happywifehappy Posted July 24, 2018 Share Posted July 24, 2018 Me and wife have been married for a year, we were dating for about 2 years and decided to get married. So far we love each other and we care about each other a lot! My wife and I sometimes I say come from different world, she's very talented, very enjoying being at singing, dancing and be MC at public events. She's not popular by any means but she likes to be in public places for shows. Me on the other hand, I'm very quiet, like to just be myself before we were dating. I do go out but generally just having dinner and chit chat with friends that I know. When we were dating, my wife told me she would be doing public events on stage, I don't really have any issues with that. I know I'm not interested in it, but at least something she would enjoy doing and I don't mind to be there with her. She told me 2 weeks ago that she will be on TV doing a comedy series, it's a short one, her appearance would not be that much, but watching previous series, it's more of a comedy with close-ups of lady's physical body! She told me she'd avoid any scenes showing her physical body or even kisses from partners, but I don't know if there's anything she can do about that. I know there's nothing I can stop her, nor I want to stop her as this is something she enjoys doing! However, I can't get the mind off my head in terms of having someone else touching my lady! I know this is wrong as I know she knows who's the important half of her, but I can't help it. I just keep picturing the world is watching her, commenting her, and there'll be someone else touching her! Doing shows and MC I have no problem with, I just don't know why I'm so upset about this, I know this is not fair to her but I know nothing will stop her. Any advice would be much appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 24, 2018 Share Posted July 24, 2018 television shows & plays are fake. She would be acting. Yes, she is an extrovert who craves attention but she craves attention from a wide audience, not the person who is also acting & kissing her. Not everybody can be married to an actor for this reason. You must talk with her about your fears. Hopefully she can work with you to minimize them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author happywifehappy Posted July 27, 2018 Author Share Posted July 27, 2018 Thank you, I will try to talk to her. The fact is I know she's acting and it would be fake, however, just seeing that on TV would make me crazy! Maybe I'm just afraid of losing her, I dunno! Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted July 27, 2018 Share Posted July 27, 2018 From your posts in this thread I don't find any strong indication that you've made your opinions clearly known! You've just seethed and vented and worried about it in private but it doesn't sound like you've communicated anything effectively. I'd suggest you stop blathering about and deal with the situation responsibly by working on communicating just how damaging her behaviour is to your marriage. You should also be at peace and be prepared to make a decision about whether you want to stay married to someone in the entertainment industry. First, communicate effectively. Then, respect each other. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Poutrew Posted July 27, 2018 Share Posted July 27, 2018 No real advice here, just a point of view: I once dated an actress and she used the same 'fake' line on me when she saw how upset I was becoming when she told me she was going to do a stage play that involved 'simulated sex'. About how the scene she would be doing was establishing a 'persona' and how it meant nothing because it was just a job... I asked her this simple question: At the end of the day, who would be picking out the pubic hairs from between whose teeth - her or her persona? She never gave me a good answer, and just resorted to the 'actors get regular STD tests, so it isn't important'... yeah, right... Link to post Share on other sites
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