brokengirl85 Posted July 25, 2018 Share Posted July 25, 2018 Hi everyone!!! About one month ago, someone with whom I had a casual relationship that lasted three years (from 2012 to 2015) contacted me through a casual dating site we both visit daily. He started flirtatious, he winked at me, then favorited me, then messaged me all this is a period of weeks. Messages were just him talking about the past, and asking me questions, and me replying to him but not asking him any questions (after all, he was the one who ghosted me, so I don’t really want to know about his life, right?) Anyway, yesterday morning he stopped his flirtatious messages and just asked me about my status: if I’m single, seeing someone or what. I replied that I’m not dating anyone. He didn’t reply but he went online several hours. I know I should wait and see what he says next, if anything, but my question here is: should I continue being wary? Do you think he wants an ego boost and check whether I’m available or not? I’d appreciate your imput Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted July 25, 2018 Share Posted July 25, 2018 He's probably just looking for a hookup, and is checking other options as well. This has happened to me in the past....people who contact me out of the blue never changed, and they hope you haven't either......like they hope to pick up where they left off. NOT. Link to post Share on other sites
Doost Posted July 25, 2018 Share Posted July 25, 2018 He may want sex Link to post Share on other sites
Happy Lemming Posted July 25, 2018 Share Posted July 25, 2018 Why don't you message or call him and invite him out for coffee?? Meet at a time/place that is convenient for both of you and you'll have your answer. Talk to him in person, gauge his reaction. What do you have to lose?? The cost of a cup of coffee?? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl85 Posted July 25, 2018 Author Share Posted July 25, 2018 Why don't you message or call him and invite him out for coffee?? Meet at a time/place that is convenient for both of you and you'll have your answer. Talk to him in person, gauge his reaction. What do you have to lose?? The cost of a cup of coffee?? Id lose more than that. Because if he says no to my invitation I’ll feel really bad. I don’t know what his intentions are, why putting myself on the spot? He ghosted me three years ago and never again talked to me until now Link to post Share on other sites
CantTakeMySmile Posted July 25, 2018 Share Posted July 25, 2018 Id lose more than that. Because if he says no to my invitation I’ll feel really bad. I don’t know what his intentions are, why putting myself on the spot? He ghosted me three years ago and never again talked to me until now Then it looks like you have your answer!! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 25, 2018 Share Posted July 25, 2018 If he ghosted you years ago I don't know why you are even entertaining this guy. Even if you see him he will more than likely ghost you again after sex. I think he's just circling back around to see what options are open. He didn't ask you out on a date, did he? I'd block him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl85 Posted July 25, 2018 Author Share Posted July 25, 2018 Then it looks like you have your answer!! I I, yes. But at the sane time I’m wondering why he asked me if I had a boyfriend. He could have tried to invite me over for sex and that didn’t work who cares! I don’t know, maybe it’s more simple and I’m tangling everything in my mind Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted July 25, 2018 Share Posted July 25, 2018 If this guy ghosted on you why haven't you blocked/deleted him in the first place? He's a dbag. Don't respond to his messages. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brokengirl85 Posted July 25, 2018 Author Share Posted July 25, 2018 If he ghosted you years ago I don't know why you are even entertaining this guy. Even if you see him he will more than likely ghost you again after sex. I think he's just circling back around to see what options are open. He didn't ask you out on a date, did he? I'd block him. No, he didn’t ask me on a date or anything like that. He just wanted to know if I have a boyfriend or if I’m dating someone at the moment. When I replied, he did not reply back Link to post Share on other sites
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