d0nnivain Posted July 31, 2018 Share Posted July 31, 2018 I just dunno if to never contact him again or what like Exactly. You never contact him again. It's not that hard. First you delete & block because it's not like you know his #. Once it's out of your phone you can't call or text. Then you disconnect on all social media, unfollow, unfriend & then block. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author gracey123 Posted July 31, 2018 Author Share Posted July 31, 2018 He’s already blocked on everything except message. I’m not ready to do that yet lol. I dunno how to feel. I do miss how things were. I hope he changes for me I think. I’m back at the gym tomorrow. Hopefully will make me feel better Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 31, 2018 Share Posted July 31, 2018 if you are not ready, you are not ready. However, you won't be able to heal until you disconnect on that platform too. The choice is always yours. Pick yourself for a change. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ThreeRainbows Posted July 31, 2018 Share Posted July 31, 2018 You don't need his validation to know: you are beautiful. And you have the capacity to be every man's dream (just about!). All you have to do is love yourself first. This is what men love in a woman. Don't give more. Give less. They actually want to be the one giving. Don't be stuck up or anything, but show your value. Like another poster said (was it Gretchen?) "A man doesn't want a woman who loves him. He wants a woman to love." Be that woman. To do that, you need one thing: self-respect. YOU decide what behaviors you will and won't accept, and be picky about it. The strongest advice I can give you is to read a book on "boundaries." Not only will it protect you from getting hurt again, it's also the one thing men cannot get enough of in a woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gracey123 Posted July 31, 2018 Author Share Posted July 31, 2018 I didn’t feel beautiful with him. He only said nice things when he’d upset me. I just want him to see that he treat me wrong. He’s said so many times unprompted that maybe it’ll work but it won’t whilst he’s like that. I hope either him or someone else treats me right soon Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 31, 2018 Share Posted July 31, 2018 I hope either him or someone else treats me right soon You have to start treating yourself right. The rest will follow Link to post Share on other sites
ThreeRainbows Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 You have to start treating yourself right. The rest will follow This. When he sees you're no longer his fool, he will start thinking about his own behavior. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gracey123 Posted August 1, 2018 Author Share Posted August 1, 2018 I caught up with an old friend tonight. They agree. I need to love myself 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author gracey123 Posted August 1, 2018 Author Share Posted August 1, 2018 I’ve been invited on a date on Friday by an old old friend. Idk if going is wise. Link to post Share on other sites
CantTakeMySmile Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 I didn’t feel beautiful with him. He only said nice things when he’d upset me. I just want him to see that he treat me wrong. He’s said so many times unprompted that maybe it’ll work but it won’t whilst he’s like that. I hope either him or someone else treats me right soon This part makes me feel like you don't care if you are with HIM, you just want someone. Is that correct? Link to post Share on other sites
Author gracey123 Posted August 1, 2018 Author Share Posted August 1, 2018 This part makes me feel like you don't care if you are with HIM, you just want someone. Is that correct? No. I want him to change. Link to post Share on other sites
ThreeRainbows Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 No. I want him to change. I don't think you can really make him change. The best you can do is move on. Even if he did want you back, and wanted to change, a real lasting change would take over a year of working on himself. Do you want to wait that long? Otherwise, you can expect him to go right back to his old behaviors. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 You have to accept that he's not going to change. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gracey123 Posted August 1, 2018 Author Share Posted August 1, 2018 Feeling optimistic today. Got my date Friday so fingers crossed 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CantTakeMySmile Posted August 1, 2018 Share Posted August 1, 2018 Feeling optimistic today. Got my date Friday so fingers crossed He asked you out again? Link to post Share on other sites
Author gracey123 Posted August 1, 2018 Author Share Posted August 1, 2018 He asked you out again? No no. This is more of a catch up with a guy friend Link to post Share on other sites
CantTakeMySmile Posted August 2, 2018 Share Posted August 2, 2018 Going out win friends is a great idea! Enjoy! Link to post Share on other sites
Author gracey123 Posted August 2, 2018 Author Share Posted August 2, 2018 Just resonating that I do deserve better. And if he does want another try it’ll take a helllll of a lot to prove it. And I don’t honestly thing he has the clout to do it. I’m just trying not to think about him. Lol! Link to post Share on other sites
Author gracey123 Posted August 2, 2018 Author Share Posted August 2, 2018 Feeling really down today. I do miss him. Wish he’d change. NC will help. Link to post Share on other sites
ThreeRainbows Posted August 3, 2018 Share Posted August 3, 2018 Feeling really down today. I do miss him. Wish he’d change. NC will help. Yes it will. Good luck on your date tomorrow. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gracey123 Posted August 3, 2018 Author Share Posted August 3, 2018 I hope so. I hate this down lonely feeling. It’s so weird cos I haven’t cried once throughout this. Link to post Share on other sites
ThreeRainbows Posted August 3, 2018 Share Posted August 3, 2018 I hope so. I hate this down lonely feeling. It’s so weird cos I haven’t cried once throughout this. You really need to. That is why your progress has been slow. You need to get it out. Go listen to some sappy love songs that remind you of your ex for a few min, then when you're ready to cry, lay down and let it all out. Will help tremendously. Link to post Share on other sites
Author gracey123 Posted August 3, 2018 Author Share Posted August 3, 2018 Just wishing he’d text me and like want to try again lol Link to post Share on other sites
CantTakeMySmile Posted August 3, 2018 Share Posted August 3, 2018 Just wishing he’d text me and like want to try again lol I think most of us have felt this before! Just keep on keeping on!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author gracey123 Posted August 4, 2018 Author Share Posted August 4, 2018 He’s just text me saying he’s in a dodgy situation can I order him a cab. Link to post Share on other sites
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