessons my daughter learned was that just because someone was a close friend at school, didn't mean it would last forever. Once she graduated, most of the people she believed were her good friends slowly vanished. They moved on with their lives, and so did she. People often change who they stay in contact with as their lives change. It's just part of life. Link to post Share on other sites
snowboy91 Posted July 25, 2018 Share Posted July 25, 2018 Over time, friendships die out if no effort is made on either side to maintain them. It's a little sad, but that's the nature of life and friendships. People drift in and out of your life, and you end up spending the most time with those who you consider important while others fall by the wayside. If you valued the time you spent together and want to bring back the friendship, it's worth trying to reach out again, but don't mention the lack of birthday message - you want to be positive! Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted July 25, 2018 Share Posted July 25, 2018 If she's like me, she may not have even seen the birthday reminders on FB. But yeah, I think she is drifting away. Let her go amicably Link to post Share on other sites
Ranja Posted August 2, 2018 Share Posted August 2, 2018 I wouldn't overrate it. It is sad but friendships also come and go. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted August 2, 2018 Share Posted August 2, 2018 Kind of might seem like a silly question but bear with me! I graduated college a little over a year ago and have been trying to maintain a group of friends that I had throughout all 4 years! I still feel pretty close with 3 of the 4 but I haven’t really spoken with the 4th one in a year. I reached out to her last June but she never reached out to me after that! Her birthday was in March and I normally text her happy birthday but this time I posted on her Facebook wall. My birthday was yesterday and she didn’t even wish me a happy birthday! You think it’s because I didn’t send her a text on her’s but posted on her fb? Maybe she felt it was too impersonal? Or maybe I’m just overthinking this? No, I just think she forgot your birthday. She's probably too busy with her life. Link to post Share on other sites
Malin889 Posted August 3, 2018 Share Posted August 3, 2018 Kind of might seem like a silly question but bear with me! I graduated college a little over a year ago and have been trying to maintain a group of friends that I had throughout all 4 years! I still feel pretty close with 3 of the 4 but I haven’t really spoken with the 4th one in a year. I reached out to her last June but she never reached out to me after that! Her birthday was in March and I normally text her happy birthday but this time I posted on her Facebook wall. My birthday was yesterday and she didn’t even wish me a happy birthday! You think it’s because I didn’t send her a text on her’s but posted on her fb? Maybe she felt it was too impersonal? Or maybe I’m just overthinking this? Birthdays are a great time to reach out to a distant friend... maybe try again, maybe she was just busy with life, starting a new job? (I assume because you said you all just graduated last year), who knows. Maybe call her instead of texting. If you're all such good friends I think calling is a great idea. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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